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Food for Living: Taking Advantage of Mistakes and Failures

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By Henry Ukazu

Dear Destiny Friends,

Nobody is a above mistakes, so goes the popular saying. And everyone, living or dead, has at one time or another, made a mistake or failed in certain undertakings. This however, has nothing to do with how perfect one is, or may try to be, or even how lousy or unprofessional someone is. Even known perfectionists have been humbled by their own mistakes. But nobody should be subdued by their mistakes or failures because they are not as bad as they are viewed. They are actually stepping stones to greatness if well harnessed.

The only person who hasn’t made a mistake in life is the person who isn’t doing anything. Isn’t it true that the more you strive, the more opportunities come to you. When you make a mistake, it simply means you are doing something, and you are learning.

We have all, at certain times and levels, made mistakes in our businesses, academics, relationship/marriage, profession/vacation and even in our personal lives. Mistakes and failures go pari pasu. Failure is the aftermath of uncorrected mistake. When you fail and refuse to stand up, the failure will define you. The same way a mistake will only define you if you don’t learn from it. It’s quite unfortunate some people allow their mistakes to define them.

Did you know that a single mistake can lead to a major mistake that can set one back. Imagine having a resourceful person in your life, instead of learning from the person, you decide to beg the person for money. Imagine also, you are driving, and you miss an exit, one may have to reroute to the next available route to get back on track.

If you have made a mistake, please don’t be hard on yourself. The mistake can be a set up for success. Sometimes, we feel we have lost an opportunity, but we fail to understand that the mistake was orchestrated by the divine because you never know what’s likely to happen in the near future.

The journey to a fruitful life is not really a smooth ride. One will encounter mistakes and failures along the way. The experience one encounters is used to test the character of the person in addition to strengthening them when they fail.

One of the best ways to capture the relativity of mistakes and failures was captured by Dr. Yomi Garnett, an accomplished ghost writer. According to him, “Anytime you fail, ask yourself these questions,; why did I fail? What lessons have I learnt? Am I grateful for the experience? How can I turn the failures into success? Where do I go from here? Who else has failed I this way and how can he help me?  How can my experience help others from failing? Did I fail because of another person, my situation or myself? Did I actually fail, or did I actually fall short of unrealistic high standards? In these circumstances, where did I succeed as well as fail”?

On a closer look of the above statement, one will decipher that both mistakes and failures are needed for success because they have advantages and disadvantages. It all depends on one’s understanding and approach to it. To put it in a more better perspective, see mistakes and failures like a pencil with eraser. When you fail or make a mistake in the journey to life, use the eraser to clean it and then begin again.

If you are intentional in achieving success; whenever you fail, and understand the cause of your failure, you will go to the drawing board to know where you missed it. When you discover the reason, don’t be hard on yourself, just pick yourself up and be grateful for the experience. Remember, if you don’t make mistakes, you won’t learn much. This is because a wise man learns from his mistakes, but a wiser man learns from other people’s mistakes so that he makes minimal mistakes.

One of the reasons people have failed and learnt from their mistakes is because they have accumulated so much practical experience. Imagine a person, who has failed in business or marriage, and is advising you on how to be successful in business or marriage; their advice will come from a place of experience. The same is applicable when they are advising you on what made them successful in their marriage or business. If you are smart enough, you will run with their words.

In our contemporary society, we tend to follow people who have only succeeded in their craft, and apportion little regard to those who have failed. A progressive and intentional mind will have a different mindset because they will know that whatever has the capacity to succeed also has the capacity to fail.

On a personal note, whenever I meet a resourceful person I adore, I always ask the person, what would you have done differently 20 years ago if you had the opportunity, or what has life taught you as well as what would be your advise to a young person who wants to succeed? All these are targeted to understanding the mistakes and failures the person experienced so I can learn and avoid it as opposed to focusing only on the reason they succeeded.

