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Food for Living: You Can’t Rush Success
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Every living being needs success in life, but the question is what does success mean to you? To some, it means financial security, to another it means fame, to others it means mean having great children, family, good health, or even aligning with your creator spiritually. I personally think the greatest form of success is being able to understand oneself because it helps to measure growth and maturity. You can lie to others, but you can never lie to yourself. Success is truly relative. One mistake people make about success is putting a limit or end goal to success.
True success has to be built and nurtured like a plant in order for you to reap its fruits. Just like a student has to take entrance examination or apply to a school, then read, do assignment and engage in order to graduate in record time. In the same way, an employee or entrepreneur has to learn the skills and theoretical and practical information in his trade before he or she will succeed. Even in marriage, nothing works unless both parties are deliberate and intentional in putting in the work by discovering who there are, their personalities, communicating to each other, and working towards to the success of their marriage before their marriage can work.
In a way, for you to attain genuine success, you must put in the desired work. There’s nothing like overnight success because process is required in life. A new baby can’t begin to crawl, walk and talk in day. Even in the spiritual realm, a new convert has to learn the ropes of being a born again Christian. There’s a reason process is required in life. It helps to bring in maturity and understanding. When you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. In our society, many people tend to relegate the process of learning. They fail to understand you have to learn before they earn.
It’s quite unfortunate to know that many people think they can rush success. True success will come to you when you are ready. Sometimes, we have to prepare before we receive rewards and awards for our work. When you have a vision, you need to be strategic in your approach. You also need patience.
Sometimes, when you have challenges, it’s just for you to learn some lessons which will help to elevate you to the next level. The problem can even be a disappointment. This challenge may help you to build and strengthen your character. It can even serve as litmus test to who you are. This is because circumstances don’t say who you are, they reveal who you are.
As human beings, one major flaw we have is that we fail to learn, relearn and unlearn in contemporary ways to develop ourselves in order to fit into what is expected of us in the real world.
When you rush through success, you’ll have problems in making decisions as supposed to the informed decision you would have made if you have given it deep thought in addition to reaching out to cerebral minds for their kind thoughts and opinions.
There are certain things you can’t rush in life, you need to grow in them, example, love, friendship/relationship, forgiveness, faith and trust.
Love
True love takes time, in fact you grow in love. One mistake people make in life is that they think love is enough to make life and marriage work; they fail to understand a lot of work is required. For instance, for a car to work, the engine must be in good condition, you must have a whipper if it rains, you need mirrors and gas/fuel amongst other requirements. That’s how marriage works. You need patience, understanding, money, communication, support etc.
Friendship/Relationship
A great relationship takes time to grow. Just like Rome wasn’t build in a day, a great relationship must be cultivated like a fruit. When you rush into it without growing through the process, you may lose some insights you would have seen if you took time to study your partner.
Forgiveness
True forgiveness takes time. As Christians, the bible book of life encourages us to forgive, but as human beings, sometimes, we find it hard to forget even if we manage to forgive. For true forgiveness to take place, we must heal from the wound.
Faith
Faith is another part of our being that takes time to grow. Life works with principles. The law of gravity states That whatever goes up must come down. Just like you can believe that your car will start when you switch on the ignition button, in the same way, your mindset ought to be fired up when you have done the needful in your academic, professional and spiritual life. That’s simply how faith works.
Trust
One of the greatest asset of friendship and relationship is trust. Trust is normally use to test loyalty. To earn trust, you must test it and build it. True test is earned and not bought. Our greatest prayer should be, may our loyalty never be tested. Trust doesn’t just occur, it takes time.
In conclusion, it is pertinent to note that that just like you can’t rush God and destiny, you cannot rush success. No matter how far you may try to get any position, even if you are connected to the resourceful mind in the organization, if the position is not for you and if the company is not in need of your skills at that particular time, you won’t get it. I will leave you with this word, don’t rush the process, good things take time.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a mindset coach and self-discovery expert. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
The Nigeria Democratic Congress (NDC) presidential candidate, Peter Obi, has denied asking Nigerians living in the United Kingdom to abandon relatives who depend on them for financial support, saying his message about hardship in Nigeria was distorted by political opponents.
