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Food for Living: Dare To Succeed
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By Henry Ukazu
Greetings Friends,
The dream of every progressive mentor or parent is for the mentee or child to be greater than him or her. Anybody who wants to be greater than whoever succeeds him/her doesn’t have the interest of the successor at heart. One of the best ways to access the performance of an out-going leader is to look at who succeeds him or her. If you’ll agree with me success brings joy and fulfillment in life. However, succeeding in life requires a lot of work namely: sacrifice, handwork, patience, connections, God factor, persistence/consistency, determination, and knowledge amongst other attributes which you can add.
We all want to succeed, but the question you need to ask yourself is, are you willing to do the work? If you really want to succeed in life you have to dare to succeed. By daring to succeed, you must be courageous. It takes courage to succeed in life. Nor matter what you are doing in life, it takes courage to succeed. This is because you must get many no’s and a few yes, but all you need is one yes to succeed. For you to truly succeed, it takes courage. It takes courage to be exceptional, rich, knowledgeable, and truthful in the society in which we live.
While in High schools and College we always have the desire to study a particular major in addition to working in a particular industry. While working in a particular industry most times we have a plan of where we want to be in five and ten year’s time. After college, we step into the labor market to get our dream job, sometimes we don’t even get the desired job we need, even at that, we have plans of getting the desired job of interest that will be fulfilling. When these plans don’t go as planned, some of us do give up, while some still forge ahead with determination to get to the peak of our career and passion in life.
In order to succeed, we need to be persistent and consistent because persistency comes from consistency, you need to continuous practice, you need to be focused and you need to learn something new every day. Your determination to succeed must always supersede your fear of failure. Daring to succeed requires risk, you don’t have to wait to see the clear picture before you hit the ground moving. If you are truly hungry for success, you must seek to stand out, you don’t have to conform to the ordinary standard of docile people who sometimes have an entitlement mentality, you must seek to leave your conform zone.
One of the strongest advice I have always given to friends and clients is considering those who have believed in you by sacrificing and supporting them and also looking at those who want to see them fail. You can’t afford to fail your mentors, parents, friends and even your children and mentees who are strongly looking up to you. When you give up, you give cause to people to question your ability to succeed.
Be informed, you didn’t come into this world to conform, neither did you come in to fit in. You must have the courage to go after your dream. The courage to succeed in life can be challenging when you have many obstacles and competition, however, there’s always a room if you strongly believe you are called to be in that industry. Speaking about courage, this is an uncommon inner strength to thread in strange lands. Just like Thomas Dexter Jakes Sr. aka TD Jakes said in one of this messages I recently listened to, “It doesn’t matter how saturated the room is, if God has God called you, there’s room for you.
In my first published book, Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success, the cardinal message inherent in the book is you hold the keys to your success. Let me share some insights on how you can dare to succeed in life from Lahcen Haddad, a former Minister of Tourism from the Government of Morocco
1. Don’t be afraid to fail The fear of failure is a hidden fear of success. Take big strides, jump higher, and dare to challenge conventional wisdom and common sense. If you don’t risk anything, you won’t gain anything. As Jack Canfield said, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Mandela spent 27 years in jail but refused to give up the struggle against apartheid, when presented with a fudged compromise. He was not afraid to say no and remain in jail, knowing that behind the indomitable image of fear and failure lies the bright picture of success.
2. Great success is built on great failures Robert Kennedy once said that “only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” If you want humans to get to Mars or Venus, you need to be prepared to get space missions to fail, shuttles to never reach destinations, technological devices to explode in the wide space, and obstacles to emerge by the hour, if not by the minute. Because your dream is big, so are your failures to achieve it. See your big failures as great lessons to learn. The Jamaican Usain Bolt, the greatest sprinter of all time, once said, “I don’t think limits,” meaning that his dream to be a hero doesn’t know limits, but only open vistas, limitless horizons. If you think limits, you create psychological hurdles to success. Dream big, fail big and enjoy huge successes all through.
3. Failure is the mother of inventiveness Thomas Edison said that he had not failed, but had found thousands of ways what he had invented did not work. Experimenting and failing, again and again, is common to the great inventors who have changed our lives forever. Electricity in every home, thousands of planes buzzing in our skies on a daily basis, comfortable cars making far places within our reach in a few hours, smartphones making the world available to us through small screens that we gently tap with one finger, sophisticated machines that scan our bodies for malfunctions or illnesses, and a million other inventions- all of these would not have been possible if the inventors did not accept the rule that “if you don’t fail and learn, you cannot succeed.”
