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Food for Living: There’s More to Life…

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By Henry Ukazu

Greetings Friends,

What would be your response if you are asked the question; what is life? Tough one I guess. Not really tough though if you have projected a right mental attitude for yourself from the word go, or at a particular stage in your existence. This article will help you develop an enviable mindset that will place you on the right pedestal to live through life with little or no hassles, the stage you are at the moment notwithstanding.

Five years ago I wrote an article entitled: What is life and how can one live through it? In that article, I stressed the importance of having a positive mental attitude regardless of the vicissitudes that comes with it. During my graduate programme in New York Law School, one of my professors once said that the only thing that that is constant in life is death and tax. According to him, we must all die one day and as long as we are alive, we must continue to pay tax. If you ask another rational mind the same question, he or she might say the only thing that is constant in life is change. The litany of responses continue if you ask other schools of thought their opinions about life. In another programme I attended, one of my professors said, It’s good to have good grades, but it will pay you more to network while in school and after you graduate school because, in the cooperate world, the A students normally do the brain day to day admiration of office work while the B and C students who network while in school and on the outside are those that hire the A students to be the technocrats. This “A” students bring in the business in addition to calling the shots in the company. The moral behind the statement is that there’s more to success than graduating with first class or honors. This is because there’s a huge difference between being academically smart and street smart.

In one of the articles I wrote a few years ago; Your Network Determines Your Net worth, I highlighted that one of the great ways of succeeding in life is by thinking out of the box. Of course, you will agree with me on that. Shallow minds always think straight as opposed to seeing life from the big picture. The underlying message here underscores the importance of seeing the other side of life just like its being opined by scholars that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

Having laid a good foundation for this article by way of introduction, I will like to stress that there’s more to life than attaining success, divorce, failing, death, having wealth, etc. Life has to be approached in a holistic manner. In our contemporary society, we have seen a lot of case where many people are depressed; high rate of suicide; business folding up; and families breaking up. You may add your thoughts. If you allow life experience to define us, you’ll literally be failing in life, but if you rise above the challenges life throws at you, you are not only an overcomer but a conqueror.

Great success always comes with great pains. Every true success has an underlying story. It is this story that inspires the world when they read about your success. As a rule of thumb, always appreciate your challenges and disappointment. There’s no great success without a corresponding failure. We all have failed in one activity or the other. One great mental attribute we can use overcome failure in life is by having a positive mental attitude. This is one of the most tested and trusted skill to appreciate failure and life in general.

Many people live through life with a myopic mindset. Some spend a considerable amount of energy on minor stuff and spend little or no time on major stuff. In as much as values are different, it is pertinent to note that family always rank first among work. Some people place work over family and friends forgetting that the day you give up the ghost, it won’t take less than 24hours for your employees to advertise your position for numerous of people waiting to apply. Hence, wisdom beckons on us to know that we can’t be too busy for our friends and family and there’s more to life than work.

In the academic world, grades are important but other factors such as your personal statement and performance at an interview can go a long way towards deciding if you’ll be made an offer. So there’s more to grades and resume. Your skill always plays a great role in the selection process.

One of the most powerful lessons about life and failure was rightly captured by Abraham Lincoln, in a letter to his son’s school teacher. Please permit to share this letter here

“My son starts school today. It is all going to be strange and new to him for a while and I wish you would treat him gently. It is an adventure that might take him across continents. All adventures that probably include wars, tragedy, and sorrow. To live this life will require faith, love, and courage.

So dear Teacher, will you please take him by his hand and teach him things he will have to know, teaching him – but gently, if you can. Teach him that for every enemy, there is a friend. He will have to know that all men are not just, that all men are not true. But teach him also that for every scoundrel there is a hero that for every crooked politician, there is a dedicated leader.

Teach him if you can that 10 cents earned is of far more value than a dollar found. In school, teacher, it is far more honorable to fail than to cheat. Teach him to learn how to gracefully lose, and enjoy winning when he does win.

Teach him to be gentle with people, tough with tough people. Steer him away from envy if you can and teach him the secret of quiet laughter. Teach him if you can – how to laugh when he is sad, teach him there is no shame in tears. Teach him there can be glory in failure and despair in success. Teach him to scoff at cynics.

Teach him if you can the wonders of books, but also give time to ponder the extreme mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun and flowers on a green hill. Teach him to have faith in his own ideas, even if every one tell him they are wrong.

Try to give my son the strength not to follow the crowd when everyone else is doing it. Teach him to listen to everyone, but teach him also to filter all that he hears on a screen of truth and take only the good that comes through.

Teach him to sell his talents and brains to the highest bidder but never to put a price tag on his heart and soul. Let him have the courage to be impatient, let him have the patient to be brave. Teach him to have sublime faith in himself, because then he will always have sublime faith in mankind, in God.

