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Food for Living: The Secret Behind Solving Other People’s Problems

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By Henry Ukazu

Greetings Destiny Friends,

As human beings, we all have problems, but what differentiates our problems is how we manage them. In the same vein, each of us have a secret frustration which no one knows.

According to some schools of thought, we have three forms of lifestyle; public life, which we exhibit when we are in public arenas, private life which only our family members and close friends know, and secret life which only us know.

We all harbour a form of guilt which we believe we ought to have handled or managed differently. In the same way, government agencies, private and non-for-profit organizations have problems they all battle with. Solving these problems can be a herculean task.

Every problem has a solution. Any problem that doesn’t have a solution is because the right person with the solution hasn’t arrived. I liken every problem or challenge to a door. If you have the wrong key, you won’t be able to open a door. It’s just like solving a mathematical problem, without the right formula, you’ll have a hard time arriving at an answer.

You may be wondering what the secret to solving a problem is. The answer is not far-fetched; it lies within you. This article is structured to assist any progressive mind to be selfless in addition to living for humanity.

In the global world, we are taught to know that in order to have money, you must solve a problem. Yes, it is true to a reasonable extent, but in reality, solving a problem can be relative. People like it when we solve their problems, we also feel good when we solve other people’s problems.

As human beings, we all have problems. These problems make us insatiable and blind to the needs of others. The question we normally ask ourselves is, how do we solve other people’s problems while having our problem living inside of us? That’s the crux of this article.

Problems exist around us; within our families, personal life and even in religious organisations. As human beings, sometimes we find it difficult living for humanity; we fail to understand that the joy of life is not how happy you are, but how happy others can be because of you. If you are creative enough to look around and solve the needs of your immediate environment, you may be surprised to know the recognition that will be accorded to you due to your selfless act. I charge you today to look around your environment and attend to that little problem you can conveniently solve without blinking an eye.

We all have friends who face different challenges. Sometimes we look at the other side of life just because we feel we have our concerns, but the reality of life is that we are doing ourselves a disservice by not assisting in solving the problems, especially when we have the capacity to do so.

The question now becomes, how do you solve a problem? You can do this by leaving yourself out and focusing on assisting other people. Don’t withhold opportunities to help people if you’re in a position to help. As a leader, use your opportunity to empower people and see how you’ll be remembered when you leave office. You will be surprised to see the universe will work in your favour. Isn’t it true that the joy of life is not how happy you are, but how happy others can be because of you.

The real secret of solving a problem lies in getting what you want faster. This always happens when you help other people to get what they need. It’s just like when you use your time, resources, talents, gifts and knowledge to mentor a kid, you’ll be surprised to know that the same kid you mentored yesterday may turn around to mentor your kid tomorrow and the cycle continues. Isn’t it true that when you spray fragrance on someone, you leave some fragrance on your palms? The laws of success vary. Sometimes your true success lies in helping other people to reach their peak. It’s always good to celebrate other people’s success because you never know, their success may be tied to your success.

If we are honest to ourselves, it can be difficult to help others while we are in pain, but then, when we do the little we can, the universe has a way of compensating us. You can solve a problem in several ways including sowing a seed. Then watch how the seed will metamorphose into something greater, tomorrow. Again, you can support someone by your words of encouragement, gifts, time and knowledge.

As you help others, you may not see or feel it, but you are helping yourself.  What most people don’t know is that you’ll get what you want faster when you help other people to get what they need. Try helping someone despite being in need or in pain yourself, and see how the universe will pay you back. For example, if you are believing God for the fruit of the womb, pray for other women in similar need. If you’re in need of financial success, try giving others even when you don’t have enough to pay your bills.

Sometimes the reason you can’t have your problem solved is because you need to solve other people’s problems. Today, I charge you to make a commitment to solving a problem by sowing a seed in someone’s life.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Food for Living: The Relationship Between Process and Failure

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By Henry Ukazu

Dear Destiny Friends,

One of life’s most misunderstood concepts is the relationship between process and failure. When some people fail, they think they have done something wrong, but it could be that the person is experiencing the process, or their season has not yet come.

