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Never Ever Give Up on Your Purpose (Pt. 2)
By Tolulope A. Adegoke
“I must unveil it that you, as human beings have the enormous amount of choices to create and re-create, modify and re-modify the beautiful lives of your dreams. You should also know and understand that “Fate” and your (Faith) choices work in concert to sculpt the look of your lives. And it is in your conscious choice-making Faith) that, ultimately, your destinies are realized and fulfilled. To overlook or underrate this truth (fact) is to play the prey (victim). To disrepute or disregard this truth is to deny the ‘grace’ and ‘power’ that has been granted to you to create all that you ever need or want as a being. Therefore, engage wisdom, deploy the tools of knowledge and act with understanding by not giving up on ‘purpose’!” – Tolulope A. Adegoke Ph.D., MINIM, FIMC, CMC, CMS
Those who have been deeply hurt by life are generally the ones who can feel the pain of others in a heartbeat. Those who have endured adversity become humbled by life, and as a result, are more open, compassionate and real. We may not like suffering when it visits us, but it serves us very well: it cracks the shells that covers our hearts and empties us of the lies that we have clung to about who we are, why we are here, and how this remarkable world of ours really functions. Once emptied, we can be refilled with all that good is, noble and true. We should understand that trouble is a tool of transformation in disguise if we don’t get carried away by choosing to allow them to do so. Joseph Campbell wrote: “where you stumble, there your treasures lie.”
We must see ourselves as work in progress and continue to challenge ourselves to use each day as empirical platforms to evolve into the higher realms of our divinely (authentic) ordained life. The reality is that we all have work to do, no matter how much work we have done on ourselves, no matter how much we have evolved or enlightened we may claim to be. Each of us has flaws to mend, to fix, and wounds within us that cry out to be healed. It is now our responsibility as individuals to brace up and heal up by submitting ourselves to the realities of what courage has to offer and purchasing what it is through the currency of Faith. Faith is a booster: when faith surges, courage is boosted to perform its role for our conquests. Faith perfects our works and deeds for the actualization of our desired goals or objectives. Every one of us, naturally has a splintered soul, as we try to reconcile being spiritual with being human. And the deeper we go within ourselves, the more we realize how little we know, for real. A wise man wrote: “the top of one mountain is the bottom of the next”; that is to say, as we reach the summit or peak of the mountain we are currently climbing, guess what we see? Other peaks to scale (surmount). This is what the reality is in life; that is why learning and growth never ends, as it helps us to remember and reclaim the greatness and wholeness that, sadly we have lost. Though we have our human limitations, which we must not always dwell on, but admit and take up the responsibility of removing the blocks that have kept us small or stagnated from becoming unbounded, unchained, illimitable, indestructible and indispensable in your areas of calling (and generation). Materialism only makes us live life from the outside, rather than on the inside. You must have been through a whole lot of demeaning situations or scenarios, but you need to understand that we grow most from our greatest challenges, and this is why I sometimes tell folks that life is a divine set-up to grow and outgrow, to create and re-create, to born and be re-born, to live and out-live. You will realize that experiences were agents sent to help you clean (polish) our acts and push (charges) us to move through our weaknesses and overcome them all. Life’s biggest hurts are, in truth, opportunities in disguise for personal growths for positive transformations and reclaiming our authentic “grace” and “power” which was lost. Embrace them for the gifts they are and that comes with them.
Through the highs and lows, don’t ever give up! It is your commitment to accept the responsibility for your part in all that has unfolded and to reach our authentic being, which is the full stature of Christ that we have been charged to grow into, by carrying our crosses, and then follow Christ Jesus. It is believed by many scholars of high repute that much of what you experience in life has been pre-scripted. But, I must unveil it that you, as human beings have the enormous amount of choices to create and re-create, modify and re-modify the beautiful lives of your dreams. You should also know and understand that “Fate” and your (Faith) choices work in concert to sculpt the look of your lives. And it is in your conscious choice-making (Faith) that, ultimately, your destinies are realized and fulfilled. To overlook or underrate this truth (fact) is to play the prey (victim). To disrepute or disregard this truth is to deny the grace and power that has been granted to you to create all that you ever need or want as a being.
