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Food for Living: Overcoming Adversity, Instability
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
If you are asked what life is, what is likely going to be your response? Whatever your answer is, it is worthy of note that responses will vary among a crowd of individuals. Life is such an interesting place to be, and at the same time, it can be an experience. If you don’t manage it well, you are bound to face dire consequences.
As humans, whether we like it or not, we will face daily challenges on a daily basis ranging from relationship/marriage, academics, business, career, or personal. All these challenges can lead to instability and eventual downfall if not properly managed.
The question we need to ask ourselves is how do we cope or overcome these challenges? Managing human beings and the challenges of life is one of the most difficult tasks of life. Instability makes us understand that nothing is guaranteed in life and change is the only thing that is constant. A wealthy person today can become a pauper the next day if the wealth is not properly managed while the child of a certified pauper can become a man/woman of means the day after if properly educated. That’s life!
It’s important to note that stability leads to peace and progress, while instability leads to chaos, uncertainty, and confusion. As a creative writer, I have discovered that one needs a peaceful mindset, and concentration in order to write very well. As a married man, I also know when the home is at peace, there’s bound to be understanding, progress and love. In the same light, as a business owner, I do know that when the business is stable, it’s bound to flourish. Why am I laying all these foundations, it’s simply to alert us about the importance of stability in life?
Nobody likes stress, but stress is inevitable, and we all must deal with it. Managing stress is a skill. Stress is one of the agents of death because it can be psychological. Below are some of the ways we can overcome the challenges of life.
Attitude
Attitude is truly priceless. Having the right mental attitude is the first step to succeeding in life. Attitude is like a compass. Once you miss it, you are heading in the wrong direction no matter how experienced you are as a driver. Attitude doesn’t talk, but you can feel it. Your attitude determines how you react to issues. It has been said that circumstances don’t say who you are, they reveal who you are. When you have the right attitude, you will know when to end a negative conversation, you will know when to leave an unhealthy environment, you’ll value your peace of mind, and most importantly, you will know how to attract opportunities because the right attitude can serve as goodwill. People with negative attitude tend to have an entitlement mentality.
It’s pertinent to note that the right attitude gives you the power and ability to accept whatever you cannot change. So, if you are going through a situation, you can train your mind to see the stress as an experience as opposed to a problem. On a personal note, whenever I find myself in a situation I can’t help, I look for what can make me happy. I can either play music, sleep or engage in an activity that can bring sanity to my mind.
Practice Self Care
The best way to reduce emotional trauma is to make a commitment to take good care of yourself. Self-care is the best love you can ever have in life. Self-care is the best treat you can ever have. Self-care is self-love. Before anyone can come close to you, they will have to see something in you that interests them. According to tax practitioners, “like-kind attracts, like-kind exchanges”. Some of the ways you can practice self-care entail meditating, exercising, eating healthy, spending time with good friends and loved ones, engaging in hobbies or activities of interest which is capable of mentally stimulating you as fun.
Meditation
The effect of meditation on a progressive being is priceless. Meditation can be regarded as the food of the mind, spirit and soul. Meditation makes you self-aware It helps you to relax. It makes you mentally creative and most importantly, it helps you to stabilize your emotional mindset. Proper practice of meditation helps you to reduce anxiety and stress.
In summary, according to an unknown author, a great way to overcome adversity and instability in life is to apply the corresponding principles and nuggets below. By so doing, you will live through life happily without much expectation. When asked what life is, here is what he has to say:
WHAT IS LIFE
LIFE IS AN ADVENTURE – DARE IT.
LIFE IS A BEAUTY – PRAISE IT.
LIFE IS A CHALLENGE – MEET IT.
LIFE IS A DUTY – PERFORM IT.
LIFE IS A LOVE – ENJOY IT.
LIFE IS A TRAGEDY – FACE IT.
LIFE IS A STRUGGLE – FIGHT IT.
LIFE IS A PROMISE – FULFILL IT.
LIFE IS A GAME – PLAY IT.
LIFE IS A GIFT – ACCEPT IT.
LIFE IS A JOURNEY – COMPLETE IT.
LIFE IS A MYSTERY – UNFOLD IT.
LIFE IS A GOAL – ACHIEVE IT.
LIFE IS AN OPPORTUNITY – TAKE IT.
LIFE IS A PUZZLE – SOLVE IT.
LIFE IS A SONG – SING IT.
LIFE IS A SORROW – OVERCOME IT.
LIFE IS A SPIRIT – RELEASE IT.
LIFE IS A WONDER – CHERISH IT.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a Human Capacity & mindset coach. He’s also a public speaker. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
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Food for Living: The Insatiable Nature of Man
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
There’s no doubt that human beings by nature are insatiable. When we get one opportunity, we always look for another. When we attain one height, we always look for another accomplishment. Isn’t it true that the end of one mountain is the beginning of another.
However, I don’t think it’s selfish for anyone to dare to succeed.
Being ambitious doesn’t make one an opportunist or disloyal. It all depends on one’s perception or outlook to life. It’s just natural for one to dream big. It’s only ugly when the process one chooses to achieve his desires becomes dirty and nasty.
According to a former Nigerian presidential candidate and seasoned Economist, Mr. Peter Obi, “if you must be referred to as “Your Excellency”, then the process through which you arrived in office must be excellent”.
