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Food for Thought: Life is in Stages
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
If you are asked, what is life, what will be your response? Understanding life is a mystery we can not understand. According to some schools of thought, life is like a woman, you can never fully understand her. Human beings by nature are the most complex and difficult people you can ever relate with. Life itself is complex. The question now is, how can one live through life?
Everything we do in life comes in stages, just like you can’t have a child in a month – from the moment of conception to natural birth – the same way it will take some time for a baby to crawl, walk and run. Life is in stages. You don’t become an expert in any field of life. You learn the basics before advancing to the next stage. That’s why there are levels of education. In a nutshell, life is a process, once you skip the process, you are likely to pay for it all, things being equal.
Even in attaining financial security, you must nurture the money, money respects process, I don’t believe in overnight success, because it lacks value, substance and understanding.
In this article, we shall be discussing the various stages your life can streamlined. As a Human Capacity coach, my purpose in life is to help humanity to discover their purpose, give their life meaning, help the needy, the downtrodden, inspire the world, and help people to unleash their potentials.
I didn’t come into this space in one day, it took me a substantial amount of time, and a lot of processes were involved. This is my I am very big on self-discovery. As human beings, sometimes we ask ourselves, who am I? What’s my purpose, what are my gifts, my passions, and my interest in life? These and many other questions are what we battle daily. Sometimes, we are even hard on our self, thinking we have lost it or when are we going to be successful. If you are thinking of how to discover your purpose, gain clarity in life, and transform your life, you can sign up for my free masterclass training with this link: .
Let me tell you, life is a process. You can never rush life no matter how fast you run. I remembered many years ago, I tried to promote my book, with my friends in high offices globally, I even had access to some of the world leaders and know people can link me up, but guess what, all effort to make the dream come true failed. On one faithful day, one of my mentors told me “Henry, you can never rush God, nor matter how far you try to rush life, you can never rush God”. In all honesty, that sentence hit me real hard. I only came to realize later in life that I needed to build capacity and brand myself very well before some of these great people will relate with me. This is just the truth about life.
For you to succeed in any meaningful project, you must be mentally prepared for it, and must put in the work. The hallmark of success starts with you. You can read all the books, pay for international training with the best teachers, and so on, but if you are not ready to do the work, you will still be on ground zero.
Life indeed is in stages, sometimes you have some work to do in the back room, you may need to take some courses and pass the exam before you move to the next stage, you may even need to experience some failures, gain experience and understanding in order to mature. At other times, you may need to get married, have kids, have a level of accomplishment before you hit the ground running. Every case is literally different. The point here is that life indeed stages. So, whenever you think you are losing, take a deep breath and ask yourself, have I done what I am supposed to do? If yes, then you must console yourself, maybe it’s not for you, it’s not the right time.
These are literally the stages of life; a young lady gets pregnant, and undergoes prenatal care, gives birth to a child, who then grows gradually into early childhood, middle childhood, adolescence, late adulthood before death comes in depending on when one is called to rest by our creator.
If we are to go further, infancy is between ages 0 and 3 years, and this is regarded as vitality age; early childhood is between 3 and 6 years, this is where the child is in playful mood; middle childhood is between 6 and 8 years, this is where the imagination of the child kicks in; and late childhood (9-11 years) is where the ingenuity of a child begins to develop; adolescence (12-20 years), this is where their passion begins to develop; early adulthood (20-35 years), this is where they begin to show their enterprise skills and ability; middle life (35- 50 years), this is called contemplation stage, where they decide their future; matured adulthood (50-80 years) this can be regarded as Benevolence stage, late adulthood(80+) which can be called wisdom age; and before death kicks in. Can you see why you need to follow process and not be hard on yourself.
Furthermore, you can apply this understanding from another perspective. First, you need to understand yourself by practicing self-discovery. This process requires lots of trials and errors. Then you commit to learning and developing yourself by learning all you need to learn before you can launch yourself in order to apply them. The final stage can be regarded as a legacy which is the hallmark of the experience you will leave for humanity as a trace of your life.
In conclusion, I don’t know what your challenge might be or what you might be going through. You might even need someone to talk to, if that is you, you can reach out via the information below or sign up for my free masterclass which comes up on Sunday, May 30, 2021 at 1 pm EST and 6pm WAT. Take action now and register with this link
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a mindset coach and public speaker. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
There’s no doubt that human beings by nature are insatiable. When we get one opportunity, we always look for another. When we attain one height, we always look for another accomplishment. Isn’t it true that the end of one mountain is the beginning of another.
However, I don’t think it’s selfish for anyone to dare to succeed.
Being ambitious doesn’t make one an opportunist or disloyal. It all depends on one’s perception or outlook to life. It’s just natural for one to dream big. It’s only ugly when the process one chooses to achieve his desires becomes dirty and nasty.
According to a former Nigerian presidential candidate and seasoned Economist, Mr. Peter Obi, “if you must be referred to as “Your Excellency”, then the process through which you arrived in office must be excellent”.
If you desire to be reckoned with on the journey of existence, you must be legitimately hungry for success. One’s hunger for success will facilitate the drive to accomplish great tasks despite daunting obstacles posing as challenges.