A chieftain of the African Democratic Congress (ADC), Eze Chukwuemeka Eze, has declared that it is over for the President Bola Tinubu administration following the Supreme Court ruling that restored the David Mark-led National Working Committee (NWC) of the opposition party.
Eze, in a statement on Friday, criticized the Attorney General of the Federation, Lateef Fagbemi (SAN) and the INEC chairman, Prof Joash Amupitan, asserting that they should be ashamed for acting as obstacles to the survival of democracy in Nigeria.
He said: “The government led by President Bola Tinubu has tarnished the judiciary. Certain judges and courts are reportedly being systematically employed to undermine the leadership of political parties in anticipation of the 2027 general elections.
“Even when all seemed lost, given the recent court rulings in political cases, particularly those involving opposition parties, Thursday’s Supreme Court judgment was a divine intervention.
“We express our gratitude to God Almighty for prompting the Supreme Court to overturn that disgraceful, distorted, and anti-democratic ruling issued by the Federal High Court, the Court of Appeal, and the misguided interpretation and decision of INEC regarding our party, the ADC.”
He stressed that the time has come for Tinubu and his alleged undemocratic associates in Aso Rock to return to Lagos.
“With Thursday’s ruling saving the ADC from destruction, it is time for Tinubu to begin drafting his handover notes and prepare for his return to Lagos State,” Eze stated.
Eze advised the ADC to concentrate on its primary function as a prominent opposition party in the upcoming 2027 general elections, as that the leadership dispute has been resolved.
He emphasized that stability at the upper levels of the party will result in improved organization, clearer communication, and enhanced participation in Nigeria’s political arena.
Notably, he asserted that the ruling will add to Nigeria’s expanding collection of case laws regarding political party governance, and urged the ADC to stay focused on its objective of reclaiming power from the APC due to poor governance.
“It highlights the judiciary’s role in interpreting party constitutions and ensuring adherence, which may affect how future conflicts are resolved,” Eze stated.
He praised the panel for upholding justice, remarking that any opposing decision regarding the ADC’s alleged leadership issue would have further entangled the Judiciary in the murky waters of arbitral corruption.
“Clearly, this ruling has set the stage for cohesion, unity, stability, and effective leadership within the ADC.
“With this issue now definitively settled, even though it should not have been justiciable ab initio, as it pertains to an internal matter of a political party, we urge all our members, stakeholders, and supporters to unite behind the David Mark-led leadership of the ADC to collectively reposition the party for greater national significance, viability, and visibility,” Eze said.
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
The school of life is an institution no one can graduate from. It is equated to marriage where new things as well as surprises are the order of the day, occurring on a daily basis. However, there are ways to live through life, and one of them is to accept each day as they come.
Life is truly great and enjoyable if we understand it and accept this truth. There’s no doubt that life is such a great challenge, and we must work hard and smart to overcome the challenge. Once we acknowledge it, nothing really matters any longer because life becomes an infinitely easier project to pursue.
As human beings, we will be tested and tempted. One’s ability to overcome each test and temptation will set one on a higher pedestal. The book of life made us understand there’s time for everything. A time to cry, and a time to laugh, a time to sow and a time to reap, According to the Book of life “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.”
One thing is certain if one looks at the timing- they all come in stages and phases. When there’s misplaced priority, success appears like mirage. One’s ability to manage each phase will strengthen one.
Life comes in several stages. When a child is born, the child will learn to crawl before learning how to walk and run. The same is applicable for a student who is interested in education, he will attend high school, college and post graduate studies. These are all stages of life.
The same phase is applicable in relationships and marriage. During the dating and courting stage, the relationship is different, immediately the parties marry, the tone changes. Marriage has three stages namely: Romance (or Honeymoon) stage, Power Struggle (or Disillusionment) stage, and Real Love (or Mature/Conscious Love) stage.