There’s no doubt circumstances, situations and human beings can contribute to the failure of anyone, but one thing is certain, we are responsible for our life because no matter what happens, circumstances don’t say who you are, they reveal who you are.

When you set high standards for yourself and fail, it’s not actually a failure per se, because you are trying to exceed expectations. Be positive and see the high standards as motivating yourself to do better as opposed to setting lower standards and exceeding expectations. The moral of this statement is for one not to be comfortable in their comfort zone.

In conclusion, if you are desirous of making an impact in the society, see mistakes, failures, and experience of life as life treasures. Remember, when you succeed, it is the failures, mistakes and your personal and professional experiences that will form stories. As a matter of fact, most people will be attracted more to your failures than your success because they will learn more from them.

So again, I will ask you, who has failed you, who has disappointed you, what mistakes have you made and learned from, and most importantly, how has your mistake and failures made you more efficient. In answering these questions, remember, don’t be hard on yourself.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design Your  and Unleash Your Destiny .  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Food for Living: Money is Everywhere

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By Henry Ukazu

Dear Destiny Friends,

We cannot underestimate money’s importance. Money is good. Money is a blessing. Money is a leverage. Money is a therapy. It’s worthy of note that most people, who claim sick aren’t really sick; they are just in need of money. When a certain amount of money hits their account, they bounce back to life.

To show you how powerful money is, somebody once jokingly said, “Money can bring a dead man back to life”. There’s no doubt, money is good. Whoever tells you money is not good is from the pit of hell. Even the Book of Life says in Jeremiah 29:11, “My plan for you is to prosper in be in good health”. God, in his infinite wisdom, knowledge, and understanding, wants us to prosper because when we prosper, it helps to spread the gospel of the kingdom of God.

Think about it for a minute: if one does not have money, how can one do good? Even the good Samaritan had to provide money for the traveler who was attacked by robbers and left stranded on the roadside. It’s instructive to note that at that point in time, what the traveler needed was support and not words. Assuming the good Samaritan didn’t have money, he wouldn’t have been able to assist.

So, we all can agree that money is good and not evil, like some naysayers do to justify whatever narrative they have in mind. Even the scripture says in 1 Timothy 6:10, “Money itself is not evil; rather, the love of money is identified as ‘a root of all kinds of evil ‘” The word we need to focus on is the love of money. This is where lots of people get it wrong: loving money is not a crime; rather, the process of acquiring the money. Some people have literally sold their conscience to the devil, and as such, they are careless about the process of getting the money. These people don’t care if they engage in fraudulent and inhuman activities just to acquire money, instead of diligently working hard and smart.

The Book of Life further states in Proverbs 22:7, “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender”. Do you see why we all must make money legitimately to avoid being slaves to unbelievers?

For the sake of clarity, this is not a gospel article; I had to use the Bible scriptures to pass on a message about the importance of money.

The focus of this article is to show you how we can make money. It should be noted that money is everywhere, and as such, we don’t have to struggle to make money. Just like sand and air are everywhere, money is also everywhere. The only difference is that money must be earned before we can get it.

To understand the theory behind money being everywhere, just look at every industry; you’ll see that some people are making money, while some people are not making money. Some people might be wondering why some people are making money, while others are struggling. Well, there are many reasons for it. Some may have developed themselves; some may be called to work in that industry as opposed to doing it for money, or it could be a case of someone who has understood the skill of doing the business.

Every profession has the capacity to attract wealth, whether you are a lawyer, doctor, engineer, mechanic, accountant, pastor, teacher, politician, entertainer, artisan, or even one who works for a non-profit.

It’s sad to see some people jumping ships because they feel it’s greener on the other side instead of maintaining their life and focusing on their craft. After all, just like our fingerprints differ, our destiny differs.

Let me share a practical example. When I arrived in the United States of America, the economy was in shambles. There were no jobs.  My late dad counseled me to read taxation law because, according to his friends, that’s the major that can secure me a job at the end of the day because human beings and corporations will always file taxes. My personal research also confirmed this to some extent.

