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Food for Living: Choose Your Name Wisely

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By Henry Ukazu

Greetings Dear Friends,

We all have names which our parents, godfather/mother, or even good relatives and friends gave to us at birth, and we always like to be addressed rightly and with respect before we respond. Just to let you know how powerful your name can be, if you are called a name that is not yours, there’s every tendency you won’t respond, nor matter how nice it may sound. Even if you are called the right name but with the wrong pronunciation, you might also feel slighted to respond, and even if you respond, you’ll react in a way as to offer correction. This is because names are very symbolic, and according to the platinum rule, people are treated the way they wish to be addressed.

Names are very powerful and they have deep meanings, and as a result, must be chosen wisely. Names are regarded as trademarks/logos and come in different shapes and sizes. Some people even have nicknames which have defined them in different ways. Even in business; the name you choose has an impact on people’s perception, especially your potential clients. Therefore, it is imperatively and critically important for you to consider whatever name you will like to be associated with.

A name is an identity. It is a descriptor that allows people to make quick judgments and assumptions about us. When a particular name is mentioned, a lot of questions normally come to mind. We can even assume what it is likely to be. Our names and identities are regarded as the first impressions people have about us. For example, how we dress, the way we wear our hair, how we behave, and even where we go; all begin with our identity and what we call ourselves. Whether it is religion, sexuality or gender, it is part of an identity that can influence how you present yourself to the world, and how you interact with the world. Depending on the situation and circumstance, what we call ourselves may change. That is why it is important for you to consider the name, group or network you are associated with.

The big question we have to answer is what name do I respond to? As human beings, some of us are very sensitive, some are conservative while others tend to have a liberal attitude towards life. Depending on which category you belong to, you can decide to be the game-changer in whatever situation you are into. You may have been called a dull person, lazy being, slow, ugly, fat, etc., but how you respond is actually what makes the ultimate difference. As you may know, life is not what happens to you, but how you react to it. It should be noted that you can’t stop people calling you negative names, but you can decide to choose what you answer to. As a an advice, don’t answer names you are called, when they call you hello depressed, short, unattractive, unqualified, sick, orphan, just calmly respond, ‘sorry there’s no one by that name around here, I guess you may have gotten the wrong address’. In a rhetoric way, you can also respond, do you mean positive, tall, smart, healthy, blessed, beautiful, handsome, extraordinary, talented, skillful, etc.

Studies suggest that liking your own name is predictive of well-being and happiness, and it also positively affects your self-esteem. But does your name affect how other people treat you? According to Dale Carnegie.

“A person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”   Why then is it so important to call people their true names? A person’s name is the greatest connection to their own identity and individuality. Some might say it is the most important word in the world to that person. This is because it is one of the fastest and easiest ways to get someone’s attention especially when they are teased or praised.

Here are some tips on how you can use your name to influence your brand.

Make it a commitment:

Make a commitment to answer whatever uplifts and support your vision. Once you are subconsciously aware of what happens around you, do yourself a favor to international change the narrative by changing the negative news or information that surrounds you or your business. For example, you can work on your self, business, brand, organization, etc; to the extent, people will recognize you as an excellent or reliable person/brand as opposed to the different labels that bring negative vibes to you. As you may know, the world is governed by perception.

Practice:

Practicing whatever name brand you want to be associated with is a great way to bring change to not only your personal life but your business or brand. You can do this by calling yourself names of interest that appeal to you. You may be surprised to know it will come back to you. Don’t be concerned about the negative voices you may be hearing from friends or even family members, just continue to work on your craft. There have been testimonies of people who dreamt of being a governor, president, leader of an industry, etc. despite not having what it takes to be the person in the picture. They were able to act it in addition to calling themselves the names and guess what, it’s it came to pass. In one of my articles I published five years ago titled: Dreams Come True, I opined that your dreams are valid and it will come true if you work hard, believe in yourself and have the God factor around you.