This is the order, teacher but see what best you can do. He is such a nice little boy and he is my son.”

This message really captures what it means to live through life. Many people go through depression, have dark thoughts, or hurt themselves, feel hapless, lost and spend gloomy days. The truth is that failure, stress, setbacks, and exam isn’t worth your life if you truly know the meaning of life. Failures don’t define us, rather it opens our eyes to the world of possibilities. If you didn’t fail, maybe you wouldn’t have taken life and business more serious.

 

I don’t really know what you are going through life at the moment, just know that this too shall pass. Don’t allow the negative energy to get into your subconscious mindset, because when you do, you are more than likely going to hit the rock. So, always know that there’s more to life than any experience you may have heard.

In conclusion, life is what you make out of what it throws at you, that’s what truly defines you if you make a lemonade out of a lemon. As a matter of advice, if you fail or experience a challenge just laugh at it, work towards achieving something better and never lose hope. There is always light at the end of a tunnel.

 

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with New York City Department of Correction as the legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success.

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Hike in Telecom Tariff: SERAP Demands Reversal

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The Socio-Economic Rights and Accountability Project (SERAP) has demanded the reversal of the recent 50% hike in telecom tariffs, issuing a 48-hour ultimatum to the Federal government.

The Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC), on January 20, 2025, announced regulatory approval for telecom operators to raise tariffs by 50 per cent. The agency said the tariff hike will help the operators improve the country’s telecommunication infrastructure.

The tariff hike follows agitations from the Association of Licensed Telecommunications Operators of Nigeria (ALTON) and the Association of Telecommunications Companies of Nigeria (ATCON) to review call tariffs upwards.

SERAP described the increase as “unlawful” and warned of impending legal action if the government and telecom operators fail to reverse the decision.

The Tinubu administration and telcos must immediately reverse the unlawful increase in calls and data costs. We’ll see in court if the 50% tariff hike is not reversed within 48 hours,” the group declared.

SERAP’s ultimatum reflects growing public dissatisfaction over the hike, with many Nigerians expressing concerns about its impact on the cost of living.

The organization also insisted that the tariff hike violates the rights of consumers and threatens access to affordable communication services.

This increase is not only unjustifiable but also unlawful. It risks undermining the accessibility of essential communication services for millions of Nigerians,” SERAP’s statement read.

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Umahi Orders Removal of Speed Bumps on Highways Across the Country

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The Minister of Works, Engr. Dave Umahi, has ordered the removal of speed bumps on the country’s highways to improve traffic flow and reduce congestion on major roads.

Umahi gave the directive during a two-day Retreat for Federal Ministry of Works Highway Engineers and Managerial Staff on Friday in Abuja.

The retreat with the theme “Ensuring Delivery of Mr President‘s Agenda on Road Infrastructural Development,” was organised by the ministry.

The minister said the order to dismantle the speed bumps was necessary because some were haphazardly done causing accidents and elongating travel time.

“I came through one of the federal routes and for a journey that is supposed to last like one hour within that stretch, it lasted like three hours because  every 20 metres you will see a bump.

“Although there is nothing wrong with speed bumps in certain designated locations. But there is an approved technical design for bumps.

“There are also allowable locations for bumps and that is what we want to do. So the National Assembly has directed that these speed bumps should be dismantled.”

Umahi said the ministry had noticed some speed bumps were a menace and causing multiple accidents and deaths.

“Some speed bumps are high, touching the bottom plates of vehicles; that is not desirable. It defeats the aim.

“So, this is what we are saying; and that is what the National Assembly is saying; the ministry as well as motorists want them to dismantle it.”

Umahi said subsequently for any speed bump to be constructed, applications would be made  to controllers for the locations through the Permanent Secretary and to the minister for approval after meeting technical compliance.

He added that there must also be a safe side distance of not less than 100 metres and warning for motorists to beware.

Speaking on infrastructure development, Umahi said President Bola Tinubu’s massive infrastructure development is aimed at providing the much needed impetus to stimulate the economy and improve the lives of the citizenry.

He therefore, said the retreat is aimed at educating  participants to properly understand the president’s renewed hope agenda with specific reference to road infrastructure development among others.

The Minister of State for Works, Mr Bello Goronyo, commended the president’s infrastructure development agenda, saying that it was putting  smiles on the faces of Nigerians.

“Let me  urge you to use the knowledge that you will acquire today in ensuring that you come up to speed with the modern technologies and innovation  so that our country will be better in terms of roads, infrastructure.

“Without the road infrastructure, there cannot be economic growth, and there cannot be prosperity,” he said.

The permanent secretary in the ministry, Olufunso Adebiyi,  said the Federal Road Safety Corps’ record revealed that accidents  were traceable to reckless driving, drunk driving, disregard for road instructions and unauthorised crossing of the road among others.

“It may surprise you that the percentage of accidents caused by bad roads were less than 10 per cent.