It’s instructive to note that my late dad didn’t just love taxation because of the job security it may provide; his interest was primarily the monetary benefit he saw in one of my uncles, who is a tax practitioner. For the record, it was my uncle who convinced my dad to encourage me to study tax law, and that upon graduation I would make more money because I have a legal background as opposed to him, who has a finance background.

At the end of the day, I graduated, and the major began to irritate me because I wasn’t wired for numbers. It was only when I ventured into the social service and human capacity development space that I began to see great results in my work.

The moral of this analysis is to point out the importance of maintaining one’s lane because I have seen rich and struggling doctors, lawyers, engineers, entertainers, and artisans.

Furthermore, one can be in any state in Nigeria, Canada, the United Kingdom, the USA, and still make good money. While some people think they need to seek greener pastures in a foreign land, it’s important to note that while Canada, the United States of America, the United Kingdom, and Sweden, etc., have good economies, what works for one country might not work in another country.

Another point we should note is whether it is wise to travel abroad, because traveling is not for everyone. Some people might be better at staying in their home countries to develop or serve in different capacities, which they might be offered if they travel to developed countries. Moral: It’s better to be a king in your country than to be a servant in a different country.

Don’t get me wrong, Third World countries can’t be compared to developed countries; however, it should be stated that whatever has advantages also has its own disadvantages. When some people travel out, they might break even; some might regret why they traveled out because of the lifestyle, racism, and the associated rat race, while others may remain indifferent.

For me, the United States has been a blessing to me because it has afforded me the opportunity to publish three amazing trailblazers’ books, appear on television several times, meet globally respected people, and start a thriving human capacity development business.

So, it doesn’t matter where you are; what matters is for you to discover your path and the associated problems people are facing, then see how you can solve their problems. By doing this, money will locate you.

Furthermore, to make money, one doesn’t have to go to school. There are many professors who are struggling. Mr. Cosmas Maduka, a Nigerian businessman, philanthropist, and evangelist, who is the founder and chairman of the Coscharis Group, didn’t have a formal education. Today, he has employed professors and scholars to manage his wealth.

Also, there’s this group of people who pray their lives out in church, some trying to connect with a revered man of God for deliverance and prayer, instead of working on themselves and believing God for opportunities because, just like God is everywhere, money is everywhere. So, stay where you are and develop your craft and yourself.

In conclusion, as we all prepare to make wealth, it’s important to note we cannot make money on our own. I know we all love to make money; it’s instructive to note that despite all our efforts, knowledge, wisdom, connection, skills, capacity, competency, and capabilities, it’s imperatively important for us to look up to God and focus on him as the author and finisher of our life. We need divine intervention and support because it’s only God and him alone who has the power and capacity to grant us wealth, because he has the capacity, as stated in Sirach 11:29 (God can make a poor man to be suddenly and instantly rich). So, therefore, I will leave you with Deuteronomy 8:18, which says, “Remember then the LORD, your God, for he is the one who gives you the power to get wealth, by fulfilling, as he has now done, the covenant he swore to your ancestors”.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer, and author of Design Your Destiny- Actualizing Your Birthright to Success, Unleash Your Destiny, and The Six Pillars of Success. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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ADC Won’t Allow Itself to Be Rigged Out – David Mark

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National Chairman of the African Democratic Congress (ADC), Davis Mark, has said the party will adhere to electoral rules during the 2027 elections but will resist any attempt to manipulate the process.

Mark spoke on Wednesday in Abuja when the governing council of the Savannah Centre for Diplomacy, Democracy and Development, led by Olukayode Ariwoola, former chief justice of Nigeria, visited him at the ADC headquarters.

“We hold ourselves to the highest standards of good conduct as a political party. We will play by the rules,” Mark said.

“But we will not accept rigging or allow ourselves to be rigged out. We are committed to playing politics in a manner that promotes public confidence in democracy.”

