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Food for Living: The Turning Point of Your Life

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By Henry Ukazu

Dear Destiny Friends,

Everyone of us has experienced a turning point at one time or another in life. The turning point can be when you marry; when you achieve academic excellence; when you meet a great man/woman; when you get a job/promotion; when you travel; when you became financial independent; when you are blessed with a new child; or even when you experience spiritual deliverance. Turning points are times that change your outlook & attitudes towards life. It can affect your relationship with people. Question: At what point will you say is the turning point in your life? For me, when I published my first book, got a decent job, and married, were times my life literally took a new shape.

We all need a turning point in our life, but that turning point will not come unless we take the necessary decisions. While going up, we all must have faced one form of challenge or another; the challenge can be due to poverty or education. Have you ever been in a position where due to poverty you weren’t able to access the basic needs of life? That is the story of many people. Poverty can make you decide, you’ll no longer want to remain poor, especially when you experienced poverty growing up. At that stage, you will decide to do whatever is legitimate to eradicate poverty from your life.

In the same vein, when you experience the pain of not being educated, you can decide to get an education to change a narrative. Having a good education is priceless because education is one of the greatest levelers.

For you to turn your life around, you must know yourself. Self-discovery is the first key to success. You must know what you are passionate about, you must know what works for you and most importantly know what change you will like to see in your life. For instance, if you want to study any professional course, you must know what is required to make the dream come true.

Turning point can result from an unpleasant situation or incident which you or the world might have experienced. For instance, when you experience injustice in the system due to rape of a loved one, death of a loved one, shooting of a loved one, or a scene that makes you feel uncomfortable, you can decide to run for election to bring change in order to fix the system.

When you decide to have a turning point in your life, you are literally taking your destiny into your hands. You will focus your energy on doing the needful, you will remove any form of distraction. It’s instructive to note that your life is your life, your joy is your joy, your sorrow is your sorrow, no one can share it with you. The moral of this statement is that you are the architect of your life and as such you don’t need to live your life for anybody.

In turning your life around, you must do whatever works for you. You can’t please anyone neither can you please the world. Human beings by nature are insatiable. According to Bill Cosby, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody”. So when you decide to live your life for anyone, just have it a the back of your mind, the world is not literally concerned about your absence except when you have left your footprints in the hearts of humanity, even at that, there will come a day when the world will experience the same love and affection from another resourceful being. For instance, imagine if you are an entertainer or social media influencer when you leave planet earth, nor matter how rich, influential or fun your content maybe, after you must have completed your time on earth, the world will not take much time to find someone else to replace you. That’s how basically life works. So, don’t think you are irreplaceable.

In conclusion, decide today what you are not comfortable with and make an internal and conscious decision to fix it. It all starts with an idea. When the idea is conceived, you must nurture it by working on it. It’s only by so doing, you will get people who will buy into it. Remember, the change you want to see in the world begins with you.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a Human Capacity & mindset coach. He’s also a  public speaker. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Food for Living: The Insatiable Nature of Man

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By Henry Ukazu

Dear Destiny Friends,

There’s no doubt that human beings by nature are insatiable. When we get one opportunity, we always look for another. When we attain one height, we always look for another accomplishment. Isn’t it true that the end of one mountain is the beginning of another.

However, I don’t think it’s selfish for anyone to dare to succeed.

Being ambitious doesn’t make one an opportunist or disloyal. It all depends on one’s perception or outlook to life. It’s just natural for one to dream big. It’s only ugly when the process one chooses to achieve his desires becomes dirty and nasty.

According to a former Nigerian presidential candidate and seasoned Economist, Mr. Peter Obi, “if you must be referred to as “Your Excellency”, then the process through which you arrived in office must be excellent”.

If you desire to be reckoned with on the journey of existence, you must be legitimately hungry for success. One’s hunger for success will facilitate the drive to accomplish great tasks despite daunting obstacles posing as challenges.

When one has this mindset, one will not be bothered by the noise which serves as obstacles and challenges along the way. Negative and weak minds are always concerned on why something won’t work. They tend to focus their energy and reasons on the obstacles facing them. But great and productive minds always focus their energy on the reasons why it will work. This is the spirit of an insatiable mind who is a goal- getter.

It’s instructive to note that we can’t please everyone. According to Bill Cosby, a famous actor, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” Isn’t it true that when you talk, people will still talk about you, when you don’t talk, people will talk about you, so whether you talk or not, people will still judge you, so, do what’s best for you. There’s nothing you can do to please human beings. Your best option is to live your best life.