4. Failure is success suspended, until the moment is ripe Sometimes we fail because we are ahead of our time, or because we are getting there but we need to think harder, work harder, and be more persistent. As Denis Waitley said, “Failure is a delay, not defeat.” It is a matter of finding the right solution for the right problem and selling it to the right people, in the right conditions. The recipe to success takes special ingredients, and every minute and detailed dosage when it comes to seasoning. Failure can be intrinsic to the solution itself, but it may be also a problem of packaging, marketing, and communication. Therefore, failure is a matter of time- finding the right recipe to make the solution attractive and sellable in a timely fashion. Timing is key. Try again later but never give up.
5. You can know success only if you have experienced failure The best perspective on success is through failure. “Its failure that gives you the proper perspective on success,” as Ellen DeGeneres said. Success is built on held assumptions and found solutions. Some assumptions work and others don’t. Therefore, every failed attempt gives you a sense of what doesn’t work and what should work. Failure gives you perspective, it helps you focus and hone in on the right obstacles and the right solutions- things you could not have seen, had you not failed, had you not made assumptions that did not work.
6. it’s okay to make mistakes, it’s NOT okay not to learn from them Mistakes are the imperfections that push us to aspire to perfection. In fact, they are not mistakes. They are our life lessons about what works and what does not work. That is why it is imperative to study our falls and our mistakes carefully to learn from them, to understand what could be key to success. As Henry Ford said, “The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” Study carefully what does not work: therein lie the seeds that make you successful. The secret to achievement is made up of failures understood as warm-up exercises designed to help you learn to jump higher, aim better and get it right.
Success is a dream. But the road to success is paved with bold moves and brave acts. You have to risk something if you want to get something. In so doing, you are more vulnerable because you are exposed to danger, factoring in failure in a key characteristics of the bold entrepreneurs. Yes, they are afraid; but they know that overcoming fear can only happen when they espouse it and own it; if they fall, their fear does not grow; on the contrary, they become bolder, braver; they are vulnerable to bigger falls but also to greater achievements. Success is a thousand failures turned into a thousand lessons that allow you to overcome fear and catch the dream as it flies by you in a dark night. Don’t be afraid to fail; be ready to succeed.
How do you dare to succeed: Let’s see what Madanmohan Rad have to say:
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Dreaming is essential to make meaning of life, find your inner voice, truly grow up, and show the next generation how to dream. “Dreaming is an inalienable right,” says Johnson. Though difficulties and challenges may take us off course in life, it is important to make meaning of these challenges by daring to dream again.
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You must boldly follow your dreams as well: become the hero of your story; make space and time for your dreams; map and track your competencies; know your beliefs; build on your strengths; and fine-tune your dreams as you align them with current circumstances.
Reflecting on childhood experiences and happiness is a good way to begin understanding your dreams. Through the twists and turns of life, it is necessary to embrace one’s constraints and even tap ‘fortunate frustrations’ by downsizing, re-directing or deferring dreams.
Introspection helps reveal your own innate talents, accumulated competencies, beliefs and identities. Some deeply-held beliefs put boundaries on dreams, others are scaffolding. For people of many faiths, their religion is a source of drive and values.
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Having fleshed out your dreams, you need to embrace discovery, explore your domain, create your dream team, bootstrap your dream, and ‘date’ or dabble with your dreams. Making dreams come true calls for support from mentors, experts, fellow dreamers, and cheerleaders. Dreams can also change via serendipitous un-anticipated events
In conclusion, if I ask you, what is the one thing you cannot fail in life, what will be your response? Again, what is the one thing you have always wished to do in life? I encourage you to, therefore, take the bold step and dare to succeed in any dream, vision and mission you strongly believed you cannot fail it.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success.
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Alleged Conspiracy, Murder: Lagos Police Declare Ajibola Obateru, Folawiyo Balogun Wanted
The Nigeria Police Force, Lagos State Criminal Investigation Department (CID) Panti, Yaba, has declared the duo of Ajibola Obateru and Folawiyo Balogun Alagbado wanted, in connection with conspiracy and murder of an unnamed person.
The two males are on the run after they allegedly committed the nefarious activities, National Association of Online Security News Publishers (NAOSNP) can report.