Ignore the name tag:

As mentioned earlier, it is up to you to respond to whatever name you decide to answer. Names don’t matter anything unless you give it the needed power/energy it needs to feed on.  Names are like dead woods, but you can activate life into it when you speak life into it. Names work with our minds, when you decide to call yourself love, love will automatically follow you.

Furthermore, Ignore the nay-sayers and give your attention to what brings you life, and when you do, the desired transformation will begin to rear up. Personally, I was called names because of my horrible writing skills, but I have been able to author a book by the special grace of God which my detractors have not been able to accomplish. The secret is simple, I never answered the negative names I was called.

Creating Opportunity:

Knowing how to relate with people is a powerful skill that is in high demand. A good personal relation skill will create opportunities for you. It’s like a charm that can disarm even the most hardened person to respond to stimuli. As popularly opined in some social parlance, if a man can make a lady to smile, he’s halfway into her heart. It is important to note that people want to be treated as human beings, not objects. Using their name is the fastest and most reliable way of building rapport and creating a good first impression. Everyone has a name — use it to better connect to them, especially if you work in the customer service position. You will notice a difference in your relationships.

In conclusion, what is your name?

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success. He can be reached via henrous@gmail.com

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NATOP Returns to Classroom for WTD 2026, Holds Multi-zone Celebration Across Nigeria

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The Nigeria Association of Tour Operators (NATOP) marked the 2026 World Tourism Day with activities which capture capacity building, technology, destination promotion and domestic tourism, and celebration.

In the South West Zone, close to 200 tour operators gathered at Ziba Beach Resort, Lagos, for a special training focused on Artificial Intelligence and its application in tourism, equipping operators with digital tools to improve their businesses and destination marketing.

In Abuja, the FCT and Northern Zone, in collaboration with Naija Adventurers, staged a colourful Tourism Awareness Walk and Hike to the Centre of Nigeria.

The celebration also spread to the South-South Zone, where members marked the day with a destination tour, alongside activities to commemorate with the world tourism day celebrations.

In line with the theme for this year’s WTD celebration: ‘Digital agenda and artificial intelligence to redesign tourism’ the NATOP training on AI and application in tour operation at Ziba Beach Resort Lagos saw a large turnout of the members of the association.

The President of the association, Hajia Bolaji Mustapha explained that the idea for the location and training was to train members on how to do tour business, to know how to promote tourism digitally, using different AI tool and everything so that they will grow their businesses.

She said: “we follow the theme and, you know, blend with the old situation. Let’s do the training so that we attach it to the World Tourism Day with the theme that we have achieved something and also celebrate.”

She said the training will go a long way in helping the tour operators do greater content to digitally tell destination stories using AI, and also using the tool for expression.

Mustapha also explained why the association chose Ziba Beach Resort: “We always attach World Tourism Day to a tourism site. And definitely, if you look at this whole area and this community, that’s why we see that Ziba is a tourism site. We want to explore and of course. The resort newly launched its third phase. So, we will use this opportunity to look at their rooms, look at how we can sell this destination, to showcase it that the resort is actually in Nigeria, not Zanzibar. By using the place, we would kill two birds with one stones.
Facility tour of Ziba Beach Resort

“As tour operators who are willing to tell the good story of our Nigeria, we need to bring ourselves up to the speed, align with the digital revolution. Let everybody go digital. Because we also see the content creators are taking our business, we want to align it with what they do. We are the ones that understand the business and we’ll be able to tell the story better, so that anybody coming to Nigeria will be able to discover Nigeria with the experts.”

Also commenting on the celebration, the NATOP Vice President South West and chairman of the WTD Organizing Committee for the zone, Mrs. Wonuola Olatunde-Lamidi explained why NATOP South West’s usage of the 2026 WTD for training. She said many of the members still have a lot to learn about the tour business, and that some do not understand the foundation of the business, including how to create packages hence the need for the training.

