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Food for Living: Attract What You Desire
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
“What you focus on expands, and when you focus on the goodness in your life, you create more of it.” — Oprah Winfrey
As human beings, it is hard to stay focused when life hits you hard. Imagine having bills to pay, and there is no job. Imagine being faced with a major challenge and you can’t help yourself. As humans, we all desire to have money; we desire to have love; we desire to succeed in life; we all desire to have the good things of life, but the reality of life is sometimes if not most times we don’t get what we desire. There are many ways to attract what you desire, but the most secure way of attracting what you want is by giving it out.
The law of attraction teaches us if you want love, give out love, if you want money, be generous, if you want happiness give out happiness, somehow these acts have a way of coming to you. According to Charlie Munger “To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people”
As human beings, so many factors affect how our life is shaped; our parental upbringing, environment, level of education, exposure, friends, associations. All these factors play a role because sometimes, we have an entitlement mentality thinking the world owes us some favours or opportunity, which in reality, it’s not the case, you get what you deserve depending on far you are willing to put in the work.
According to Jim Rohm, “Success is something you attract by the person you become.” Do you know there’s a huge difference between attracting success and chasing success? When you’re focused on attracting to success, you basically say to yourself “If I work on myself and take the right steps, good things will happen.” You’re not desperate or overly needy for a certain result to happen at a certain time. When you chase success, you focus way too much on the results, on what you want, without doing the work it takes to be deserving of success and attract it.
People who chase success are the types to get into get rich quick schemes, cut corners, and dive into projects that they end up quitting shortly after. Since they don’t have intrinsic motivation, they lost momentum as soon as things get hard. Don’t try to make money from your business, focus on creating a great product that solves a problem. Don’t try to build an audience, focus on creating the best content possible. Instead of trying to get people to like you, focus on cultivating a positive and cheerful vibe for the sake of it.
Life can be challenging, you may do all you need to do, but don’t get the desired result you need. Such is life, all you need is to trust the process. Life is such an unpredictable place to be, nothing is guaranteed. You have to live each day to the best of your ability and hope the universe will align with you.
To attract what you desire, you must have the amount of belief tied around your waist and chest. Believe in yourself if nobody believes in you. Life may not be going well for you, that’s normal because nobody has it perfect, we all have secret frustrations, the only difference is that some people don’t allow the vicissitudes of life to weigh them down by not wearing it on their face.
To attract what you desire. You must practice the act of gratitude. You can’t like prosperity and hate those who are genuinely rich. How can you attract what you hate? It’s quite unfortunate to see poor people who see the genuine rich people as the cause of their problem. When you celebrate the good things of people, it has a way of rubbing off on you. Isn’t it true that you can’t spray perfume on others without leaving some trace of fragrance on your hand? Moral: When you practice gratitude, you have a way of attracting more favors into your life.
If you desire any good thing, you must work towards it. If you have the desire of writing a book, get to work by putting your thoughts down, if you have the desire of getting good grades in school, take time to study, if you want to be a happy marriage, play your role, if you desire promotion at work, do your work very well. The universe has a way of meeting people halfway when you do what you are supposed to do. This is because working towards your goals increases your chances of receiving what you desire.
To attract opportunities in your life, you must eliminate doubts, fears, anxiety, resentments, and worry. The universe does not respond to hatred, sorry, procrastination, frustrations, and all forms of resistance. Do you know that whenever you speak the ground stamps it, the walls hear and the air carries it out? That’s why we are encouraged to speak positive affirmations into our life. Therefore, don’t get stuck on the small things. Focus on what’s important and how you can get what you want out of life.
Manifesting Your Affirmations
Don’t be afraid to say the things you want to achieve. Instead, use these positive affirmations as your motivation. For instance, your affirmation is about health, you don’t have to say, I will be healthy; instead, you can say, I am healthy. This way, you are already affirming that you are healthy.
To do this, when you wake up every morning, go in front of your mirror and say, I am beautiful, I can forgive and ignore, I can change for the better, I am one with God, I am loved, I am recognized, I am happy, I am a good father, I am a good mother, I am a good son/daughter, I love my family, I am wealthy. As you do this, try to remember that you also must implement your positive affirmations. Meaning, don’t just say these affirmations in your mind but you also must take necessary actions and make a move to get what you desire.
Another great of achieving what you want is to follow your heart. Your heart can never deceive you. Your heart is like your conscience. It speaks to you at different times of the day and only you can understand and interprets the lessons, information, and lessons it gives you if you truly know yourself. To do this, you must follow your intuition. The more you use your intuition, the more you build trust in your intuitive insight. Successful people make quick decisions by following their intuition.
In conclusion, you can attract what you want in life with powerful imaginations and putting in the work and practicing the principles above.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a mindset coach and public speaker. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
There’s no doubt that human beings by nature are insatiable. When we get one opportunity, we always look for another. When we attain one height, we always look for another accomplishment. Isn’t it true that the end of one mountain is the beginning of another.
However, I don’t think it’s selfish for anyone to dare to succeed.
Being ambitious doesn’t make one an opportunist or disloyal. It all depends on one’s perception or outlook to life. It’s just natural for one to dream big. It’s only ugly when the process one chooses to achieve his desires becomes dirty and nasty.
