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Power of Positive Attitude: The Dr. Robert Schuller Story!
By Tolulope A. Adegoke
“I really don’t know what my talent is, but I thought this would be a good chance for me to give what I think I owe you all, and that is an explanation. If I have one talent, it is this: I can tell you that during that time my faith became very real to me.” – Carol Shuller
Having examined the possibilities of grace and wisdom, let’s consider the triumph of a positive mindset, using the incredible story of the Schuller’s family.
For four years, Dr Robert Schuller and his family watched how their daughter, Carol, amazingly moved from a hospital bed to the ski slopes. When they arrived from Korea to Carol’s bedside in Sioux City, Iowa, after her motorcycle accident, Schuller had been shocked by what he saw. His daughter lay in her bed in intensive care. Her body was bruised, broken and disfigured. But her spirit was whole and hearty. Incidentally, while on the way to see her, Schuller had relentlessly pondered his opening line. What would be my first words to her? But on getting to her, she solved the problem by speaking first: “I know why it happened, Dad. God wants to use me to help others who have been hurt.”
It was this positive attitude that saw Carol through seven months of hospitalisation, intravenous feedings, and consequent collapsed veins. This positive attitude gave her the courage to fight a raging infection that threatened her limb and her life. She hung on until a new drug was released by the United States’ FDA (Federal Drug Agency). It was the right drug at the right time – a real miracle.
Moreover, it was the same positive mentality that helped Carol to make the transition from a hospital patient to a “handicapped” member of a family and school. It helped her feel normal and whole again. She refused to allow the inconvenience of an artificial limb to keep her from pursuing the active life she loved, including soft ball.
The summer after her accident, Carol shocked her father by saying: “Dad, I am going to sign up for softball again this year. “That’s great!” Her dad responded, not wanting to discourage her. At that time, Carol’s artificial leg had been attached just below the knee. She was plagued by a stiff knee that could barely bend a thirty-degree angle. She walked very stiffly. Running was out of the question.
However, Dr Schuller took Carol to the local school where all the parents were lining up with their girls to sign up for the girls’ softball team. Carol signed up and went back to check her uniform. As she swung her stiff plastic leg into the car and rested her jersey, socks and cap in her lap, her father turned to her and said, “Carol, how do you expect to play ball if you can’t run?” Instantly, she replied, “I have got that all figured out, Dad! When you hit home runs, you do not have to run.”
Carol eventually hit enough home runs that season to justify her presence on the team! She learnt the lesson: Tough times never last, but tough people do. She has had six more surgeries since that first amputation. She soon became a regular skier and ultimately met her goal, which was to win a gold medal in the qualifying races that, in turn, admitted her to the elite corps of skiers participating in the National Ski Championships! Some years back, she pulled her goggles on and took her place among champions in the country- at the young age of eighteen years! Yes, she still walked with a limp. She drew curious looks from strangers. But her positive attitude helped her even with that.
Now, this is the most incredible part. Few years ago, the Schullers were privileged to be guests of the American-Hawaiian Steamship Company on a one-week cruise; it is a custom on the last night to have a talent show in which any of the passengers can participate. Carol, then seventeen years old, surprised her family one day by saying, “I am going to be in the talent show tonight.”
Carol was not into singing or dancing. So, naturally, her father was curious as to what she would do that night. Carol is not in the least ashamed to be seen in shorts or swimming attire, although her present artificial left leg covers her stump to just below the hip. But she is very conscious of the fact that people look at her out of the corners of their eyes and wonder what happened to her.
On the night of the talent show, Schuller and his wife sat in the lounge along with six hundred other people. The talent show was scheduled to take place on the stage in the big, glorified cocktail lounge. As you can imagine, it is a very secular scene. The acts that performed that night were typical of amateur talent shows. Then it was Carol’s turn. She came on stage, wearing neither shorts nor Hawaiian garb, but a full-length dress. She looked beautiful. She walked up to the microphone and said:
“I really don’t know what my talent is, but I thought this would be a good chance for me to give what I think I owe you all, and that is an explanation. I know you have been looking at me all week, wondering about my fake leg. I thought I should tell you what happened. I was in a motorcycle accident. I almost died, but they kept giving me blood, and my pulse came back. They amputated my leg below the knee and later they amputated through the knee. I spent seven months in the hospital – seven months with intravenous antibiotics to fight infection.” She paused a moment, and then continued, “If I have one talent, it is this: I can tell you that during that time my faith became very real to me.”
