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Food for Living: Take a Deep Breath

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By Henry Ukazu

Dear Destiny Friends

One of the best things God has given us is the gift of breath. Imagine we are to buy breath, that would be tragic because many of us won’t be alive. Wealthy people would buy up the breath of poor people and store for generations unborn. It will be safe to say your breath is your life because, without it, you won’t be in existence. In my humble opinion, your breath is the most important part of your being. Just so you understand how important it is, a normal human being can hardly stay alive for more than three minutes without breathing. That’s why athletes are always asked to breathe in and out. This is because their coaches know the effects it has on their bodies. Deep breathing helps you to lower stress in your body because when you breathe deep, it sends a message to your brain to calm down, and ultimately makes you relax. Since the brain is regarded as the compass of the body, it sends messages to the other parts of the body for stability.

Disclosure

Be informed, I’m not a medical practitioner, neither am I a health practitioner of any kind. This article is not centered on health or exercise, but rather on the importance of taking life easy as opposed to being hard on yourself when things don’t add up for you.

It’s always painful to feel bad when you fail an examination, especially after spending countless hours reading and sacrificing other engagements just to prepare for the exam. It is also very painful when you spend hours learning a trade, investing in a business, and building a global brand only for it to crash for reasons you can’t understand. The most painful experience might be a man who has spent a fortune to train a lady in school and empowered her to be financially stable only for her to ditch him for a flimsy excuse at the slightest opportunity. Alternatively, as a lady who loved a man with everything in you, you stood by him and supported him wholeheartedly for him to get his act together, and only for him to ditch you for another guy at the slightest provocation. Such is life. There are many reasons to feel bad and used in this journey called life, but I have good news for you; just be glad it happened because you never can tell what would have happened in the nearest future if it didn’t happen. This is the more reason I always pray to fail fast.

You may be wondering what message I’m trying to send? Just hold on for a minute and you’ll understand. Have you ever wondered why you didn’t get a promotion, why you weren’t hired for a job, denied an opportunity of meeting a high-profile person who can change the course of your destiny, or even feel bad if life is not adding up for you? There may be a thousand and one reasons out there. But I have good news for you, take a deep breath.

Again, you may be wondering why I said, take a deep breath, the answer is not far-fetched. Most times as human beings, we don’t take time to take stock of our life and examine why lines are not adding up as expected. Sometimes, we feel the universe is against us. We think there are “physical & spiritual forces” working against our progress. All these thoughts can make us assume there’s a reason why the lines are not falling in place.

Again, take a deep breath.

According to Socrates, an “unexamined life is not worth living”. One of the worst things you can do as a human being is to assume. I have always admonished my friends, when in doubt do not act. That’s why it’s always good to ask questions for clarity.

Taking a deep breath in life allows you to think out of the box and re-strategize on why things are not adding up. Taking a breath allows you to create boundaries by accessing what’s working and what’s not working and what needs to be done. But the biggest gain in taking a breath is making you understand you have done a good job. Once you have done all you are supposed to do in life or any project and the lines don’t add up, please don’t be hard on yourself. There are many lessons for you to learn. Most times, we don’t look at the inherent lessons life is giving to us either because we are “physically or spiritually blind” or we don’t have a grateful heart.

Let’s take a case of a man/woman who wants to get married but it didn’t work out. It will surely be painful after investing time and resources to the person only for it to crash at the end. You may be wondering what happened, why the person acted in a particular way, why the family rejected you, or even why or how a particular incident happened which led to the separation. The funny thing is that you might be feeling the issue was because of you or maybe it wasn’t properly managed, or probably ego was at stake. There may be many reasons out there but again, I say, take a deep breath. Do you know that it’s better to appreciate what didn’t happen because it would have prevented you from what would have happened? That’s food for thought.

One of the best things that can happen to you in life is taking a breath. Many people underscore the importance of taking a deep breath in life. When you take a deep breath, it helps you appreciate yourself by patting yourself. Remember, nobody can console you more than yourself. Nobody can inspire you more than yourself, especially when your force is internal, and nobody can see, feel and experience what you are seeing, feeling, and experiencing more than you can do.