Let’s analyze each stage:
Romance/Honeymoon: (The “Falling in Love” Phase)
This stage is characterized by high intensity, passion, and bonding. At this stage, partners focus on similarities and overlook flaws. At this stage a partner might step on the other partner and instead of getting hurt, the partner will smile and say something like: I love the way you stepped on me, or step on me harder, it makes me endure the love. At this stage partners do everything together. This stage usually lasts from a few weeks to a couple of years.
The first three to five years of marriage can generally be regarded as the most challenging part of marriage, especially the kids start coming in; if it’s not properly managed, the marriage might hit the rock.
Power Struggle/Disillusionment (The “Reckoning” Phase)
During this stage, the “rose-colored glasses” usually come off, and partners notice flaws and differences, leading to “disillusionment, disappointment, and early conflicts”. It is at this stage kids start coming up and the challenge of life starts hitting up. The stage is often characterized by struggles with control, communication, and frustration over unmet expectations. Many couples usually get stuck here, if proper is not applied, it might end the relationship.
Stage 3: Real Love/Mature Love (The “Conscious” Phase)
At this stage, the couples have seen it all. They have been through all stages of life and have seen it all. There’s literally little or nothing that can affect marriage at this stage. It’s only unimaginable and unbecoming acts that lead to the fundamental tenets of marriage that can make the marriage hit the rock.
At this stage couples have trained their children through colleges, and some may have married. Couples will be able to laugh over their acts and start to bond again.
At this stage, couples have been able to navigate their conflict and have learnt to accept their partner’s flaws and choose to build a stable, loving, and mature relationship. Their focus is usually to build a deeper commitment to their marital vows, finally accepting each partner for whom they are, and working together to create a conscious and intentional partnership.
The outcome is usually a sense of safety, connection and lasting love: A sense of safety, deep connection, and lasting love.
In business, the principle is not exempted. An entrepreneur will begin a business, grow it, attract customers, hire employees and then institutionalize it. All these stages come with several phases if one is intentional.
An employee who is hired as an entry level position will have to prove his worth by producing measurable results to walk through the corporate ladder to become Chief Executive Officer, Chief Operating Officer, Chief Financial Officer or one of the higher ups. This position doesn’t come ordinarily; one must have earned it.
In conclusion, regardless of what stage one is experiencing or facing, one thing is certain, this too shall pass, and we shall overcome. So, just hang in there.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design and Unleash Your Destiny . He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
The African Democratic Congress (ADC) has declared that it would never be intimidated, distracted, or silenced in its push to realize a better Nigeria.
Spokesman of the ADC, Bolaji Abdullahi, said this in reaction to the Supreme Court ruling, which affirmed David Mark’s leadership of the party.
Abdullahi said the judgment has affirmed that the Mark and Rauf Aregbesola leadership of the party is legitimate.
Abdullahi said: “The African Democratic Congress (ADC) congratulates all our members and leaders across the country on today’s Supreme Court ruling which affirmed the leadership of our party under Senator David Mark as National Chairman, and Ogbeni Rauf Aregbesola as National Secretary.
“Today’s decision is a clear affirmation that our party, its structures, and its leadership under our National Chairman, Senator Mark, and our National Secretary, Ogbeni Aregbesola, are legitimate.
“We commend the five-man panel of the Supreme Court, whose unanimous judgment has today done great credit to the judiciary in our country and our political system.
“However, while we welcome this judgment, we do not mistake it for the end of the struggle. The events leading up to this moment have exposed a troubling pattern of interference, bad faith, and attempts to weaken opposition voices in Nigeria.
“Let it be clearly stated: the ADC will not be intimidated, distracted, or silenced. We remain resolute in our mission to provide Nigerians with a credible alternative.
“We therefore urge all our members, supporters, and democratic stakeholders across the country to remain vigilant.”