Mrs. Olatunde-Lamidi spoke further: “Many don’t understand the foundation of what it is to create a tour package. And when you have people that are not well-trained in an industry, the industry will not grow. The kind of people that you also have will not have enough earning power to do many things. And because this is an industry that I have been in for 16 years, I run Diamonds and Pearls Travels with my husband. And I’ve seen Diamonds and Pearls Travels metamorphose into a company where people don’t just look at us as travel agents. We have become a Destination Management Company (DMC). We have become a trusted brand. We have become a company that when we talk about a destination, people want to go to that destination because of how we have portrayed the destination. And you may not realize that, as tour operators, you can actually decide where people go. You can make people go to a particular destination by marketing it, by letting them know the benefits of that destination.”

The tour operators had opportunity to tour the resort and unwind during the programme.

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Truce and Truth: Commitment, Dilemma, and the Way Forward in Contemporary World

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By Tolulope A. Adegoke

“A truce can be signed in an afternoon; peace must be lived for a lifetime. Between the silence of guns and the awakening of memory lies the only ground on which nations may learn to stand together—not because they have forgotten, but because they have finally chosen to remember honestly.” – Tolulope A. Adegoke, PhD

Introduction: The Gap Between Two Kinds of “Ending”

On the stage of contemporary international politics, one recurring phenomenon deserves deep reflection: conflicting parties frequently announce “ceasefires,” “truces,” or “peace agreements,” yet lasting peace often remains elusive. This gap between “ending” and “peace” constitutes one of the most profound political paradoxes of our time. A truce is the silence of guns, while truth is the awakening of memory. The former can be achieved by a single declaration within hours; the latter requires years, even generations, of honest reckoning. The choices contemporary leaders make in navigating this paradox not only determine whether a conflict truly ends, but also shape whether future generations move toward reconciliation or slide back into a new cycle of violence.

This essay seeks to examine, from an unbiased perspective, the tension between “truce” and “truth” in contemporary world political leadership, to analyze its structural dilemmas, and to explore a way forward that does not inflict further harm.

I. The Nature of Truce: From “Pause” to “Transaction”

To understand the limitations of contemporary truces, one must first clarify their legal and political character. In international diplomatic practice, there is an essential distinction between a “joint statement” and a “peace agreement.” A joint statement typically expresses a common position or intention; its content is broad and flexible, without enforcement mechanisms or punitive provisions. A peace agreement, by contrast, is a formally binding document that stipulates clear rights and obligations and includes verification and implementation mechanisms. The border ceasefire document signed by Thailand and Cambodia in Malaysia in 2025 was a “joint statement” rather than a “peace agreement”—it was a “first step,” not the end of the conflict.

This distinction is crucial because it reveals a core feature of contemporary truces: a truce is often a “transaction,” not a “resolution.” Take the 2025 ceasefire in Gaza as an example. The core of the agreement was “hostages for prisoners” and the withdrawal of Israeli forces to a line that had not yet been clearly delineated. The ceasefire took effect on paper, but the postwar governance structure of Gaza, the armed status of Hamas, and the prospect of Palestinian statehood—these fundamental questions “remained to be decided.” As analysts have pointed out, this was more like “yet another temporary pause in a war that began in 1948.”

The Trump administration’s diplomatic maneuvers in the Middle East and on Ukraine pushed this “transactional truce” to its extreme. Its pattern can be summarized as follows: escalate threats to an “apocalyptic” level, force the other side to negotiate under pressure, and then accept a narrow exchange at the last moment—safe passage through the Strait of Hormuz for a two-week ceasefire, mutual non-attack on energy infrastructure for verbal assurances. The efficiency of this approach is real, but its costs are equally real: when every crisis is framed as a moment of “civilizational survival,” credibility gradually erodes. The next threat no longer sounds like a warning, but rather like a rerun.

II. The Absence of Truth: Why Truces Fail to Endure

If a truce is merely a pause in violence, why is it so difficult to transform into lasting peace? The answer lies in an insight that has been repeatedly verified yet repeatedly ignored: peace does not reside in documents; it resides in people.