The Manhunt, which was launched in separate announcements hinted that Ajibola Obateru, 32, 5ft 9, a ‘fleeing suspect, allegedly conspired with others and attacked the victim, made away with her body and personal belongings. The crime was committed at Ikoyi Axis of lagos.’
In the same vein, Folawiyo Balogun Alagbado, Yoruba, 32, average height ‘conspired with others to attack the victim allegedly killed her and made away with her body to an unknown location. The victim’s belongings were also stolen by the fleeing suspect and his cohorts. The crime was committed at Ikoyi Axis of Lagos.’
The State CID Panti Yaba hinted that the last known address of the two men on the run is Ibadan, Oyo State and urges members of the public to report them immediately upon sighting.
“Anyone who sees him should please arrest and hand him over to the nearest police station or report immediately to the office of the Commissioner of Police State CID, Panti Yaba or call 08038843816,” the wanted notice revealed.
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Police Warn Politicians, VIPs Against Arriving Polling Units with Armed Escorts
The Nigeria Police Force has barred political figures and VIPs from taking armed escorts, security aides and other unauthorised persons to polling units and collation centres during Saturday’s Osun State governorship election.
The directive is part of the security measures being deployed by the Inspector-General of Police, IGP Olatunji Rilwan Disu, to ensure a peaceful, secure and credible electoral process across the State.
The Force Public Relations Officer, CSP Ani Iniedu, disclosed this in a statement issued on Wednesday, August 12, 2026, adding that the IGP has deployed Deputy Inspector-General of Police, DIG Ishyaku Mohammed, to Osun State to coordinate security operations for the August 15 governorship election.
DIG Mohammed will coordinate the Police component of the election-security arrangement and work closely with other security agencies under the Inter-Agency Consultative Committee on Election Security, ICCES.
He will be supported by Assistant Inspectors-General of Police and Commissioners of Police strategically deployed across the state’s three senatorial districts to supervise operations, strengthen intelligence-led policing and ensure prompt response to emerging threats.
The Force said adequate security arrangements had been put in place for the protection of voters, INEC personnel, election materials, polling units, collation centres, accredited observers and media practitioners before, during and after the election.
The IGP, however, warned political actors, their supporters and all intending troublemakers that ballot snatching, voter intimidation, political thuggery and other electoral offences would attract prompt arrest and prosecution.
The Force further reiterated the ban on armed escorts, security aides and other unauthorised persons accompanying political figures or VIPs to polling units or collation centres on election day.
State-established security outfits, quasi-security groups and private security organisations are equally barred from election-security duties, in line with established Nigeria Police Force election-security directives.
The police urged eligible voters in Osun State to exercise their franchise peacefully and without fear, assuring residents and visitors of adequate security throughout the election period.
The Force also reaffirmed its commitment to professionalism, neutrality, respect for human rights and the protection of the electoral process.
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PRIDE: The Plague That Drives, and Entombs the Proud
By Tolulope A. Adegoke PhD
Pride is the only fortress that grows weaker as its walls grow taller; for it is built not of stone, but of certitude—and certitude, unlike granite, crumbles under the weight of its own reflection. The humble do not build walls; they build bridges to the very truths that threaten to undo them, knowing that what is undone can be remade, but what is unmoved is already ruins waiting for time to catch up.
An Exposition on the Metamorphosis of Ego, the Architecture of Collapse, and the Antidote of Intellectual Humility
I. Introduction: The Paradox of the Ascending Trajectory
To speak of “Pride” in the contemporary lexicon is often to invoke a benign, even necessary, virtue—the self-esteem required for innovation, the national spirit required for sovereignty, or the corporate confidence required for market dominance. However, the etymological and philosophical roots of Pride (from the Old English prȳde, akin to the Old Norse prúðr, meaning “brave” or “splendid”) harbor a latent volatility. When pride solidifies from a state of graceful confidence into a rigid state of hubris, it ceases to be a virtue and becomes a plague. This is not a moralistic judgment; it is an epidemiological fact of organizational, national, and personal psychology.
This treatise posits that Pride, in its pathogenic form, is the singular most potent inhibitor of evolutionary adaptability. It is the “plague that drives the proud” not toward the pinnacle of success, but toward the precipice of irrelevance. The proud are driven by a compulsive need to validate a static self-image, rather than a dynamic process of becoming. To solve the grand challenges facing Peoples, Corporates, and Nations, we must first diagnose the symptomatology of this plague and administer the rigorous antidote of Intellectual Humility—a framework that embraces fallibility as the engine of resilience.