When one has this mindset, one will not be bothered by the noise which serves as obstacles and challenges along the way. Negative and weak minds are always concerned on why something won’t work. They tend to focus their energy and reasons on the obstacles facing them. But great and productive minds always focus their energy on the reasons why it will work. This is the spirit of an insatiable mind who is a goal- getter.
It’s instructive to note that we can’t please everyone. According to Bill Cosby, a famous actor, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” Isn’t it true that when you talk, people will still talk about you, when you don’t talk, people will talk about you, so whether you talk or not, people will still judge you, so, do what’s best for you. There’s nothing you can do to please human beings. Your best option is to live your best life.
To understand how the insatiable nature of man works, one must be oneself. You don’t have to “please” anyone. Be yourself, and don’t try to be like anyone just to curry favour. It’s important to note that when you are yourself, the people that matter will come through for you, and the people that don’t matter will gradually find the bearing in another space because those that truly care don’t bother and those that bother don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.
Life has truly taught me to focus on the important things of life as opposed to the mundane things. It’s truly sad to see people spending more time on the little things of life, and spending little time on the important things of life. That’s just a misplaced priority.
When you are yourself, the best people can do is to copy or imitate your style. They can never imitate your creativity nor can take your originality from you.
We live in a world or society where people don’t generally care or show empathy. Most people tend to live around themselves, their family, and close associates. They generally find it hard to lift a finger to assist others for reasons best known to them. Rev. Fr. Ejike Mbaka once said, “we live in a wicked generation”, re-echoing the voices of a lot of people of the world. Some people in authority just have criminal expertise in amassing wealth of opportunities meant for the citizens without thinking of the citizens they are meant to serve.
It’s worthy of note that not everyone will like you nor support your work, but when you find people who truly care about you; please hold them tight. This is because despite having family members you have shown love and compassion, they might not still appreciate you even if you lay your life for them, they will still find something to say. Again, this is the insatiable nature of man.
It’s okay for everyone not to like you, normalize living your life for God, yourself, family and those that care about you. If everyone likes you, you have a problem.
Did you know that you can get a new family from friends, strangers, and acquaintances? These sets of people might appreciate you more than your own family members. They might not demand or under appreciate you like your family members and close friends or associates. Any little support you give them will be highly appreciated. Their focus is to see you do better.
In conclusion, as you desire to succeed in life, never give in to failure until you have made your last attempt, and never make your last attempt until you succeed. This literally means whatever you desire, dream it, think it, say it, and believe you can achieve it. This principle is generally applicable to relationships, businesses, family, personal and professional development.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your and Unleash Your Destiny . He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
A federal judge in the United States, on Thursday, put a temporary block on President Donald Trump’s attempt to restrict birthright citizenship.
The ruling imposes a 14-day halt on the enforcement of one of the most controversial executive orders Trump signed hours after being sworn into office for a second term.
It comes after lawsuits were filed by a total of 22 states, two cities and numerous civil rights groups.
“This is a blatantly unconstitutional order,” senior US District Judge John Coughenour was reported as saying during the hearing in Washington State.
“I’ve been on the bench for over four decades, I can’t remember another case where the question presented is as clear as this one is,” said Coughenour, who was appointed to the bench by a Republican president, Ronald Reagan.
Birthright citizenship is fundamental to America’s national identity, with the 14th Amendment to the US Constitution decreeing that anyone born on US soil is a citizen.
It says, in part: “All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside.”
Trump’s order was premised on the idea that anyone in the US illegally, or on a visa, was not “subject to the jurisdiction” of the country, and therefore excluded from this category.
AFP
The Court of Appeal sitting in Akure, Ondo State capital has upheld the death sentence of Ramon Adedoyin, a prominent businessman and hotelier, for his involvement in the murder of one Timothy Adegoke, a former postgraduate student of the Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, Osun State.
Delivering the judgment on Thursday, the court affirmed the earlier verdict of the Osun State High Court, which had sentenced Adedoyin to death.
“The judgment of the High Court of Osun State stands. Adedoyin’s appeal is dismissed in part,” the court declared in part.
The Court of Appeal, however, set aside some aspects of the lower court’s orders, including the forfeiture of the Hilton Hotel and the order for Adedoyin to pay for the education of Adegoke’s children.
Furthermore, the court ruled that it had no jurisdiction to impose penalties outside the statutory provisions
Adegoke’s death was reported in November 2021 after his corpse was found at the Hilton Honours Hotel in Ile-Ife, Osun State, where he had lodged.
The hotelier had travelled from Abuja for an examination at a distance learning centre in Moro, Osun State on November 5 of that year.
He had checked into the hotel but was reported missing after two days. However, Adegoke’s body was found days later, leading to a probe that linked his death to Adedoyin and others.
In May 2023, Adedoyin and others were sentenced to death after they were found guilty of murder and conspiracy to murder.
But dissatisfied with the judgement, Adedoyin approached the Appeal court to dismiss the sentence and conviction.
The court of appeal, on Thursday, however, upheld the conviction and death sentence of the hotelier.