When you go through a tunnel of challenges, it is important to take a deep breath. When you do, you will realize that the feeling is different. In our contemporary society, we have seen numerous examples of people who are validating their life with social media while some people get depressed thinking they are not doing well for themselves or their life is messed up. My dear friend, please calm down, each and every one of us is battling with a secret frustration. Do you know that your life might be much better than that person you are admiring? Do you know if that person has peace of mind? Do you know if that person’s marriage is in shamble? Do you know if the person has an underlying ailment/disease? Do you know if the children are a bunch of disappointment? There are a litany of reasons out there. That’s why is it’s always good to take a deep breath because it’s not always green on the other side of the grass.

In conclusion, I don’t know what your situation is, but don’t allow your peace of mind to be threatened, don’t allow anyone to rent space in your head. You are doing well for yourself. Everyone is on a journey and our paths are different. It might take you 10 years, 20 years, or even 30 years to get to your destination, but the important thing is that you got to your desired destination. So, while you are on your journey take a deep breath along the way, appreciate those who have gone before you, and support those who are coming behind.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a Human Capacity & mindset coach. He’s also a  public speaker. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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The Cave of Adulam: The Incubation and the Emergence of True Leadership

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By Tolulope A. Adegoke, PhD

“True leadership is not born in the palace, but incubated in the cave. It is there, stripped of prestige and surrounded by the discontented, that a leader learns to build not with power, but with purpose” – Tolulope A. Adegoke, PhD

In the annals of history and literature, certain locations transcend their physicality to become powerful symbols. The Cave of Adulam is one such place. More than a mere geological formation, it stands as a profound metaphor for the crucible of leadership—a place of desperate refuge that paradoxically becomes a nursery for transformation, strategy, and the emergence of a king.

The story, chronicled in the First Book of Samuel, is set against a backdrop of political turmoil. David, the young anointed successor to King Saul, is a man on the run. Once a celebrated hero for slaying Goliath, he is now the target of a jealous monarch’s murderous rage. His flight from the royal court leads him to a place of last resort: the Cave of Adulam.

This was not a chosen headquarters but a sanctuary of necessity. It was dark, hidden, and undignified. Yet, it was here, in this place of perceived defeat, that the most critical phase of David’s leadership development began. The Cave of Adulam represents the essential, often overlooked, stage of incubation that precedes true and sustainable emergence.

The Crucible of the Discontented

The first and most telling event at Adulam is the composition of its inhabitants. The biblical text states:

“Everyone who was in distress, and everyone who was in debt, and everyone who was discontented gathered to him. So he became captain over them. And there were about four hundred men with him.” (1 Samuel 22:2)

This is not the recruitment drive of a conventional leader. David does not attract the elite, the wealthy, or the well-connected. Instead, his first followers are society’s cast-offs—the distressed, the indebted, and the deeply discontented. This motley crew, however, is the raw material from which a new kind of kingdom will be forged.

From Misfits to a Mission-Driven Force:
A lesser individual might have seen only a burden in this collection of broken men. David saw potential. His first act as their “captain” was not to lead them into battle, but to provide for their most basic needs. He secured the safety of his own family there and, later, sought provision for his men from a local landowner, showing a concern for their welfare that Saul had long abandoned for his own troops.

This act of provision transformed a random group of fugitives into a community. Their shared distress became a shared identity, and their loyalty shifted from self-preservation to the man who offered them dignity and purpose. David began the process of reframing their narrative: they were not merely outcasts; they were the vanguard of a new, righteous cause.

The Discipline of Constraint and Strategic Patience

The cave was a place of severe constraint. There was no room for grandstanding, no resources for lavish campaigns. This forced limitation bred a unique form of strategic intelligence. David’s actions immediately after Adulam demonstrate this shift. He moves his parents to the safety of Moab, showing foresight and familial responsibility. He then takes direction from a prophet, Gad, and operates with careful, calculated movements.

Most importantly, the cave incubated the virtue of patience. On two separate occasions (at En Gedi and in the wilderness of Ziph), David had clear opportunities to kill Saul and seize the throne by force. Yet, he refused. The time in hiding had taught him that a crown taken prematurely is a crown built on sand. His famous words, “The Lord forbid that I should do such a thing to my master… for he is the anointed of the Lord,” reveal a leader who had internalized a higher authority than his own ambition.

This restraint, forged in the darkness of the cave, was what distinguished him from Saul. It was a strategic and spiritual patience that would become the bedrock of his enduring legacy.

