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Food for Living: Choose Your Name Wisely
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By Henry Ukazu
Greetings Dear Friends,
We all have names which our parents, godfather/mother, or even good relatives and friends gave to us at birth, and we always like to be addressed rightly and with respect before we respond. Just to let you know how powerful your name can be, if you are called a name that is not yours, there’s every tendency you won’t respond, nor matter how nice it may sound. Even if you are called the right name but with the wrong pronunciation, you might also feel slighted to respond, and even if you respond, you’ll react in a way as to offer correction. This is because names are very symbolic, and according to the platinum rule, people are treated the way they wish to be addressed.
Names are very powerful and they have deep meanings, and as a result, must be chosen wisely. Names are regarded as trademarks/logos and come in different shapes and sizes. Some people even have nicknames which have defined them in different ways. Even in business; the name you choose has an impact on people’s perception, especially your potential clients. Therefore, it is imperatively and critically important for you to consider whatever name you will like to be associated with.
A name is an identity. It is a descriptor that allows people to make quick judgments and assumptions about us. When a particular name is mentioned, a lot of questions normally come to mind. We can even assume what it is likely to be. Our names and identities are regarded as the first impressions people have about us. For example, how we dress, the way we wear our hair, how we behave, and even where we go; all begin with our identity and what we call ourselves. Whether it is religion, sexuality or gender, it is part of an identity that can influence how you present yourself to the world, and how you interact with the world. Depending on the situation and circumstance, what we call ourselves may change. That is why it is important for you to consider the name, group or network you are associated with.
The big question we have to answer is what name do I respond to? As human beings, some of us are very sensitive, some are conservative while others tend to have a liberal attitude towards life. Depending on which category you belong to, you can decide to be the game-changer in whatever situation you are into. You may have been called a dull person, lazy being, slow, ugly, fat, etc., but how you respond is actually what makes the ultimate difference. As you may know, life is not what happens to you, but how you react to it. It should be noted that you can’t stop people calling you negative names, but you can decide to choose what you answer to. As a an advice, don’t answer names you are called, when they call you hello depressed, short, unattractive, unqualified, sick, orphan, just calmly respond, ‘sorry there’s no one by that name around here, I guess you may have gotten the wrong address’. In a rhetoric way, you can also respond, do you mean positive, tall, smart, healthy, blessed, beautiful, handsome, extraordinary, talented, skillful, etc.
Studies suggest that liking your own name is predictive of well-being and happiness, and it also positively affects your self-esteem. But does your name affect how other people treat you? According to Dale Carnegie.
“A person’s name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Why then is it so important to call people their true names? A person’s name is the greatest connection to their own identity and individuality. Some might say it is the most important word in the world to that person. This is because it is one of the fastest and easiest ways to get someone’s attention especially when they are teased or praised.
Here are some tips on how you can use your name to influence your brand.
Make it a commitment:
Make a commitment to answer whatever uplifts and support your vision. Once you are subconsciously aware of what happens around you, do yourself a favor to international change the narrative by changing the negative news or information that surrounds you or your business. For example, you can work on your self, business, brand, organization, etc; to the extent, people will recognize you as an excellent or reliable person/brand as opposed to the different labels that bring negative vibes to you. As you may know, the world is governed by perception.
Practice:
Practicing whatever name brand you want to be associated with is a great way to bring change to not only your personal life but your business or brand. You can do this by calling yourself names of interest that appeal to you. You may be surprised to know it will come back to you. Don’t be concerned about the negative voices you may be hearing from friends or even family members, just continue to work on your craft. There have been testimonies of people who dreamt of being a governor, president, leader of an industry, etc. despite not having what it takes to be the person in the picture. They were able to act it in addition to calling themselves the names and guess what, it’s it came to pass. In one of my articles I published five years ago titled: Dreams Come True, I opined that your dreams are valid and it will come true if you work hard, believe in yourself and have the God factor around you.
Ignore the name tag:
As mentioned earlier, it is up to you to respond to whatever name you decide to answer. Names don’t matter anything unless you give it the needed power/energy it needs to feed on. Names are like dead woods, but you can activate life into it when you speak life into it. Names work with our minds, when you decide to call yourself love, love will automatically follow you.
Furthermore, Ignore the nay-sayers and give your attention to what brings you life, and when you do, the desired transformation will begin to rear up. Personally, I was called names because of my horrible writing skills, but I have been able to author a book by the special grace of God which my detractors have not been able to accomplish. The secret is simple, I never answered the negative names I was called.