Suddenly, a hush swept over the lounge. The waitresses stopped serving drinks. The glasses stopped tinkling. Every eye was focused on this tall seventeen- year-old blonde. She said, “I look at you girls who walk without a limp, and I wish I could walk that way. I cannot, but this is what I have learnt, and I want to leave it with you: It is not how you walk that counts, but what walks with you and who you walk with.” And she sang a powerful song,
And He walks with me,
And He talks with me
And He tells me I am His own,
And the joy we share
In our time of prayer
(originally, “as we tarry there”)
None other can ever know
“Thank you,” she ended.
According to Schuller, “There was not a dry eye, not a life that was not touched that night as Carol gave those powerful words. Tough times never last, but tough people always do! Because tough people know that with men it is impossible, but with God all things are possible! What makes a person survive and thrive? Why are some people tough enough to win over their tough times? These are questions that have before been important as they are today, because we are going through the toughest time that our country has ever faced. We cannot merely talk about strategies for success. We have to get down to hard core principles that will work. And the only principle that we can believe in are the principles that are tested, tried and proven (trusted).”
Possibility-mindset works! It has helped countless people survive very tough times. It can help you too. It helped Robert Schuller; it helped Carol Schuller; it helped David in the Bible; it helped Daniel; it helped Joshua, it helped Joseph; it helped Apostle Paul…and I repeat, it can help you too!
Possibility thinkers are go-getters. Everybody has challenges. But you can learn to solve and manage your challenges, turning them to stepping stones to your rightful destiny. No matter how bad your situation may seem, know that it could always be worse. So, be glad it is not worse. In fact, it is actually surmountable! Put your challenges in the proper perspective. Stop making mountains out of a molehill. You are a natural champion – live it out!
Thank you all for reading.
Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke is an accredited ISO 20700 Effective Leadership Management Trainer.
E-mail: adegoketolulope1022@gmail.com;
Impeached Speaker of the Lagos State House of Assembly, Mudashiru Obasa, has described the corruption allegations against him as “fictitious and unsubstantiated”.
Speaking during a welcome rally at his residence in GRA, Ikeja on Saturday, Obasa maintained that he was not afraid of being impeached but emphasised that due process was not followed.
The former Speaker alleged that his removal was orchestrated while he was away, and accused the state commissioner of police of aiding the process.
He claimed security agents, led by the police commissioner, invaded the assembly complex and his homes in Agege and Ikeja, locking his family indoors with over 200 officers present.
Obasa dismissed allegations of misappropriation.
He mocked claims that a gate construction had cost N16 billion, saying, “Is it the wall of Jericho?”
He said: “I am not afraid of being removed, after all, it is not my father’s chieftaincy title. I am representing my people and they have returned me six times. If you want to do anything, do it well.
“They did the removal all because I was out of the country. Lagos is a special place, we cannot denigrate the state.
The former Speaker cited the case of the former speaker, Rt. Hon Jokotola Pelumi.
He said when Pelumi was removed, he was in the assembly and “we did not invite policemen.
“When my sister, former deputy speaker of the House, Hon. Adefunmilayo Tejuosho was removed, we did not invite the police.”
Obasa said an innocent person should not be discredited, and there must be proof of allegations showing exactly what he has done.
“The Lagos State House of Assembly is above common standard of excellence.
“I appreciate the members of the governance advisory council and Governor Babajide Olusola Aanwo-Olu of the state. He is my brother and he always calls me his younger brother.”
Obasa was impeached on January 13 by more than two-thirds of the 40-member legislative house over alleged misconduct and sundry offences.
His Deputy, Mojisola Meranda, was immediately elected the new speaker, becoming the first female to take charge of the legislative body in the State.
The Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN) has confirmed that 38 persons, including seven crew members, were injured when a United Airlines plane made an emergency landing in Lagos on Friday morning.
The Boeing 787-8 flight with 245 passengers was en route to Washington Dulles International Airport (IAD), in the United States, from the Murtala Mohammed International Airport, Lagos, when it developed problems midair and was forced to return to the airport.
There were also 11 crew members – eight attendants and three pilots – on the plane.
The FAAN Director of Public Affairs and Consumer Protection, Obiageli Orah, who confirmed the incident through a statement, said all passengers and crew disembarked safely.
