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Food for Living: You Can’t Rush Success

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By Henry Ukazu
Greetings Dear Friends,
Human beings are generally impatient.  We always like to get things with little or no stress. It should be noted there’s a right way of getting things done as well as an efficient way. In order to make progress, one needs a structure, but more importantly, a process. According to Abraham Lincoln, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.”  That’s a process right there. Alternatively, you can say that’s a smart way of working as opposed to working hard.

Every living being needs success in life, but the question is what does success mean to you? To some, it means financial security, to another it means fame, to others it means mean having great children, family, good health, or even aligning with your creator spiritually. I personally think the greatest form of success is being able to understand oneself because it helps to measure growth and maturity. You can lie to others, but you can never lie to yourself.  Success is truly relative. One mistake people make about success is putting a limit or end goal to success.

True success has to be built and nurtured like a plant in order for you to reap its fruits. Just like a student has to take entrance examination or apply to a school, then read, do assignment and engage in order to graduate in record time. In the same way, an employee or entrepreneur has to learn the skills and theoretical and practical information in his trade before he or she will succeed. Even in marriage, nothing works unless both parties are deliberate and intentional in putting in the work by discovering who there are, their personalities, communicating to each other, and working towards to the success of their marriage before their marriage can work.

In a way, for you to attain genuine success, you must put in the desired work. There’s nothing like overnight success because process is required in life. A new baby can’t begin to crawl, walk and talk in day. Even in the spiritual realm, a new convert has to learn the ropes of being a born again Christian. There’s a reason process is required in life. It helps to bring in maturity and understanding.  When you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. In our society, many people tend to relegate the process of learning. They fail to understand you have to learn before they earn.

It’s quite unfortunate to know that many people think they can rush success. True success will come to you when you are ready. Sometimes, we have to prepare before we receive rewards and awards for our work. When you have a vision, you need to be strategic in your approach. You also need patience.

Sometimes, when you have challenges, it’s just for you to learn some lessons which will help to elevate you to the next level. The problem can even be a disappointment.  This challenge may help you to build and strengthen your character. It can even serve as litmus test to who you are. This is because circumstances don’t say who you are, they reveal who you are.

As human beings, one major flaw we have is that we fail to learn, relearn and unlearn in contemporary ways to develop ourselves in order to fit into what is expected of us in the real world.

When you rush through success, you’ll have problems in making decisions as supposed to the informed decision you would have made if you have given it deep thought in addition to reaching out to cerebral minds for their kind thoughts and opinions.

There are certain things you can’t rush in life, you need to grow in them, example, love, friendship/relationship, forgiveness, faith and trust.

Love

True love takes time, in fact you grow in love. One mistake people make in life is that they think love is enough to make life and marriage work; they fail to understand a lot of work is required. For instance, for a car to work, the engine must be in good condition, you must have a whipper if it rains, you need mirrors and gas/fuel amongst other requirements. That’s how marriage works. You need patience, understanding, money, communication, support etc.

Friendship/Relationship

A great relationship takes time to grow. Just like Rome wasn’t build in a day, a great relationship must be cultivated like a fruit. When you rush into it without growing through the process, you may lose some insights you would have seen if you took time to study your partner.

Forgiveness

True forgiveness takes time. As Christians, the bible book of life encourages us to forgive, but as human beings, sometimes, we find it hard to forget even if we manage to forgive. For true forgiveness to take place, we must heal from the wound.

Faith

Faith is another part of our being that takes time to grow. Life works with principles. The law of gravity states That whatever goes up must come down. Just like you can believe that your car will start when you switch on the ignition button, in the same way, your mindset ought to be fired up when you have done the needful in your academic, professional and spiritual life. That’s simply how faith works.

Trust

One of the greatest asset of friendship and relationship is trust. Trust is normally use to test loyalty. To earn trust, you must test it and build it. True test is earned and not bought. Our greatest prayer should be, may our loyalty never be tested. Trust doesn’t just occur, it takes time.

In conclusion, it is pertinent to note that that just like you can’t rush God and destiny, you cannot rush success. No matter how far you may try to get any position, even if you are connected to the resourceful mind in the organization, if the position is not for you and if the company is not in need of your skills at that particular time, you won’t get it. I will leave you with this word, don’t rush the process, good things take time.

 Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a mindset coach and self-discovery expert. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Food for Living: Do Not Be Envious

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By Henry Ukazu

Dear Destiny Friends,

It’s impossible for any mortal person to claim that he has not at one time or another felt envious. In other words, everyone somehow has wished they have something other people; friends, partners, siblings, colleagues or even family members, have. It is worthy of note that the Creator of heaven and earth designed the universe in such a way that everyone needs to depend on one another for survival. Nobody has it all.

While one person may be gifted in singing, another might be gifted in praying, healing, speaking or writing. Yet another might be gifted in playing soccer, while another might be gifted in sprinting, tennis, swimming, and more.

As a Human Capacity Development expert, I have come to realize that we all have different strengths and weaknesses. The mistake most people make is to chase what is not chasing them instead of focusing on developing themselves.

When you develop yourself, it will be easy for other people to appreciate and support you, but when you focus your energy on being jealous of what other people have, you deprive yourself of attracting blessings and opportunities to your life. As a Life coach, I always tell my tribe, major on your major and work on your weakness.

Envy is not only when one is jealous of what someone has, it also means greed when one is not satisfied with what one has. Isn’t it true that greed makes a rich man poor and contentment makes a rich man poor. It is important to note that you can’t attract what you hate. If you see anyone thriving, please if you can’t support them, please leave them the way you are instead of pulling them down.

One of the best ways to succeed in life is to know oneself. According to Socrates, “man know thyself”. When you understand who you are, you will understand what’s unique about you, and you won’t be concerned about the activities of others. The benefit of self-discovery is priceless. Self-discovery will help you to make the right choice, it will assist you to unleash your potential, and it will ultimately help you to be intentional with your life.

One of the reasons why envy is paramount is that we don’t practice gratitude and appreciation. Most often, we look towards what we lack instead of looking at what we have. There’s an adage that says, it is because the philosopher was too busy to get to the promised land that he forgot there’s a ditch in front of him and he fell inside. That’s the philosophy of envy.

It’s instructive to note that envy is not only deadly, but also “cancerous” because when it envelops someone, it blinds the person not to see the good in others. Envy, if not properly managed, can cause more than damage.

There was a story about two friends- John and Paul. John woke up one morning to a gleaming new model Toyota Camry in Paul’s garage. He went green with envy, and by the next day, he had the same brand of car in his own garage to prove a point. Unknown to John, he didn’t know that Paul’s car was a gift from his wealthy father-in-law. John on the other hand had to exhaust all his savings to buy his own car just to prove whatever point he had in mind.

At the end of the day, Paul was smiling well and living his best life, but John was experiencing financial challenges that threatened his marriage because of his pride and greed to prove a point. The moral of this message is to desist from competing   with people, rather compete with oneself by being better than you were yesterday.

One good reason why envy and covetousness are such terrible afflictions is because what is right for others may not be right for you. If your motivation is to have what others have, your decisions will be targeted at the wrong or goal. Your goal must be self-geared and not to keep up with the neighbors.

It’s instructive to note that we are not on earth to impress anyone, except God. Yes, it’s good to impress our boss at work, our friends, family members, mentors, and benefactors, etc., it should be done with moderation. What is important is for one to know the intention behind whatever they are doing. This is because when you try to please man, you’ll fail, but when we try to do the right thing, everything will fall in place.  According to Bill Cosby, I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone. Moral: Just do you and everyone will be fine because at the end of the day, those that care, don’t matter and those that matter don’t care.

In conclusion, as you journey towards life, please avoid envy, run from it and be satisfied with what you have.

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator.  He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny Design  and Unleash Your Destiny .  He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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WAEC Dismisses Viral Letter on Deployment of Security Personnel to Exam Centres As Fabricated, Fake

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By Eric Elezuo

A statement signed by the Ag. Head, Public Affairs, West African Examinations Council (WAEC), National Office, Yaba, Ms Moyosola Adesina, on behalf of the Head of National Office, has denied and dismissed a letter purportedly issued by WAEC, and making the rounds on the internet, as forged, fake and fabricated.

The statement stated categoricrally that ‘the Council has not issued any such directive regarding the deployment of security personnel to individual examination centers as described in the rogue letter.’

The Council urged schools and examination centres to disregard the letter and it’s content as ‘it did not emanate from the office of the Senior Deputy Registrar (Test Administration) or any other department within WAEC Nigeria’.

Below is WAEC’s statement in full:

The attention of the West African Examinations Council (WAEC), Nigeria, has been drawn to a fraudulent letter making the rounds in the media space.