In statements before the Security Council, the United Nations Secretary-General has pointed out clearly that conflicting parties can agree to cease hostilities, can initiate reconstruction processes, and can even form joint governments. But “without including a broad and diverse range of voices in every step of this process—without bringing everyone along—any peace will be short-lived.” Long-accumulated grievances, inequalities, distrust, and social divisions do not automatically disappear when the fighting stops. They can easily reignite, and may worsen if the people and groups yearning for change do not see their needs and visions addressed.

This judgment is supported by empirical research. Studies of transitional justice processes in Uganda, Haiti, and other countries show that formal transitional justice mechanisms established without a foundation of “mutual recognition” often fail to bridge social fractures—partly because their agendas are hijacked by divisive politics, and partly because such “false starts” are in fact more harmful than doing nothing at all. In other words, a truce without preparation for truth may be worse than no truce at all.

The ceasefire experience along the Lebanon-Israel border offers another sobering case. When the ceasefire agreement took effect, the parties held vastly different understandings of its content: Trump claimed the agreement covered Israel and Hezbollah, while Netanyahu insisted that the Lebanon front was not within its scope. This “each side telling its own story” meant that the ceasefire was “flawed from the outset.” Even if the agreement holds, it merely freezes the conflict rather than resolving it.

III. The Tension Between Truth and Justice: A Difficult Balance

If truth is a necessary condition for lasting peace, then the relationship between truth and justice constitutes one of the most intractable problems in contemporary peace-building. Human rights advocates argue that perpetrators of war crimes and serious human rights violations must be held accountable and punished to prevent further violence. Conflict resolution practitioners, meanwhile, worry that condemning perpetrators of violence may reinforce social divisions and make the healing process more difficult.

This tension exists at every stage of conflict, not only after a peace agreement is signed. South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission provides a widely studied example. The Commission was mandated to investigate human rights violations committed under apartheid and—this was its most controversial aspect—to grant amnesty to perpetrators who fully disclosed their crimes. For many South Africans, this was a high price paid in the name of truth. Critics pointed out that the focus on individual acts of violence obscured the structural evils of the apartheid system, while the government’s lack of willingness to prosecute after amnesty further aggravated perceptions of impunity.

The South African experience reveals a deeper dilemma: truth itself is not neutral. Who defines truth? Whose suffering is recorded, and whose is forgotten? The narrative of reconciliation is often dominated by political elites, while the everyday experiences of ordinary victims may be marginalized. In Kenya, the Truth, Justice and Reconciliation Commission established after the 2007 election violence was itself led by figures accused of involvement in political violence, and its recommendations have largely been ignored by those in power. This failure gave rise to alternative civil society efforts: a widows’ dialogue group led by a Kenyan woman brought together women from different ethnic communities to share their experiences of losing partners in the violence. The husbands of these men had once fought and even killed one another, yet these women, through sustained, safe, and context-sensitive dialogue spaces, slowly rebuilt trust between communities.

This grassroots experience points toward a different politics of truth: not grand-national narratives, but everyday, relational, and slow mutual recognition.

IV. Thin Sympathy: A Realist Way Forward

Faced with the tension between truth and justice, and between truce and lasting peace, what path is feasible? Joanna R. Quinn, in her book Thin Sympathy, proposes an approach that deserves serious consideration.

Quinn’s central argument is this: in divided multi-ethnic societies, most citizens know very little about the suffering of other groups, while politicians deliberately deepen the information and emotional divide to exploit social fractures. Under such conditions, demanding “thick sympathy”—that is, deep emotional resonance and active empathetic engagement—is unrealistic. But “thin sympathy” is possible: it means learning about and acknowledging the experiences of others, without requiring deep emotional investment.