She, however, said four passengers and two crew members sustained serious injuries.
According to her, 27 passengers and five crew members had minor injuries.
The statement read: “The United Airlines Boeing 787-800 departed Murtala Muhammed International Airport (MMIA), Ikeja, at 11:59pm on Thursday, but made air return and landed safely at 3.22am on Friday.
“On board were 245 adults and 11 crew members.
“The team of Aerodrome Rescue and Fire Fighting Services, Aviation Medical, and Aviation Security were already at the gate when the aeroplane parked for deboarding at D31 without incident, and the door was opened at 3:37am.
“While all passengers and crew disembarked safely, four passengers and two crew members sustained serious injuries, and an additional 27 passengers and five crew members had minor injuries.
“The rescue team responded swiftly and effectively, having been on alert and standby.
“Aviation medical ambulances transported the injured passengers, some to the MMA Clinic and others to the headquarters clinic.”
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
There’s no doubt that human beings by nature are insatiable. When we get one opportunity, we always look for another. When we attain one height, we always look for another accomplishment. Isn’t it true that the end of one mountain is the beginning of another.
However, I don’t think it’s selfish for anyone to dare to succeed.
Being ambitious doesn’t make one an opportunist or disloyal. It all depends on one’s perception or outlook to life. It’s just natural for one to dream big. It’s only ugly when the process one chooses to achieve his desires becomes dirty and nasty.
According to a former Nigerian presidential candidate and seasoned Economist, Mr. Peter Obi, “if you must be referred to as “Your Excellency”, then the process through which you arrived in office must be excellent”.
If you desire to be reckoned with on the journey of existence, you must be legitimately hungry for success. One’s hunger for success will facilitate the drive to accomplish great tasks despite daunting obstacles posing as challenges.
When one has this mindset, one will not be bothered by the noise which serves as obstacles and challenges along the way. Negative and weak minds are always concerned on why something won’t work. They tend to focus their energy and reasons on the obstacles facing them. But great and productive minds always focus their energy on the reasons why it will work. This is the spirit of an insatiable mind who is a goal- getter.
It’s instructive to note that we can’t please everyone. According to Bill Cosby, a famous actor, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” Isn’t it true that when you talk, people will still talk about you, when you don’t talk, people will talk about you, so whether you talk or not, people will still judge you, so, do what’s best for you. There’s nothing you can do to please human beings. Your best option is to live your best life.
To understand how the insatiable nature of man works, one must be oneself. You don’t have to “please” anyone. Be yourself, and don’t try to be like anyone just to curry favour. It’s important to note that when you are yourself, the people that matter will come through for you, and the people that don’t matter will gradually find the bearing in another space because those that truly care don’t bother and those that bother don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.
Life has truly taught me to focus on the important things of life as opposed to the mundane things. It’s truly sad to see people spending more time on the little things of life, and spending little time on the important things of life. That’s just a misplaced priority.
When you are yourself, the best people can do is to copy or imitate your style. They can never imitate your creativity nor can take your originality from you.
We live in a world or society where people don’t generally care or show empathy. Most people tend to live around themselves, their family, and close associates. They generally find it hard to lift a finger to assist others for reasons best known to them. Rev. Fr. Ejike Mbaka once said, “we live in a wicked generation”, re-echoing the voices of a lot of people of the world. Some people in authority just have criminal expertise in amassing wealth of opportunities meant for the citizens without thinking of the citizens they are meant to serve.
It’s worthy of note that not everyone will like you nor support your work, but when you find people who truly care about you; please hold them tight. This is because despite having family members you have shown love and compassion, they might not still appreciate you even if you lay your life for them, they will still find something to say. Again, this is the insatiable nature of man.
It’s okay for everyone not to like you, normalize living your life for God, yourself, family and those that care about you. If everyone likes you, you have a problem.
Did you know that you can get a new family from friends, strangers, and acquaintances? These sets of people might appreciate you more than your own family members. They might not demand or under appreciate you like your family members and close friends or associates. Any little support you give them will be highly appreciated. Their focus is to see you do better.
In conclusion, as you desire to succeed in life, never give in to failure until you have made your last attempt, and never make your last attempt until you succeed. This literally means whatever you desire, dream it, think it, say it, and believe you can achieve it. This principle is generally applicable to relationships, businesses, family, personal and professional development.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your and Unleash Your Destiny . He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