Obi said he appreciates Nigerians in the Diaspora who make sacrifices to support their families at home, stressing that his concern is the country’s dependence on remittances to meet basic needs.
In a statement titled; “My Message Has Been Twisted”, posted on X on Tuesday, the former Governor of Anambra State clarified that he never asked Nigerians abroad to stop supporting their loved ones.
“I deeply appreciate Nigerians in the diaspora who work tirelessly and make enormous sacrifices to support their families back home,” he said.
“Their remittances pay for school fees, hospital bills, rent, and feeding expenses. Their patriotism and sacrifices deserve our profound respect. I never asked them to abandon their loved ones.”
Obi said his message was aimed at drawing attention to the economic conditions forcing millions of Nigerians to rely on relatives abroad for their survival.
“My concern is that Nigeria should not remain a country where millions depend on relatives abroad for basic survival,” he said.
“Our goal must be to build a nation that provides jobs, affordable healthcare, quality education, and economic opportunities for its citizens.”
He accused political opponents of misrepresenting his comments, insisting that his position is about addressing the causes of hardship rather than discouraging financial assistance to families.
“Political opponents may twist my message, but the truth remains clear: I am not asking Nigerians abroad to abandon their families. I am advocating for a Nigeria that will no longer abandon its own people,” he said.
The clarification followed backlash over comments Obi made during a town hall meeting with Diaspora supporters in Manchester on Sunday.
In a video that went viral, Obi urged Nigerians in the UK to think twice before giving money to relatives and others at home who ask them for financial assistance, arguing that such support could ease hardship without addressing its underlying causes.
“You have people at home in Nigeria today who are begging you for money. Tell them no!” he said.
Obi attributed the country’s economic difficulties to poor leadership, urging Nigerians abroad to encourage their relatives and friends at home to vote for leaders who would prioritise productivity and economic opportunities.
The Court of Appeal, Abuja Division, has dismissed the EFCC’s appeal and affirmed the ₦12 million compensation awarded to Dr. Monday Ubani, SAN, for his unlawful 21-day detention in 2019. The court also awarded ₦300,000 in costs against the Commission.
Ubani was detained after securing administrative bail for a client accused of jumping bail. Despite a court order directing the EFCC to release him conditionally or charge him with any alleged offence, the Commission failed to comply, prompting his lawyer, Chief Professor Mike Ozekhome, to institute a fundamental rights action in his favour.
On January 5, 2022, the Abuja High Court, presided over by Justice Sylvanus Oriji, ruled in Ubani’s favour. The EFCC appealed, challenging the trial court’s jurisdiction and the amount of compensation awarded.
In dismissing the appeal, the Court of Appeal rejected both arguments, holding that the compensation was justified and that the EFCC’s investigative powers do not permit arbitrary detention or disobedience of court orders.
The judgment reaffirms that law enforcement agencies remain subject to the Constitution and judicial authority. It also underscores the protection of fundamental rights, the limits of law enforcement powers and the consequences of unlawful detention.
Beyond the financial award, the decision highlights the responsibilities of sureties and the obligation of security agencies to obey court orders, making it a potentially significant reference in future fundamental rights litigation.
By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,
One of life’s most misunderstood concepts is the relationship between process and failure. When some people fail, they think they have done something wrong, but it could be that the person is experiencing the process, or their season has not yet come.
To understand this concept, let’s explain the two terms. A process is a series of structured actions, steps, or decisions taken in a specific order to transform input into a desired output or goal. Here are the key elements of a process
- Inputs: The raw materials, data, or starting requirements (such as ingredients, customer requests, or raw code).
- Activities/Steps: The specific tasks or decisions performed by people, tools, or machines.