To understand this concept, let’s explain the two terms. A process is a series of structured actions, steps, or decisions taken in a specific order to transform input into a desired output or goal. Here are the key elements of a process

  • Inputs: The raw materials, data, or starting requirements (such as ingredients, customer requests, or raw code).
  • Activities/Steps: The specific tasks or decisions performed by people, tools, or machines.
  • Trigger: An event or demand that kicks off the process (like submitting an order or launching an app).
  • Output: The result, product, or delivered service.
  • Owner: The person or role accountable for the outcome.

Failure, on the other hand, is the state or condition of not meeting a desirable, required, or intended objective. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, failure can result from any of the following:

  • Omission or Neglect: Failing to perform an action that was promised, owed, or expected (such as a failure to pay on time or submit a report).
  • System or Organ Malfunction: A situation where a machine, computer, engine, or bodily organ stops working properly (such as engine failure or kidney failure).
  • Insolvency: A financial state of bankruptcy, such as the failure of a business or bank.

Having stated the above terms, one can decipher that process is a necessary tool for success. When a process is lacking, failure is inevitable.

I recently listened to a sermon by a Nigerian Pastor. According to the pastor, there’s something that looks like failure, but in a real sense, it is not failure; it is process. Sometimes in life, when we fail in business, examinations, careers, marriage, or even when our health fails us, the reason why they all happen is that we have failed to do the needful, or we need to go through a process.

Let me explain. Let’s say one has a business; if one has not taken the time to learn the trade very well, the person might fail for not learning a necessary skill required for the business, acquiring formal or informal education, or having a form of apprenticeship from a mentor, which might be all that’s necessary for the entrepreneur to succeed. This is what is called a process.

Also, a student will need to read, research, and do assignments to pass an examination. An employee will have to learn a job as an entry-level employee and work his way through to become the Chief Executive Officer. All this involves a process.

Marriage is not an exception. There’s no successful marriage without a form of mentoring or training.  A man/woman must undergo a process of marriage counseling to learn about how to win in marriage. In this training, they will learn about communication in marriage, money in marriage, sex in marriage, money in marriage, and personalities in marriage

I strongly believe that there’s time for everything. There is an appointed time for everything. When something is not in its season, don’t expect to deliver.  When one puts pressure, it’s bound to fail.

I can vividly remember what my most revered mentor, Dr. Yomi Garnett, counseled me on the importance of patience. A little background about the case: at that time, I had no job. I was working as a security officer. I tried to use my connections to secure a decent job, but it was very challenging. I reached out to Dr. Yomi, whom I call the sage because of his scintillating and rational wisdom. After ranting to him about my litany of problems, he said to me, “Henry, if you like, meet President Obama, Trump, etc.; if God is not ready to give you a job, you won’t get a job”. He went further to say, you can’t rush God. When the time is ready, God will align everything for you.

According to my mentors, there’s something God and the universe want me to learn. I must go through some process of refining for the task ahead.  These refining processes might be preparing for the greater task by learning what needs to be learned, or it could be a case of God teaching me wisdom or something of value that will be useful to me in the near future which I may not be able to see now.

When I look back in retrospect, I can authoritatively say my mentor was right.

Sometimes in life, we prepare for the opportunities, while sometimes, we don’t prepare. We just learn on the job. But I honestly think it’s good to prepare before one embarks on any journey. That preparation is called a process.

To understand how the process works, do you know that if you plant corn in the season that is not the rainy season, you will believe it’s a bad seed, but no, that’s not the case because you planted the corn in the wrong season. Even the bible says there’s a time for everything.

Also, someone might finish university and become frustrated because he doesn’t have a job. What the person might not know is that their season is yet to manifest. It could also be that the student might need refinement, which comes with the process.

It’s instructive to note that when your season comes, nothing can stop it; there will be alignment, and the universe will work for you. What you did many years ago that failed to attract attention will begin to attract attention and draw you in.