The fabricated letter, dated May 27, 2026, bears the reference number L/SED/12/DIST/VOL. 4/460 and is addressed to “The Proprietor/Principal of schools.
The forged document falsely claims that the Council has finalized plans for a “comprehensive deployment” of personnel from the Nigeria Police Force and the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) to all WAEC examination centers across Nigeria, effective June 1, 2026. The letter also features a forged signature of the Senior Deputy Registrar/Head (Test Administration), Mr. S.D. Kum.

The Management of the West African Examinations Council wishes to state categoricrally that the said letter is fake, as it did not emanate from the office of the Senior Deputy Registrar (Test Administration) or any other department within WAEC Nigeria. Similarly, the Council has not issued any such directive regarding the deployment of security personnel to individual examination centers as described in the rogue letter.

Furthermore, WAEC recognizes that this letter is the handiwork of mischief-makers and fraudsters aiming to create unnecessary panic, disrupt the smooth conduct of the ongoing examination, and mislead school proprietors, principals, parents, and candidates.

On this note, school authorities, supervisors, invigilators, parents, and the general public are hereby advised to completely disregard the contents of the said letter.

The Council hereby wishes all registered candidates for WASSCE for School Candidates, 2026 the very best in their preparations for the examination.

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2027: Tinubu’s Daughter Alleges Foul Play in Lagos APC Primaries

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The crisis rocking the All Progressives Congress (APC) has continued to deepen, as the President Bola Tinubu’s daughter, Mrs. Folashade Tinubu-Ojo, on Wednesday, called for the disbandment of the influential Justice Forum and Mandate Movement groups over alleged manipulation of the party’s primaries.

Tinubu-Ojo, daughter of President Bola Tinubu, specifically faulted the conduct of the House of Representatives primary for Mushin Constituency I, Agege Constituency II, and Ojokoro, alleging that the mandate of aspirants in the constituencies was stolen and handed to “a non-winner”.

Speaking during the weekly meeting of market leaders and stakeholders at the Iyaloja-General’s office in Alausa, Ikeja, she condemned what she described as political shenanigans and warned against attempts to subvert the will of party members.

She also decried the alleged marginalisation of traders by political office holders despite their contributions to the growth and electoral success of the APC in Lagos State.

The Iyaloja General cited the cases of Mutiu Olaide Oladeebo in Agege Constituency II, Seye Oladejo in Mushin Federal Constituency, and Olotu Emmanuel Ojo in Ojokoro, insisting that the aspirants won their respective primaries convincingly before moves were allegedly made to alter the outcomes.

She said: “We have to cry out now; let the APC cancel Justice and Mandate Forums because our governorship candidate belongs to the Justice Forum.” Everybody is now joking at the Justice Forum because that is where our incoming governor belongs. Are we not Lagosians? When he becomes the governor, he will not be the governor for the APC alone; he has to balance it. Even when you are the governor, you have to lead both your friends and foes. It is saddening that when a Mandate Forum aspirant wins, he jumps to Justice Forum; it is saddening. It is a way of telling us that hard work doesn’t pay in politics.

“Something must be done on that because it is important.

We are sure that Seye Oladejo won in Mushin Federal Constituency and Olotu Emmanuel Ojo in Ojokoro won in Ojoroko with a landslide.

“In fact, we decided to calm down and see what they will do about it because we are ready to protest. We know they won the election and their mandate should not be given to somebody else.”

She urged APC leaders at the state and national levels to immediately investigate the disputed primaries and ensure that justice prevailed before final ratification of the results.

She warned that failure to address the grievances could worsen internal tensions within the APC ahead of the 2027 general elections.

Tinubu-Ojo declared that market women across Lagos remain committed to supporting the governorship ambition of Dr. Kadri Obafemi Hamzat and other APC candidates nationwide, but stressed that traders deserve recognition and political appointments in return for their loyalty and sacrifices.

She also urged President Bola Tinubu to acknowledge traders as critical stakeholders in national development.

Meanwhile, aggrieved APC members and supporters in Mushin have threatened mass protests if the alleged mandate of Oladejo is not restored.

The protesters accused leaders of the Justice Forum bloc of attempting to impose candidates and undermine internal democracy within the party.

“We know who won the election, and the mandate should not be stolen. We are ready to protest if justice is not done,” one of the protesters said.

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