Creating Opportunity:
Knowing how to relate with people is a powerful skill that is in high demand. A good personal relation skill will create opportunities for you. It’s like a charm that can disarm even the most hardened person to respond to stimuli. As popularly opined in some social parlance, if a man can make a lady to smile, he’s halfway into her heart. It is important to note that people want to be treated as human beings, not objects. Using their name is the fastest and most reliable way of building rapport and creating a good first impression. Everyone has a name — use it to better connect to them, especially if you work in the customer service position. You will notice a difference in your relationships.
In conclusion, what is your name?
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success. He can be reached via henrous@gmail.com
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Alleged Conspiracy, Murder: Lagos Police Declare Ajibola Obateru, Folawiyo Balogun Wanted
The Nigeria Police Force, Lagos State Criminal Investigation Department (CID) Panti, Yaba, has declared the duo of Ajibola Obateru and Folawiyo Balogun Alagbado wanted, in connection with conspiracy and murder of an unnamed person.
The two males are on the run after they allegedly committed the nefarious activities, National Association of Online Security News Publishers (NAOSNP) can report.
The Manhunt, which was launched in separate announcements hinted that Ajibola Obateru, 32, 5ft 9, a ‘fleeing suspect, allegedly conspired with others and attacked the victim, made away with her body and personal belongings. The crime was committed at Ikoyi Axis of lagos.’
In the same vein, Folawiyo Balogun Alagbado, Yoruba, 32, average height ‘conspired with others to attack the victim allegedly killed her and made away with her body to an unknown location. The victim’s belongings were also stolen by the fleeing suspect and his cohorts. The crime was committed at Ikoyi Axis of Lagos.’
The State CID Panti Yaba hinted that the last known address of the two men on the run is Ibadan, Oyo State and urges members of the public to report them immediately upon sighting.
“Anyone who sees him should please arrest and hand him over to the nearest police station or report immediately to the office of the Commissioner of Police State CID, Panti Yaba or call 08038843816,” the wanted notice revealed.
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Police Warn Politicians, VIPs Against Arriving Polling Units with Armed Escorts
The Nigeria Police Force has barred political figures and VIPs from taking armed escorts, security aides and other unauthorised persons to polling units and collation centres during Saturday’s Osun State governorship election.
The directive is part of the security measures being deployed by the Inspector-General of Police, IGP Olatunji Rilwan Disu, to ensure a peaceful, secure and credible electoral process across the State.
The Force Public Relations Officer, CSP Ani Iniedu, disclosed this in a statement issued on Wednesday, August 12, 2026, adding that the IGP has deployed Deputy Inspector-General of Police, DIG Ishyaku Mohammed, to Osun State to coordinate security operations for the August 15 governorship election.
DIG Mohammed will coordinate the Police component of the election-security arrangement and work closely with other security agencies under the Inter-Agency Consultative Committee on Election Security, ICCES.
He will be supported by Assistant Inspectors-General of Police and Commissioners of Police strategically deployed across the state’s three senatorial districts to supervise operations, strengthen intelligence-led policing and ensure prompt response to emerging threats.
The Force said adequate security arrangements had been put in place for the protection of voters, INEC personnel, election materials, polling units, collation centres, accredited observers and media practitioners before, during and after the election.
The IGP, however, warned political actors, their supporters and all intending troublemakers that ballot snatching, voter intimidation, political thuggery and other electoral offences would attract prompt arrest and prosecution.
The Force further reiterated the ban on armed escorts, security aides and other unauthorised persons accompanying political figures or VIPs to polling units or collation centres on election day.
State-established security outfits, quasi-security groups and private security organisations are equally barred from election-security duties, in line with established Nigeria Police Force election-security directives.
The police urged eligible voters in Osun State to exercise their franchise peacefully and without fear, assuring residents and visitors of adequate security throughout the election period.
The Force also reaffirmed its commitment to professionalism, neutrality, respect for human rights and the protection of the electoral process.
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PRIDE: The Plague That Drives, and Entombs the Proud
By Tolulope A. Adegoke PhD
Pride is the only fortress that grows weaker as its walls grow taller; for it is built not of stone, but of certitude—and certitude, unlike granite, crumbles under the weight of its own reflection. The humble do not build walls; they build bridges to the very truths that threaten to undo them, knowing that what is undone can be remade, but what is unmoved is already ruins waiting for time to catch up.
An Exposition on the Metamorphosis of Ego, the Architecture of Collapse, and the Antidote of Intellectual Humility
I. Introduction: The Paradox of the Ascending Trajectory
To speak of “Pride” in the contemporary lexicon is often to invoke a benign, even necessary, virtue—the self-esteem required for innovation, the national spirit required for sovereignty, or the corporate confidence required for market dominance. However, the etymological and philosophical roots of Pride (from the Old English prȳde, akin to the Old Norse prúðr, meaning “brave” or “splendid”) harbor a latent volatility. When pride solidifies from a state of graceful confidence into a rigid state of hubris, it ceases to be a virtue and becomes a plague. This is not a moralistic judgment; it is an epidemiological fact of organizational, national, and personal psychology.