The Alchemy of Authentic Leadership

Within the confines of Adulam, leadership could not be based on title or ceremony. It had to be authentic. David’s authority was earned through daily acts of courage, wisdom, and compassion. It was here that he began to write, and his psalms from this period (e.g., Psalm 57, Psalm 142) offer a window into his soul.

“I cry out to the Lord Most High, to God who fulfills his purpose for me.” (Psalm 57:2)

These are not the boasts of a warrior, but the laments and prayers of a dependent man. This vulnerability, paradoxically, became a source of immense strength. By acknowledging his fear and placing his trust in a purpose beyond himself, he modeled a resilience that was contagious. His men saw a leader who was both strong and humble, both decisive and dependent. This authentic humanity is what cemented their loyalty, transforming them into the legendary “mighty men” who would later form the core of his army and administration.

The Emergence: From Cave to Kingdom

The men who emerged from the Cave of Adulam were not the same ones who entered. They were no longer a discontented mob but a disciplined, loyal, and mission-focused unit. They were the “Thirty” and the “Three,” heroes whose deeds are recorded with honor. They had been forged in the fires of shared hardship and unified under a leader who had been tested and proven.

David himself emerged not as a fugitive, but as a king-in-waiting. He had learned to lead from the bottom, to value loyalty over status, to exercise power with restraint, and to build a community on a foundation of shared purpose and mutual care. The kingdom he eventually established was, in many ways, an expansion of the principles first practiced in the cave.

Leadership Lessons for the Modern World

The story of the Cave of Adulam is not a dusty relic but a timeless case study in leadership development.

1.     Embrace the Incubation Period: True leadership is often forged in seasons of obscurity, failure, or constraint. These are not wasted times but essential periods of preparation, where character is built and vision is clarified away from the spotlight.

2.     See Potential in the “Discontented”: The most loyal and innovative teams are often built not from the privileged, but from those who are hungry for change and value the purpose you provide. A leader’s role is to see the champion within the challenged.

3.     Lead with Provision and Care: Authority is first granted through acts of service. By securing the safety and well-being of his followers, David earned the right to lead them into battle.

4.     Cultivate Strategic Patience: The easy, quick path to power is often a trap. Sustainable leadership requires the discipline to wait for the right moment and to acquire power legitimately.

5.     Authenticity Builds Unbreakable Loyalty: Leaders who are transparent about their struggles and grounded in a purpose beyond themselves inspire a depth of commitment that mere charisma can never achieve.

The Cave of Adulam teaches us that the path to the throne room often leads through the cave. It is in the dark, confined, and challenging places that the most resilient and transformative leaders are incubated, ready to emerge not just to claim a title, but to build something that will truly last.

The cave of adversity is not a tomb for ambition, but a crucible for character. It is in the dark, confined spaces of retreat that the light of authentic leadership is first kindled, forged in the fires of shared struggle and strategic patience.

Adulam’s lesson: the crown is not claimed in the sun, but forged in the shadows. For it is only in the cave that a leader learns to see not with the eyes of privilege, but with the vision of providence.

Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke, AMBP-UN is a Recipient of the Nigerian Role Models Award (2024), and a Distinguished Ambassador For World Peace (AMBP-UN). He has also gained inclusion in the prestigious compendium, “Nigeria @65: Leaders of Distinction”.

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Police Smash 5-Man Robbery Gang in Lagos, Recover Vehicles, Arms, Others

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The Lagos State Police Command has arrested a five-member notorious armed robbery and vehicles theft gang, the National Association of Online Security News Publishers, NAOSNP can report.

The State Commissioner of Police, CP Olorundare Moshood Jimoh, who led a team of senior police officers, including Commander of Area M, Idimu, ACP Tokunbo Abaniwonda, Commander of Tactical and Anti Kidnapping Squad, to the Igando area of Lagos, where they apprehended the gang’s driver on Friday, confirmed the arrest

Addressing journalists at the driver’s residence, CP Jimoh stated that the house ‘behind me’ housed three suspects including the driver.

He also showcased the two vehicles recovered from the suspects, comprising one pump action gun (automatic), one English pistol, cartridges and charms.

The Command also successfully recovered stolen vehicles within Lagos and beyond over the last 10 days.