II. The Phenomenology of the Plague: Diagnosing the Symptoms
Before prescribing a cure, we must map the pathology. The plague of pride manifests not as overt arrogance alone, but often as subtle, systemic dysfunctions across three distinct strata: the Individual, the Collective, and the Institutional.
1. The Narcissism of Small Differences (The Individual Level)
At the personal level, pathological pride creates a “cognitive armor” that repels external data incongruent with the self-concept. This is the “Dunning-Kruger Effect” elevated to a lifestyle. The proud individual suffers from a deficit of meta-cognition—they do not know what they do not know.
· Exemplar: Consider the case of a seasoned CEO who refuses to adopt digital transformation because their legacy success validates their “gut instinct.” They confuse correlation (past success under specific conditions) with causation (their infallible decision-making). The plague drives them to reject junior analysts’ data, not because the data is flawed, but because acknowledging its validity would necessitate a reconstruction of their identity. The result is Blockbuster Video, Kodak, or Sears—mammoths frozen in the amber of their own past triumphs.
2. The Echo Chamber of Consensus (The Corporate Level)
In corporate structures, pride evolves into “Groupthink.” Here, the plague manifests as an institutional allergy to dissenting voices. The drive for cohesion overrides the imperative for veracity. When a corporation becomes proud of its culture to the exclusion of its market reality, it ceases to be a value-creating entity and becomes a value-preserving cult.
· Exemplar: The fall of Enron was not merely a fraud of accounting; it was a fraud of intellect. The corporate pride in being “the smartest guys in the room” created a toxic environment where questioning the viability of the business model was tantamount to treason. They were driven by the pride of complex financial instruments, ignoring the simple reality of cash flow. The plague drove them to fabricate reality because accepting the truth would have been an unbearable admission of mediocrity.
3. The Imperial Overreach (The National Level)
For nations, the plague of pride is manifest as “Strategic Narcissism.” This is the conviction that historical exceptionalism guarantees future dominance. Nations afflicted by this plague view geopolitical shifts not as challenges to adapt to, but as insults to their ordained status. This leads to a fatal misallocation of resources—over-investing in the preservation of outdated paradigms and under-investing in emergent ones.
· Exemplar: The decline of the Spanish Empire in the 17th century serves as a historical archetype. Flooded with New World silver, the Spanish Crown developed an arrogance that devalued domestic manufacturing and intellectual rigor. They were driven by the pride of being the Catholic Defender, ignoring the rising mercantile and scientific powers of Northern Europe. Their pride prevented the structural reforms necessary for solvency, resulting in repeated sovereign defaults. The plague drove them to prioritize image over infrastructure.
III. The Mechanics of the Plague: Why It Drives the Proud
The driving force of this plague is rooted in Cognitive Dissonance and the Sunk Cost Fallacy. The proud are not simply arrogant; they are trapped. Their identity is inextricably linked to their past decisions. To admit a flaw in the present is to retroactively invalidate the self. Therefore, the plague drives them to “double down.”
This mechanism operates through three distinct gears:
1. The Selectivity of Attention: The proud perceive only data that confirms their bias (Confirmation Bias). They view critics not as informants, but as adversaries.
2. The Denigration of the External: To protect the internal self, the proud must devalue the external world. Competitors are dismissed as “lucky” or “unethical.” New technologies are dismissed as “fads.”
3. The Acceleration of Inertia: The proud do not stop; they accelerate into the abyss. Because stopping would require introspection, they increase velocity, mistaking motion for progress.
This dynamic creates a “fatal feedback loop.” The more the external world changes, the more rigid the internal world becomes. The plague drives the proud not toward a destination, but toward a collision course with reality.
IV. The Antidote: Intellectual Humility as Systemic Immunity
If Pride is the plague, Intellectual Humility is the vaccine. Crucially, this is not the absence of confidence; it is the regulation of confidence. It is the meta-cognitive awareness that one’s current map is not the territory. It is the capacity to hold strong convictions weakly—to be decisive in action yet tentative in epistemology.