Today, I pray, may you command attention in your season, not after your season.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny- Actualizing Your Birthright to Success, Unleash Your Destiny and The Six Pillars of Success . He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Nobody Trusts Tinubu to Conduct Free and Fair Elections – Dele Momodu

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Accomplished media entrepreneur and chieftain of the African Democratic Congress (ADC), Chief Dele Momodu, has said that nobody trusts President Bola Tinubu to conduct a free and fair election, including the President’s own supporters.

Momodu also noted that there is a belief that if the President does not win in 2027, he will not want to relinquish power.

He added that if Tinubu refuses to step down, he would be chased out of the Presidential Villa.

Momodu made the revelations while speaking on Arise News Prime Time belt.

“If you ask an average Nigerian today about Tinubu, ‘Do you trust Tinubu to conduct a free and fair election?’ I can tell you, 90 per cent of them will say no.

“Look, nobody trusts Tinubu to run a free and fair election, including his own supporters. They will tell you, ‘Oh, we are going to win. There is no way we won’t win.’ Ask them why, and they will say, ‘Oh, you know our oga now.’

“In fact, some people are even suggesting that if Tinubu loses the election, he will not agree to step down. I say, why won’t he agree? We will chase him away.

“Look, you do not know the determination of Nigerians. And now, I’m not resting my confidence on just my party. I’m talking about the ordinary man on the street who cannot imagine Tinubu coming back again. They just can’t.

“I can’t tell you our strategy in public. What we know is that, once upon a time, Tinubu fought for himself to secure a second term as governor of Lagos State.

“So, others are also working very hard behind the scenes. We are not going to come out in public and say this, but we know what to do to make sure that he does not get that second term. We also know that some of the people pretending to support him today—and I’m not trying to trivialise this thing.

“I know some of them. They are praying fervently that they will not have to go through this situation where governors become like houseboys. Governors are scared. Judges are scared. Legislators are scared.

“​So, Tinubu has become a god whom nobody is ready to confront and say, ‘Oga, you’ve done your best. Please, go home.’”

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2027: Go Home, You’re Weak and Tired, SDP’s Adebayo Tells Tinubu

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The Social Democratic Party (SDP) presidential candidate, Prince Adewole Adebayo, has urged President Bola Tinubu to go home and let Nigeria breathe.

Adebayo said this in a statement in Abuja on Wednesday.

He was responding to the President’s plan to excuse himself from the rigors of physical campaigns in some states ahead of the presidential polls.

Tinubu spoke at the inauguration of the APC Presidential Campaign Council in Abuja, urging members to take the party’s message to Nigerians across the states and local government areas while he continues to attend to matters of governance.

In response, Adebayo argued that, if Tinubu is too tired to campaign, he is too weak to govern.

In a statement signed by his Presidential Campaign’s Chief Communications Adviser, Comrade Mark Adebayo, the SDP standard bearer described Tinubu as a “president in absentia” at a time Nigeria needs hands-on leadership.

Adebayo said: “Nigeria is too complex, too dynamic, and currently too distressed to be governed by remote control.”

He cited what he called repeated instances of the President governing from a distance, including prolonged medical vacations disguised as working visits, absence during national emergencies and reliance on proxies to announce State policies.

Adebayo further said: “We have seen repeated instances when the President was visibly missing when the country needed reassurance.

“From unannounced foreign trips during critical economic decisions to his complete silence during widespread regional protests, he has consistently acted like a president in absentia. If you are too tired to campaign, you are too weak to govern.”

Adebayo alleged that the decision to stay off the campaign trail was not about strategy but fear.

“The excuse of bowing out of the 2027 campaign is a cowardly smokescreen. The truth is that the President is terrified of the Nigerian people,” he argued.

According to him, the administration’s economic policies – fuel subsidy removal fallout, skyrocketing inflation and currency instability -have made the President unpopular.

“He knows the pain his bad policies have inflicted on families. He is hiding because he cannot face public anger, and he knows any appearance on a campaign trail will be met with collective booing of a betrayed populace.”

Adebayo also said: “It is time to face reality: step aside, go home, and let this country breathe.”

He called on the administration to prioritise national interest over political survival and be transparent about the President’s capacity to lead for the remainder of his term.

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