To understand how the insatiable nature of man works, one must be oneself. You don’t have to “please” anyone. Be yourself, and don’t try to be like anyone just to curry favour. It’s important to note that when you are yourself, the people that matter will come through for you, and the people that don’t matter will gradually find the bearing in another space because those that truly care don’t bother and those that bother don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.

Life has truly taught me to focus on the important things of life as opposed to the mundane things. It’s truly sad to see people spending more time on the little things of life, and spending little time on the important things of life. That’s just a misplaced priority.

When you are yourself, the best people can do is to copy or imitate your style. They can never imitate your creativity nor can take your originality from you.

We live in a world or society where people don’t generally care or show empathy. Most people tend to live around themselves, their family, and close associates. They generally find it hard to lift a finger to assist others for reasons best known to them. Rev. Fr. Ejike Mbaka once said, “we live in a wicked generation”, re-echoing the voices of a lot of people of the world. Some people in authority just have criminal expertise in amassing wealth of opportunities meant for the citizens without thinking of the citizens they are meant to serve.

It’s worthy of note that not everyone will like you nor support your work, but when you find people who truly care about you; please hold them tight. This is because despite having family members you have shown love and compassion, they might not still appreciate you even if you lay your life for them, they will still find something to say. Again, this is the insatiable nature of man.

It’s okay for everyone not to like you, normalize living your life for God, yourself, family and those that care about you. If everyone likes you, you have a problem.

Did you know that you can get a new family from friends, strangers, and acquaintances? These sets of people might appreciate you more than your own family members. They might not demand or under appreciate you like your family members and close friends or associates. Any little support you give them will be highly appreciated. Their focus is to see you do better.

In conclusion, as you desire to succeed in life, never give in to failure until you have made your last attempt, and never make your last attempt until you succeed. This literally means whatever you desire, dream it, think it, say it, and believe you can achieve it. This principle is generally applicable to relationships, businesses, family, personal and professional development.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your  and Unleash Your Destiny .  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Court Temporarily Blocks Trump’s Executive Order Ending US Birthright Citizenship

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A federal judge in the United States, on Thursday, put a temporary block on President Donald Trump’s attempt to restrict birthright citizenship.

The ruling imposes a 14-day halt on the enforcement of one of the most controversial executive orders Trump signed hours after being sworn into office for a second term.

It comes after lawsuits were filed by a total of 22 states, two cities and numerous civil rights groups.

“This is a blatantly unconstitutional order,” senior US District Judge John Coughenour was reported as saying during the hearing in Washington State.

“I’ve been on the bench for over four decades, I can’t remember another case where the question presented is as clear as this one is,” said Coughenour, who was appointed to the bench by a Republican president, Ronald Reagan.

Birthright citizenship is fundamental to America’s national identity, with the 14th Amendment to the US Constitution decreeing that anyone born on US soil is a citizen.

It says, in part: “All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside.”

Trump’s order was premised on the idea that anyone in the US illegally, or on a visa, was not “subject to the jurisdiction” of the country, and therefore excluded from this category.

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Appeal Court Upholds Death Sentence on Ramon Adedoyin for Murder of Timothy Adegoke

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The Court of Appeal sitting in Akure, Ondo State capital has upheld the death sentence of Ramon Adedoyin, a prominent businessman and hotelier, for his involvement in the murder of one Timothy Adegoke, a former postgraduate student of the Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, Osun State.

Delivering the judgment on Thursday, the court affirmed the earlier verdict of the Osun State High Court, which had sentenced Adedoyin to death.

“The judgment of the High Court of Osun State stands. Adedoyin’s appeal is dismissed in part,” the court declared in part.

The Court of Appeal, however, set aside some aspects of the lower court’s orders, including the forfeiture of the Hilton Hotel and the order for Adedoyin to pay for the education of Adegoke’s children.

Furthermore, the court ruled that it had no jurisdiction to impose penalties outside the statutory provisions

Adegoke’s death was reported in November 2021 after his corpse was found at the Hilton Honours Hotel in Ile-Ife, Osun State, where he had lodged.

The hotelier had travelled from Abuja for an examination at a distance learning centre in Moro, Osun State on November 5 of that year.

He had checked into the hotel but was reported missing after two days. However, Adegoke’s body was found days later, leading to a probe that linked his death to Adedoyin and others.

In May 2023, Adedoyin and others were sentenced to death after they were found guilty of murder and conspiracy to murder.

But dissatisfied with the judgement, Adedoyin approached the Appeal court to dismiss the sentence and conviction.

The court of appeal, on Thursday, however, upheld the conviction and death sentence of the hotelier.

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