To solve the challenges across Peoples, Corporates, and Nations, we must operationalize Intellectual Humility through three pillars:
1. The Red Team Imperative (For Corporates and Nations)
Institutional pride is dismantled through structural dissent. Corporations and governments must institutionalize the “Red Team”—a group whose explicit job is to disprove the prevailing hypothesis. This moves critique from the personal realm (accusation) to the procedural realm (analysis).
· Application: The intelligence failures preceding the 2003 Iraq War (WMDs) were exacerbated by a lack of rigorous red-teaming. In contrast, the Cuban Missile Crisis was resolved successfully because President Kennedy actively sought dissenting voices against the aggressive advice of the Joint Chiefs. He humbled his administration’s pride by demanding alternative perspectives, preventing a nuclear catastrophe. For a corporation, this means promoting a “Devil’s Advocate” department that is rewarded for finding flaws in the business model, not for towing the line.
2. The “Pre-Mortem” Strategy (For Peoples and Leadership)
Psychologist Gary Klein introduced the “Pre-Mortem”—a technique where teams imagine that a project has failed spectacularly and work backward to determine the cause. This breaks the plague’s hold because it bypasses the defensive ego.
· Application: Before launching a new national policy or corporate merger, leaders should force the team to write a “history of the future” detailing the catastrophe. This exercise forces the proud to externalize their fears, revealing latent risks that the plague of optimism would otherwise suppress. For individuals, this is the practice of asking, “If I am wrong about this deeply held belief, what evidence would prove it?”
4. The Epistemological Audit (For the Self and Society)
We must audit our knowledge sources. The plague of pride thrives in informational vacuums.
· Application: For Peoples, this means actively consuming media that challenges their political orthodoxy without immediately dismissing it. For nations, it means engaging in diplomatic and scientific exchanges with ideological rivals, not to compromise values, but to understand the rationale of the “other.” Intellectual humility requires the discipline to articulate the opposing argument better than the opposition can articulate it themselves. If you cannot argue against your own position with eloquence, you do not truly understand it.
V. The Strategic Rebranding of Failure
The most potent weapon against the plague is the redefinition of failure. The proud view failure as an identity, an indictment. The humble view failure as data. For Corporates, the “Fail Fast” mantra is often a cliché, but its true depth lies in psychological safety—the assurance that admitting a mistake will not result in retribution. For Nations, this requires a shift from “never apologize” to “intelligent accountability.” A nation that admits a strategic error (e.g., foreign policy missteps) is not weak; it is strategically agile. It disarms the plague by refusing to let the past dictate the future.
VI. The Manifesto of the Empowered Humble
To transcend the plague, we must adopt a new manifesto for the 21st century:
· We reject the tyranny of the “Ego-System” and embrace the “Eco-System” of knowledge, recognizing that intelligence is distributed, not centralized.
· We practice the “Pause.” Before reacting defensively to criticism, we pause to decode the signal from the noise.
· We prioritize “Learning Velocity” over “Status Quo Maintenance.” The speed at which we can unlearn outdated data and relearn new paradigms is the new competitive advantage.
VII. Conclusion: The Ascent of the Humble
Pride, the plague, drives the proud toward isolation and obsolescence. It creates a brittle intelligence that shatters under pressure. Conversely, Intellectual Humility drives the wise toward resilience and relevance. It creates an anti-fragile intelligence that grows stronger with the shocks of new data.
For Peoples, the dissolution of pride allows for the reconstruction of fractured societies through the mutual recognition of shared fallibility. For Corporates, it ensures longevity beyond the tenure of a single visionary. For Nations, it ensures security not through belligerence, but through the soft power of adaptability and the hard power of strategic self-correction.
The proud are driven by a need to be right. The humble are driven by a need to get it right. One is a static pose; the other is a dynamic process. In the volatile, uncertain, complex, and ambiguous (VUCA) world, the only sustainable trajectory is the one that accepts that the map must constantly be redrawn. The plague ends when we realize that we are not the cartographers of certainty, but the humble navigators of an ever-shifting sea. Let us, therefore, choose to be driven not by the arrogance of the known, but by the humility of the seeker.
Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke, AMBP-UN is a globally recognized scholar-practitioner and thought leader at the nexus of security, governance, and strategic leadership. His mission is dedicated to advancing ethical governance, strategic human capital development, resilient nation building, and global peace. He can be reached via: tolulopeadegoke01@gmail.com, globalstageimpacts@gmail.com