- Trigger: An event or demand that kicks off the process (like submitting an order or launching an app).
- Output: The result, product, or delivered service.
- Owner: The person or role accountable for the outcome.
Failure, on the other hand, is the state or condition of not meeting a desirable, required, or intended objective. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, failure can result from any of the following:
- Omission or Neglect: Failing to perform an action that was promised, owed, or expected (such as a failure to pay on time or submit a report).
- System or Organ Malfunction: A situation where a machine, computer, engine, or bodily organ stops working properly (such as engine failure or kidney failure).
- Insolvency: A financial state of bankruptcy, such as the failure of a business or bank.
Having stated the above terms, one can decipher that process is a necessary tool for success. When a process is lacking, failure is inevitable.
I recently listened to a sermon by a Nigerian Pastor. According to the pastor, there’s something that looks like failure, but in a real sense, it is not failure; it is process. Sometimes in life, when we fail in business, examinations, careers, marriage, or even when our health fails us, the reason why they all happen is that we have failed to do the needful, or we need to go through a process.
Let me explain. Let’s say one has a business; if one has not taken the time to learn the trade very well, the person might fail for not learning a necessary skill required for the business, acquiring formal or informal education, or having a form of apprenticeship from a mentor, which might be all that’s necessary for the entrepreneur to succeed. This is what is called a process.
Also, a student will need to read, research, and do assignments to pass an examination. An employee will have to learn a job as an entry-level employee and work his way through to become the Chief Executive Officer. All this involves a process.
Marriage is not an exception. There’s no successful marriage without a form of mentoring or training. A man/woman must undergo a process of marriage counseling to learn about how to win in marriage. In this training, they will learn about communication in marriage, money in marriage, sex in marriage, money in marriage, and personalities in marriage
I strongly believe that there’s time for everything. There is an appointed time for everything. When something is not in its season, don’t expect to deliver. When one puts pressure, it’s bound to fail.
I can vividly remember what my most revered mentor, Dr. Yomi Garnett, counseled me on the importance of patience. A little background about the case: at that time, I had no job. I was working as a security officer. I tried to use my connections to secure a decent job, but it was very challenging. I reached out to Dr. Yomi, whom I call the sage because of his scintillating and rational wisdom. After ranting to him about my litany of problems, he said to me, “Henry, if you like, meet President Obama, Trump, etc.; if God is not ready to give you a job, you won’t get a job”. He went further to say, you can’t rush God. When the time is ready, God will align everything for you.
According to my mentors, there’s something God and the universe want me to learn. I must go through some process of refining for the task ahead. These refining processes might be preparing for the greater task by learning what needs to be learned, or it could be a case of God teaching me wisdom or something of value that will be useful to me in the near future which I may not be able to see now.
When I look back in retrospect, I can authoritatively say my mentor was right.
Sometimes in life, we prepare for the opportunities, while sometimes, we don’t prepare. We just learn on the job. But I honestly think it’s good to prepare before one embarks on any journey. That preparation is called a process.
To understand how the process works, do you know that if you plant corn in the season that is not the rainy season, you will believe it’s a bad seed, but no, that’s not the case because you planted the corn in the wrong season. Even the bible says there’s a time for everything.
Also, someone might finish university and become frustrated because he doesn’t have a job. What the person might not know is that their season is yet to manifest. It could also be that the student might need refinement, which comes with the process.
It’s instructive to note that when your season comes, nothing can stop it; there will be alignment, and the universe will work for you. What you did many years ago that failed to attract attention will begin to attract attention and draw you in.
Today, I pray, may you command attention in your season, not after your season.
Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the founder of Gloemi. He’s a Transformative Human Capacity and Mindset coach. He is also a public speaker, youth advocate, creative writer and author of Design Your Destiny- Actualizing Your Birthright to Success, Unleash Your Destiny and The Six Pillars of Success . He can be reached via info@gloemi.com