The successes achieved were triggered by a complaint lodged by a victim, leading to a comprehensive investigation that culminated in the discovery and recovery of five vehicles.

According to the Commissioner of Police, the suspects employed various tactics, including posing as passengers, to rob victims of their vehicles and belongings.

The CP has issued a warning to the public, particularly middle-level civil servants in the private and public sectors, who intend to transport passengers to supplement their fuel expenses, stressing that the practice poses significant risks, as unscrupulous individuals may pose as passengers to board their vehicles.

“It’s unfortunate that such tactics are being employed, but they can be prevented by rationing your fuel consumption within your means, rather than relying on transporting passengers to fund your fuel expenses, which is a perilous endeavor.

“I strongly advise the public to avoid driving without sufficient fuel, if you lack means to fuel your vehicle, it is wise to park it until your next salary,” the CP said.

CP Jimoh expressed appreciation to the IGP, Kayode Egbetokun for appointing him Commissioner in Lagos and providing necessary equipments for the Command.

He equally commended Governor Sanwo-Olu for his unwavering support for the command, and assured the citizens of adequate security in the state.

The CP further urged the public to report any suspicious individuals in their neighborhoods, particularly those who that their source livelihood are suspicious.

The gang’s driver, who has lived in the area since 2013, shared his ordeal and disclosed that he was paid N500,000 for each night’s operation.

A suspect, who was referred to as a pastor, explained that he was called pastor by the people, not because he was an ordained pastor, but due to the services he rendered.

“Initially, I was unaware that the incident involved robbery, as the vehicle was accompanied by customs papers,” the driver said.

Furthermore, Seyi, the owner of one of the recovered vehicles, whose complaint prompted the investigation leading to the suspects’ arrest, spoke to journalists at the Igando residence of the suspects.

He recounted how his vehicle was stolen around 9pm on September 7 while driving along Amikanle area of Alagbado.

“After stopping to pick up something, one of the suspects approached him, ordering him to lower his window,” he said.

Seyi inquired about the reason, prompting the suspect to produce a gun.

He followed the instruction, unaware that another suspect was on the other side of the vehicle, who then entered the car with a pistol.

“They took my phones, asked for the password, removed my jewelry and seized two iPhones and one Samsung phone.

“Following this, I was notified that they intended to take away my car, living me with no recourse, I was told to disembark and face a wall, upon compliance, I was uncertain of their intentions but thankful that they didn’t harm me, which led to swift escape.

“I am extremely pleased that the Police recovered my vehicle, I would like to express extend my heartfelt appreciation to the Lagos State Police Command, particularly the Anti Robbery and Kidnapping Squad, after the incident, in lodged a complaint, and I am grateful that they recovered my vehicle without requiring any payment.

“As soon as I arrived here, I was able to recognize one of the suspects involved in the attacked,” the victim narrated.

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NAOSNP Walks: Collaboration Between Lagos Command and NAOSNP, a Welcome Development – Lagos CP Moshood

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The Commissioner of Police, Lagos State Command, Moshood Olorundare Jimoh, has commended the relationship between his Command and the National Association of Online Security News Publishers (NAOSNP) as healthy, and a welcome development.

The CP made the remarks on Wednesday while flagging off the NAOSNP Walk against Drug Abuse, Cultism and Domestic Violence as part of events marking the 2025 NAOSNP Week.

Surrounded by security operatives, Association members, school children and members of the public at the Lagos Command headquarters where the Walk took off, CP Jimoh noted that under his watch, crime and criminality in Lagos State has been reduced to the barest minimum while urging residents of Lagos to continue to go about their daily activities without fear as the Command is fully ready and on the alert to nib any crime in the bud.

“No doubt the level of crime in the city is very low, but we are not resting on our oars and that’s why we are engaging stakeholders like the Online Publishers in Lagos to ensure we are on the same page to further reduce the  level of crime in the state to the barest level. This is not to first time the Online Publishers as an Association is coming to us, and today’s own is very remarkable, and is sending a message to Lagosians out there that this is the right way to go, and to criminals and would-be criminals that crime does not pay” CP Jimoh.

The Lagos Police Command boss also sounded a note of warning to criminals and wannabe criminals that their time is up as they would be caught.

While pledging the Command’s continued support for NAOSNP and lauding the Association as a group of note, the CP declared the Walk open.

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