The centre’s governing council, known as the council of the wise, was reconstituted in June to engage relevant institutions and political stakeholders towards fostering peaceful, free and credible elections.

The meeting with the ADC chairman was part of the centre’s ongoing engagement with political parties ahead of the elections.

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2027: Presidency Banks on Govs’ Backing to Return Tinubu

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The Presidency has expressed confidence that the growing number of governors backing President Bola Tinubu gives him a stronger political structure and an advantage over opposition candidates ahead of the 2027 presidential election.

The Special Adviser to the President on Policy Communication, Daniel Bwala, said this on Channels Television’s Politics Today, arguing that the political landscape has changed considerably since the 2023 election.

Bwala said the support of governors is significant because they control political structures in their respective states and could translate their backing for Tinubu into grassroots mobilisation ahead of the election.

“Since then, President Bola Tinubu has got how many governors on his side? The governors are the Chief Executive Officers of their respective states. They coordinate the structures of the State. These people say, ‘We are putting our goodwill, our resources, our structure, and our support to the President,’” he said.

He argued that the President’s political position has also been strengthened by people who have benefited from his administration’s policies, including beneficiaries of the Nigerian Education Loan Fund (NELFund), agricultural programmes, manufacturing incentives, CrediCorp and infrastructure projects.

Bwala said the developments constitute “facts, verifiable data” which, in his view, showed that Tinubu had made progress since assuming office in 2023.

He also dismissed suggestions that the administration’s confidence ahead of 2027 is based solely on divisions within the opposition, saying its record in office would form an important part of its campaign.

His comments came amid renewed debate over Tinubu’s popularity and the ability of the opposition to challenge his bid for a second term.

Bwala dismissed an assessment by The Economist that Nigerians may re-elect Tinubu despite disapproval of his administration, arguing that claims about the President’s popularity should be backed by representative opinion surveys.

“When you make a claim that Nigerians don’t like him, without saying, also, that there are a lot of people… one million families that the children have benefited from NELFund, you think they hate him?” he asked.

He similarly cited beneficiaries of agricultural interventions, support for manufacturers and CrediCorp, arguing that such groups should be considered when assessing public sentiment towards the administration.

On concerns over rising poverty and hunger, Bwala acknowledged that more Nigerians had fallen into poverty but attributed the hardship partly to the economic reforms undertaken by the Tinubu administration.

“More people went down to poverty, I acknowledge, I’m not doubting it. But there is a ‘but’ to it. Since when the reform started to today, we have made marked progress,” he insisted.

According to him, the reforms are necessary to address longstanding economic problems, despite the short-term discomfort experienced by Nigerians.

Bwala also defended Tinubu’s statement that Nigeria has moved from the “doldrums” towards prosperity, saying the President is not suggesting that Nigerians would suddenly begin experiencing prosperity from October 1.

He cited NELFund beneficiaries, subsidised healthcare, infrastructure projects and support for small and medium-sized businesses as examples of what he described as prosperity already reaching Nigerians.

“One million families whose children have benefited from the NELFUND programme, what they are benefiting is called prosperity,” he said.

“If you go to an environment or a place where there have been no roads or any form of infrastructure, and we have established infrastructure there, what has come to them is prosperity.”

Bwala further claimed that the opposition has lost several influential political figures who played key roles in their 2023 campaigns.

He said former Vice President Atiku Abubakar no longer has the support of governors who worked for his 2023 campaign, while Peter Obi has also lost some critical political allies.

“In terms of the other candidates who say he will not win, Atiku Abubakar lost close to 25 per cent of key people that you know around him. All the governors that worked for him that time are no longer with him,” Bwala said.

“Peter Obi lost 55 per cent of the critical people that carried his campaign; they’ve all disappeared. And some of them went to Atiku, some of them went wherever they could go to.”

He consequently expressed confidence in Tinubu’s prospects in the 2027 contest, saying the political support around the President was considerably different from what existed before the 2023 election.

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