“The bad roads are traceable to inefficiency on the part of the engineers, poor supervision of our road works among others.”

Adebiyi urged the engineers to step up and curb some of the irregularities, noting that the ministry was committed to building their capacity to deliver on the administration’s agenda.

The Chairmen, Senate and House Committees on Works reiterated their commitment to supporting the ministry to deliver on its mandate.

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Food for Living: What Seeds Are You Sowing Today?

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By Henry Ukazu

Greetings Destiny Friends,

We are all familiar with the Law of karma, which implies that every action has consequences, or that whatever a person does comes back to them. It’s also known as the law of cause and effect, which means for any action, there’s usually a corresponding consequence. 

This has a close resemblance to a foremost scientist, Isaac Newton’s theory, the Newton’s Law of Universal Gravitation, which states that “whatever goes up must come down”.

The principle and ideology behind these laws and principles are centered on the principle of life that stays, the way you lay your bed that’s the way you will lay on it. The question we need to ask ourselves is what seeds are we sowing? It’s instructive to note that nobody plants an orange seed and reaps a mango fruit, nor can a watermelon seed produce a pineapple fruit.

The principle of sowing and reaping is sacrosanct. It is whatever one sows that they will reap. This principle is universal. When you sow a seed, you might not get the result immediately, but you will get it in due time by and by.

As a man, when you treat your spouse with love and affection, you will surely get a reciprocal from her, and as a woman there’s the tendency to reciprocate a support from a partner, especially when he is down. These are laws that work with conscience and heart of gratitude of the recipient. No doubt, common sense entails one does the needful.

As a business owner, when you invest in your company and staff, you are bound to reap the fruits in due time. As a parent, when you invest in your children’s good home training and quality education, you’ll be glad for the foundation you laid at your old age.

As a progressive mind, when you invest in reading books, building sustainable relationships, networking, learning skills and adding value to your life, updating and upgrading your life via personal development, you are bound to reap the fruits of your labour.

The challenge most people have is that they haven’t taken time to learn, nor have they taken time to sow the seeds that will create opportunity for them. Some people are just comfortable with begging or looking for parasitic opportunities where they haven’t invested time and resources. Some people are even entitled to someone’s work just because they are friends, family or have a form of relationship. This shouldn’t be the case. As human beings, it’s important for one to be intentional and strategic. Nobody likes to be “used”, rather people like to give value to their time and money.

It is important to note that any seed one sows today, will produce the fruit they will either eat or need tomorrow. In my personal development journey, I was a little bit confused on how I wanted to execute my vision. Because I lacked the right mentors to strategically guide and inspire me, I began to live my life based on experience with no set plan.

In some cases I failed, and in some cases I was able to make an impact. However, one thing is certain, I was moving in the direction I needed by being at the right events and meeting the right people. In the course of time, I began to see myself gaining clarity about my interest. Overtime, I had mentors who were instrumental in guiding and strategically positioning me in the right direction.

When I look back in retrospect, I can only give God the glory because the little works and skills I invested in my life have gradually begun to pay back. The moral here is that I sowed the seeds I am reaping today. It took a while, but it finally came through. This experience has shown me one can get to any height in life, in addition to getting recognition when one is consistent, intentional and passionate about a cause.

Whether you are a boxer, teacher, singer, athlete, journalist, lawyer, coach, writer or minister of the gospel, please do it diligently, and if what you are doing is your purpose in life, the universe has a way of conspiring with you to get to the top.

When people say someone is lucky, blessed, privileged, smart, highly connected to a mentor, or resource person, they are just crafting words of art to describe or qualify their point just to convey a message. This is because though all these words might play a role, if one has not taken a time to do the work, the required opportunity will not pop out and even if they pop out, and one is not destined for the opportunity, the corresponding blessings will not come.

The question we need to ask ourselves is what are we doing with our lives?  What seeds are we sowing for the blessings and opportunities we are hoping to get. In my native belief in law, there’s a latin maxim that says “Nemo dat quod non habet” which translates to ‘you can’t give what you don’t have’. This is the reality of many people. They want money, but don’t want to work. They want opportunities but don’t want to intern or serve in probono capacity. They want favours just because they are related or have a kind of relationship with someone, and therefore, automatically believe it will rub off on them without them giving substantiated reasons why they need support. These sets of people believe wealth is sexually transmitted.

I can go on and on, but as a sage will say, a word is enough for the wise.

In conclusion, as you journey through life, always remember that whatever you sow has a way of coming back to you, if not today, in your old age, or transmuted to your children. Just like when you assist your boss in saving money, tomorrow when you have a company, your employees will pay you back without you knowing it’s the deed you invested many years ago. As a single man or lady, when you derive joy in sleeping with married women or men, just know that you will get a corresponding visit in due time.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your  and Unleash Your Destiny .  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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