Thin sympathy can be cultivated through various means: unstructured contact at the level of daily life; cross-community cultural diplomacy (including art, exhibitions, educational programs, literature, language teaching, broadcasting, and listening with respect); and the creative use of local and national media. The goal of these practices is not to achieve “reconciliation” or “forgiveness” immediately, but to gradually accumulate a foundation of mutual recognition, so that formal transitional justice mechanisms can operate on more solid social ground.

The core insight of this approach is that the success of formal mechanisms depends on informal, everyday-level preparation. Truth commissions, amnesties, and reparations programs can produce only limited results on their own; if there is no basic mutual understanding among members of society, these mechanisms may be politically manipulated or even prove counterproductive.

V. The Colombian Lesson: The Possibility of an Integrated Path

If South Africa represents one attempt to resolve the tension between truth and justice, Colombia offers a more integrated and long-term example.

Colombia’s conflict involved the government, paramilitary groups, guerrillas, organized crime, and drug trafficking cartels, and it lasted for decades. Its peace process did not begin with the signing of the 2016 Havana Agreement; it can be traced back to the 2005 Justice and Peace Law, which dismantled paramilitary groups through reparations, amnesties, and demobilization. Subsequently, the Santos government pushed forward negotiations with the Revolutionary Armed Forces of Colombia (FARC) and established an integrated system comprising a Special Jurisdiction for Peace, a truth commission, a unit for the search for missing persons, land restitution programs, and a victims’ affairs department.

A notable feature of this system is that it sought to balance local concerns with international legal standards (particularly regarding amnesties), while maintaining “genuine local ownership.” International input and expertise proved valuable, but ultimately the driving force of the process came from within Colombia. Through long-term cooperation—often amid serious disagreements—Colombians developed a shared conception of “transformative reconciliation,” including common positions on key justice issues such as amnesty and reparations.

The Colombian experience shows that an integrated path is possible, but it requires time, patience, and institutionalized commitment. It also shows that the balance between truth and justice is not decided once and for all, but is continuously adjusted through ongoing negotiation and adaptation.

VI. Conflict Sensitivity and “Do No Harm”: A Methodology

In discussions of peace-building, one methodological principle that is often overlooked but crucially important is “conflict sensitivity” and the “do no harm” principle. Conflict sensitivity means recognizing the two-way interaction between aid interventions and the conflict context: any action—however well-intentioned—may inadvertently exacerbate conflict dynamics. The goal is to minimize negative impacts and maximize positive contributions.

This principle applies to all contexts and all stages of conflict, regardless of the level of violence, and to all types of humanitarian, conflict resolution, peace-building, and recovery work. Conflict sensitivity requires three key steps: understanding the context (a nuanced grasp of peace and conflict dynamics), identifying interactions (recognizing how interventions may affect or be affected by the conflict context), and adjusting activities (making changes based on that understanding to avoid exacerbating conflict and to enhance peace opportunities).

The significance of this methodology lies in its transformation of “do no harm” from an abstract principle into actionable practice. In the field of peace-building, this means conducting rigorous conflict impact assessments for every intervention—whether diplomatic mediation, humanitarian assistance, or transitional justice mechanisms. A truth commission whose design ignores local social fractures may inadvertently reinforce divisions; a reparations program perceived as favoring one group may provoke new resentment.

VII. The Way Forward: A Long Journey from Truce to Living Together

What, then, should a path toward lasting peace that does not cause further harm look like?

First, face the nature of truce honestly. A truce is necessary, but it is not peace. Confusing a truce with peace is not merely a conceptual muddle; it is a political danger, because it can obscure fundamental problems and allow conflict to ferment in a deeper silence. The Gaza experience shows that a “ceasefire” can simultaneously be a “diplomatic breakthrough” and a state in which “fighting continues.” Acknowledging this complexity is the first step toward genuine resolution.

Second, place truth at the core of the truce, but understand truth in a realistic way. Truth is not a single, state-led narrative, but a multi-layered, relational process that requires time to cultivate. The lesson of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission lies both in its success—bringing systemic violence into public view—and in its limitations—failing to adequately address structural injustice. The experiences of Kenya and Colombia point toward alternative paths: grassroots, community-led, slow mutual recognition.