According to a former Nigerian presidential candidate and seasoned Economist, Mr. Peter Obi, “if you must be referred to as “Your Excellency”, then the process through which you arrived in office must be excellent”.
If you desire to be reckoned with on the journey of existence, you must be legitimately hungry for success. One’s hunger for success will facilitate the drive to accomplish great tasks despite daunting obstacles posing as challenges.
When one has this mindset, one will not be bothered by the noise which serves as obstacles and challenges along the way. Negative and weak minds are always concerned on why something won’t work. They tend to focus their energy and reasons on the obstacles facing them. But great and productive minds always focus their energy on the reasons why it will work. This is the spirit of an insatiable mind who is a goal- getter.
It’s instructive to note that we can’t please everyone. According to Bill Cosby, a famous actor, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” Isn’t it true that when you talk, people will still talk about you, when you don’t talk, people will talk about you, so whether you talk or not, people will still judge you, so, do what’s best for you. There’s nothing you can do to please human beings. Your best option is to live your best life.
To understand how the insatiable nature of man works, one must be oneself. You don’t have to “please” anyone. Be yourself, and don’t try to be like anyone just to curry favour. It’s important to note that when you are yourself, the people that matter will come through for you, and the people that don’t matter will gradually find the bearing in another space because those that truly care don’t bother and those that bother don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.
Life has truly taught me to focus on the important things of life as opposed to the mundane things. It’s truly sad to see people spending more time on the little things of life, and spending little time on the important things of life. That’s just a misplaced priority.
When you are yourself, the best people can do is to copy or imitate your style. They can never imitate your creativity nor can take your originality from you.
We live in a world or society where people don’t generally care or show empathy. Most people tend to live around themselves, their family, and close associates. They generally find it hard to lift a finger to assist others for reasons best known to them. Rev. Fr. Ejike Mbaka once said, “we live in a wicked generation”, re-echoing the voices of a lot of people of the world. Some people in authority just have criminal expertise in amassing wealth of opportunities meant for the citizens without thinking of the citizens they are meant to serve.
It’s worthy of note that not everyone will like you nor support your work, but when you find people who truly care about you; please hold them tight. This is because despite having family members you have shown love and compassion, they might not still appreciate you even if you lay your life for them, they will still find something to say. Again, this is the insatiable nature of man.
It’s okay for everyone not to like you, normalize living your life for God, yourself, family and those that care about you. If everyone likes you, you have a problem.
Did you know that you can get a new family from friends, strangers, and acquaintances? These sets of people might appreciate you more than your own family members. They might not demand or under appreciate you like your family members and close friends or associates. Any little support you give them will be highly appreciated. Their focus is to see you do better.
In conclusion, as you desire to succeed in life, never give in to failure until you have made your last attempt, and never make your last attempt until you succeed. This literally means whatever you desire, dream it, think it, say it, and believe you can achieve it. This principle is generally applicable to relationships, businesses, family, personal and professional development.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your and Unleash Your Destiny . He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
A federal judge in the United States, on Thursday, put a temporary block on President Donald Trump’s attempt to restrict birthright citizenship.
The ruling imposes a 14-day halt on the enforcement of one of the most controversial executive orders Trump signed hours after being sworn into office for a second term.
It comes after lawsuits were filed by a total of 22 states, two cities and numerous civil rights groups.
“This is a blatantly unconstitutional order,” senior US District Judge John Coughenour was reported as saying during the hearing in Washington State.
“I’ve been on the bench for over four decades, I can’t remember another case where the question presented is as clear as this one is,” said Coughenour, who was appointed to the bench by a Republican president, Ronald Reagan.
Birthright citizenship is fundamental to America’s national identity, with the 14th Amendment to the US Constitution decreeing that anyone born on US soil is a citizen.
It says, in part: “All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside.”
Trump’s order was premised on the idea that anyone in the US illegally, or on a visa, was not “subject to the jurisdiction” of the country, and therefore excluded from this category.
AFP
The Court of Appeal sitting in Akure, Ondo State capital has upheld the death sentence of Ramon Adedoyin, a prominent businessman and hotelier, for his involvement in the murder of one Timothy Adegoke, a former postgraduate student of the Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, Osun State.
Delivering the judgment on Thursday, the court affirmed the earlier verdict of the Osun State High Court, which had sentenced Adedoyin to death.
“The judgment of the High Court of Osun State stands. Adedoyin’s appeal is dismissed in part,” the court declared in part.
The Court of Appeal, however, set aside some aspects of the lower court’s orders, including the forfeiture of the Hilton Hotel and the order for Adedoyin to pay for the education of Adegoke’s children.
Furthermore, the court ruled that it had no jurisdiction to impose penalties outside the statutory provisions
Adegoke’s death was reported in November 2021 after his corpse was found at the Hilton Honours Hotel in Ile-Ife, Osun State, where he had lodged.
The hotelier had travelled from Abuja for an examination at a distance learning centre in Moro, Osun State on November 5 of that year.
He had checked into the hotel but was reported missing after two days. However, Adegoke’s body was found days later, leading to a probe that linked his death to Adedoyin and others.
In May 2023, Adedoyin and others were sentenced to death after they were found guilty of murder and conspiracy to murder.
But dissatisfied with the judgement, Adedoyin approached the Appeal court to dismiss the sentence and conviction.
The court of appeal, on Thursday, however, upheld the conviction and death sentence of the hotelier.