If you desire to be reckoned with on the journey of existence, you must be legitimately hungry for success. One’s hunger for success will facilitate the drive to accomplish great tasks despite daunting obstacles posing as challenges.
When one has this mindset, one will not be bothered by the noise which serves as obstacles and challenges along the way. Negative and weak minds are always concerned on why something won’t work. They tend to focus their energy and reasons on the obstacles facing them. But great and productive minds always focus their energy on the reasons why it will work. This is the spirit of an insatiable mind who is a goal- getter.
It’s instructive to note that we can’t please everyone. According to Bill Cosby, a famous actor, “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” Isn’t it true that when you talk, people will still talk about you, when you don’t talk, people will talk about you, so whether you talk or not, people will still judge you, so, do what’s best for you. There’s nothing you can do to please human beings. Your best option is to live your best life.
To understand how the insatiable nature of man works, one must be oneself. You don’t have to “please” anyone. Be yourself, and don’t try to be like anyone just to curry favour. It’s important to note that when you are yourself, the people that matter will come through for you, and the people that don’t matter will gradually find the bearing in another space because those that truly care don’t bother and those that bother don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.
Life has truly taught me to focus on the important things of life as opposed to the mundane things. It’s truly sad to see people spending more time on the little things of life, and spending little time on the important things of life. That’s just a misplaced priority.
When you are yourself, the best people can do is to copy or imitate your style. They can never imitate your creativity nor can take your originality from you.
We live in a world or society where people don’t generally care or show empathy. Most people tend to live around themselves, their family, and close associates. They generally find it hard to lift a finger to assist others for reasons best known to them. Rev. Fr. Ejike Mbaka once said, “we live in a wicked generation”, re-echoing the voices of a lot of people of the world. Some people in authority just have criminal expertise in amassing wealth of opportunities meant for the citizens without thinking of the citizens they are meant to serve.
It’s worthy of note that not everyone will like you nor support your work, but when you find people who truly care about you; please hold them tight. This is because despite having family members you have shown love and compassion, they might not still appreciate you even if you lay your life for them, they will still find something to say. Again, this is the insatiable nature of man.
It’s okay for everyone not to like you, normalize living your life for God, yourself, family and those that care about you. If everyone likes you, you have a problem.
Did you know that you can get a new family from friends, strangers, and acquaintances? These sets of people might appreciate you more than your own family members. They might not demand or under appreciate you like your family members and close friends or associates. Any little support you give them will be highly appreciated. Their focus is to see you do better.
In conclusion, as you desire to succeed in life, never give in to failure until you have made your last attempt, and never make your last attempt until you succeed. This literally means whatever you desire, dream it, think it, say it, and believe you can achieve it. This principle is generally applicable to relationships, businesses, family, personal and professional development.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your and Unleash Your Destiny . He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
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Court Temporarily Blocks Trump’s Executive Order Ending US Birthright Citizenship
A federal judge in the United States, on Thursday, put a temporary block on President Donald Trump’s attempt to restrict birthright citizenship.
The ruling imposes a 14-day halt on the enforcement of one of the most controversial executive orders Trump signed hours after being sworn into office for a second term.
It comes after lawsuits were filed by a total of 22 states, two cities and numerous civil rights groups.
“This is a blatantly unconstitutional order,” senior US District Judge John Coughenour was reported as saying during the hearing in Washington State.
“I’ve been on the bench for over four decades, I can’t remember another case where the question presented is as clear as this one is,” said Coughenour, who was appointed to the bench by a Republican president, Ronald Reagan.
Birthright citizenship is fundamental to America’s national identity, with the 14th Amendment to the US Constitution decreeing that anyone born on US soil is a citizen.
It says, in part: “All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside.”
Trump’s order was premised on the idea that anyone in the US illegally, or on a visa, was not “subject to the jurisdiction” of the country, and therefore excluded from this category.
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Appeal Court Upholds Death Sentence on Ramon Adedoyin for Murder of Timothy Adegoke
The Court of Appeal sitting in Akure, Ondo State capital has upheld the death sentence of Ramon Adedoyin, a prominent businessman and hotelier, for his involvement in the murder of one Timothy Adegoke, a former postgraduate student of the Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, Osun State.
Delivering the judgment on Thursday, the court affirmed the earlier verdict of the Osun State High Court, which had sentenced Adedoyin to death.
“The judgment of the High Court of Osun State stands. Adedoyin’s appeal is dismissed in part,” the court declared in part.
The Court of Appeal, however, set aside some aspects of the lower court’s orders, including the forfeiture of the Hilton Hotel and the order for Adedoyin to pay for the education of Adegoke’s children.
Furthermore, the court ruled that it had no jurisdiction to impose penalties outside the statutory provisions
Adegoke’s death was reported in November 2021 after his corpse was found at the Hilton Honours Hotel in Ile-Ife, Osun State, where he had lodged.
The hotelier had travelled from Abuja for an examination at a distance learning centre in Moro, Osun State on November 5 of that year.
He had checked into the hotel but was reported missing after two days. However, Adegoke’s body was found days later, leading to a probe that linked his death to Adedoyin and others.
In May 2023, Adedoyin and others were sentenced to death after they were found guilty of murder and conspiracy to murder.
But dissatisfied with the judgement, Adedoyin approached the Appeal court to dismiss the sentence and conviction.
The court of appeal, on Thursday, however, upheld the conviction and death sentence of the hotelier.