Third, adopt “thin sympathy” as a feasible starting point. Do not expect people in divided societies to develop deep emotional resonance immediately. Instead, create opportunities for different groups to encounter one another in daily life, and accumulate a foundation of mutual recognition through culture, education, media, and dialogue. This “thin” starting point is precisely the preparation required for “thick” reconciliation.

Fourth, institutionalize conflict sensitivity. Any peace-building intervention—from diplomatic agreements to community projects—should undergo rigorous conflict impact assessment. This is not a demand for perfection, but a demand for honesty: acknowledging that even the most well-intentioned actions can produce unintended negative consequences, and establishing mechanisms to identify, monitor, and adjust for those consequences.

Fifth, embrace a long time horizon. Colombia’s integrated path was the product of decades of evolution, not the outcome of a single summit. South Africa’s truth and reconciliation process, though concentrated in 1996–1998, continues to shape and provoke debate to this day. Lasting peace is the work of a generation, not the achievement of a single administration.

 

Conclusion

The gap between “truce” and “truth” in contemporary world political leadership cannot be bridged by smarter diplomatic or greater coercive power. It is rooted in a deeper recognition: peace is not the silence of guns, but the willingness of people to decide to live together. That willingness cannot be imposed; it can only be cultivated.

For those who lead amid conflict—whether heads of state, international organization officials, or ordinary citizens in communities—the most important quality may not be negotiating skill or mobilizing capacity, but patience: the patience to listen to uncomfortable truths, the patience to wait for trust to grow slowly, and the patience to accept that peace is not a single arrival but a continuous practice.

The call issued by Pope Leo XIV during his 2026 visit to France may be the best summary of this quality: do not yield to the view that war is “inevitable,” but instead “unceasingly promote dialogue and diplomacy to preserve a peaceful society.” This “unarmed, disarmed peace” is precisely where truce and truth ultimately meet.

Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke, AMBP-UN, is a globally recognized scholar-practitioner and thought leader at the nexus of security, governance, and strategic leadership. His mission is dedicated to advancing ethical governance, strategic human capital development, resilient nation-building, and global peace. He bridges the worlds of academic rigor and practical application, contributing to leadership discourse at the highest levels of policy and practice. He can be reached via: tolulopeadegoke01@gmail.com, globalstageimpacts@gmail.com

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Tinubu Will Not Survive Second Term in Office If He Wins – Primate Ayodele

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Controversial cleric, founder and leader of the INRI Evangelical Spiritual Church, Primate Elijah Ayodele, has said that President Bola Tinubu is sick and will not be able to complete a second term if he wins the 2027 presidential election.

In a video posted on Tuesday, Mr Ayodele predicted that Mr Tinubu might end up like ex-President Musa Yar’Adua, who died in office, if he wins re-election in 2027.

“If Tinubu wins the second time, he will not finish it. I stand by my word, he will not finish it. What happened to Yar’Adua or whatever that will make him not to finish it that will lead to emergency government, make Shettima take over from him might happen,” Mr Ayodele said. “Tinubu will not finish his second term, thus says the Lord of hosts.”

Mr Ayodele claimed he was denied access to Tinubu by those Mr Tinubu surrounded himself with, those who do not want him to hear the truth.

“People surrounding Tinubu don’t want him to hear the truth. They don’t want him to hear people like us. I don’t say prophets should not go again. Let them bring one billion alfas. It is a matter of time. You will all see it. If Tinubu wins a second term, he will not finish it. It is not a curse,” the INRI spiritual leader declared.

The cleric called on the president’s family to rally prayers and not let Mr Tinubu die.

“You are not seeing what I am seeing. Tinubu is not OK. He needs prayers. Wife, children of Tinubu, wake up. Seyi! Help Tinubu. Don’t let your father die,” Mr Ayodele said.

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