This treatise posits that Pride, in its pathogenic form, is the singular most potent inhibitor of evolutionary adaptability. It is the “plague that drives the proud” not toward the pinnacle of success, but toward the precipice of irrelevance. The proud are driven by a compulsive need to validate a static self-image, rather than a dynamic process of becoming. To solve the grand challenges facing Peoples, Corporates, and Nations, we must first diagnose the symptomatology of this plague and administer the rigorous antidote of Intellectual Humility—a framework that embraces fallibility as the engine of resilience.
II. The Phenomenology of the Plague: Diagnosing the Symptoms
Before prescribing a cure, we must map the pathology. The plague of pride manifests not as overt arrogance alone, but often as subtle, systemic dysfunctions across three distinct strata: the Individual, the Collective, and the Institutional.
1. The Narcissism of Small Differences (The Individual Level)
At the personal level, pathological pride creates a “cognitive armor” that repels external data incongruent with the self-concept. This is the “Dunning-Kruger Effect” elevated to a lifestyle. The proud individual suffers from a deficit of meta-cognition—they do not know what they do not know.
· Exemplar: Consider the case of a seasoned CEO who refuses to adopt digital transformation because their legacy success validates their “gut instinct.” They confuse correlation (past success under specific conditions) with causation (their infallible decision-making). The plague drives them to reject junior analysts’ data, not because the data is flawed, but because acknowledging its validity would necessitate a reconstruction of their identity. The result is Blockbuster Video, Kodak, or Sears—mammoths frozen in the amber of their own past triumphs.
2. The Echo Chamber of Consensus (The Corporate Level)
In corporate structures, pride evolves into “Groupthink.” Here, the plague manifests as an institutional allergy to dissenting voices. The drive for cohesion overrides the imperative for veracity. When a corporation becomes proud of its culture to the exclusion of its market reality, it ceases to be a value-creating entity and becomes a value-preserving cult.
· Exemplar: The fall of Enron was not merely a fraud of accounting; it was a fraud of intellect. The corporate pride in being “the smartest guys in the room” created a toxic environment where questioning the viability of the business model was tantamount to treason. They were driven by the pride of complex financial instruments, ignoring the simple reality of cash flow. The plague drove them to fabricate reality because accepting the truth would have been an unbearable admission of mediocrity.
3. The Imperial Overreach (The National Level)
For nations, the plague of pride is manifest as “Strategic Narcissism.” This is the conviction that historical exceptionalism guarantees future dominance. Nations afflicted by this plague view geopolitical shifts not as challenges to adapt to, but as insults to their ordained status. This leads to a fatal misallocation of resources—over-investing in the preservation of outdated paradigms and under-investing in emergent ones.
· Exemplar: The decline of the Spanish Empire in the 17th century serves as a historical archetype. Flooded with New World silver, the Spanish Crown developed an arrogance that devalued domestic manufacturing and intellectual rigor. They were driven by the pride of being the Catholic Defender, ignoring the rising mercantile and scientific powers of Northern Europe. Their pride prevented the structural reforms necessary for solvency, resulting in repeated sovereign defaults. The plague drove them to prioritize image over infrastructure.
III. The Mechanics of the Plague: Why It Drives the Proud
The driving force of this plague is rooted in Cognitive Dissonance and the Sunk Cost Fallacy. The proud are not simply arrogant; they are trapped. Their identity is inextricably linked to their past decisions. To admit a flaw in the present is to retroactively invalidate the self. Therefore, the plague drives them to “double down.”
This mechanism operates through three distinct gears:
1. The Selectivity of Attention: The proud perceive only data that confirms their bias (Confirmation Bias). They view critics not as informants, but as adversaries.
2. The Denigration of the External: To protect the internal self, the proud must devalue the external world. Competitors are dismissed as “lucky” or “unethical.” New technologies are dismissed as “fads.”
3. The Acceleration of Inertia: The proud do not stop; they accelerate into the abyss. Because stopping would require introspection, they increase velocity, mistaking motion for progress.
This dynamic creates a “fatal feedback loop.” The more the external world changes, the more rigid the internal world becomes. The plague drives the proud not toward a destination, but toward a collision course with reality.
IV. The Antidote: Intellectual Humility as Systemic Immunity
If Pride is the plague, Intellectual Humility is the vaccine. Crucially, this is not the absence of confidence; it is the regulation of confidence. It is the meta-cognitive awareness that one’s current map is not the territory. It is the capacity to hold strong convictions weakly—to be decisive in action yet tentative in epistemology.
To solve the challenges across Peoples, Corporates, and Nations, we must operationalize Intellectual Humility through three pillars:
1. The Red Team Imperative (For Corporates and Nations)
Institutional pride is dismantled through structural dissent. Corporations and governments must institutionalize the “Red Team”—a group whose explicit job is to disprove the prevailing hypothesis. This moves critique from the personal realm (accusation) to the procedural realm (analysis).
· Application: The intelligence failures preceding the 2003 Iraq War (WMDs) were exacerbated by a lack of rigorous red-teaming. In contrast, the Cuban Missile Crisis was resolved successfully because President Kennedy actively sought dissenting voices against the aggressive advice of the Joint Chiefs. He humbled his administration’s pride by demanding alternative perspectives, preventing a nuclear catastrophe. For a corporation, this means promoting a “Devil’s Advocate” department that is rewarded for finding flaws in the business model, not for towing the line.
2. The “Pre-Mortem” Strategy (For Peoples and Leadership)
Psychologist Gary Klein introduced the “Pre-Mortem”—a technique where teams imagine that a project has failed spectacularly and work backward to determine the cause. This breaks the plague’s hold because it bypasses the defensive ego.
· Application: Before launching a new national policy or corporate merger, leaders should force the team to write a “history of the future” detailing the catastrophe. This exercise forces the proud to externalize their fears, revealing latent risks that the plague of optimism would otherwise suppress. For individuals, this is the practice of asking, “If I am wrong about this deeply held belief, what evidence would prove it?”
4. The Epistemological Audit (For the Self and Society)
We must audit our knowledge sources. The plague of pride thrives in informational vacuums.
· Application: For Peoples, this means actively consuming media that challenges their political orthodoxy without immediately dismissing it. For nations, it means engaging in diplomatic and scientific exchanges with ideological rivals, not to compromise values, but to understand the rationale of the “other.” Intellectual humility requires the discipline to articulate the opposing argument better than the opposition can articulate it themselves. If you cannot argue against your own position with eloquence, you do not truly understand it.
V. The Strategic Rebranding of Failure
The most potent weapon against the plague is the redefinition of failure. The proud view failure as an identity, an indictment. The humble view failure as data. For Corporates, the “Fail Fast” mantra is often a cliché, but its true depth lies in psychological safety—the assurance that admitting a mistake will not result in retribution. For Nations, this requires a shift from “never apologize” to “intelligent accountability.” A nation that admits a strategic error (e.g., foreign policy missteps) is not weak; it is strategically agile. It disarms the plague by refusing to let the past dictate the future.
VI. The Manifesto of the Empowered Humble
To transcend the plague, we must adopt a new manifesto for the 21st century:
· We reject the tyranny of the “Ego-System” and embrace the “Eco-System” of knowledge, recognizing that intelligence is distributed, not centralized.
· We practice the “Pause.” Before reacting defensively to criticism, we pause to decode the signal from the noise.
· We prioritize “Learning Velocity” over “Status Quo Maintenance.” The speed at which we can unlearn outdated data and relearn new paradigms is the new competitive advantage.
VII. Conclusion: The Ascent of the Humble
Pride, the plague, drives the proud toward isolation and obsolescence. It creates a brittle intelligence that shatters under pressure. Conversely, Intellectual Humility drives the wise toward resilience and relevance. It creates an anti-fragile intelligence that grows stronger with the shocks of new data.
For Peoples, the dissolution of pride allows for the reconstruction of fractured societies through the mutual recognition of shared fallibility. For Corporates, it ensures longevity beyond the tenure of a single visionary. For Nations, it ensures security not through belligerence, but through the soft power of adaptability and the hard power of strategic self-correction.
The proud are driven by a need to be right. The humble are driven by a need to get it right. One is a static pose; the other is a dynamic process. In the volatile, uncertain, complex, and ambiguous (VUCA) world, the only sustainable trajectory is the one that accepts that the map must constantly be redrawn. The plague ends when we realize that we are not the cartographers of certainty, but the humble navigators of an ever-shifting sea. Let us, therefore, choose to be driven not by the arrogance of the known, but by the humility of the seeker.
Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke, AMBP-UN is a globally recognized scholar-practitioner and thought leader at the nexus of security, governance, and strategic leadership. His mission is dedicated to advancing ethical governance, strategic human capital development, resilient nation building, and global peace. He can be reached via: tolulopeadegoke01@gmail.com, globalstageimpacts@gmail.com






