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See 10 Reasons You Should Have Sex Regularly
Tope Omogbolagun
Sex is undeniably pleasurable. However, sex-related issues are among common reasons for disagreements among couples. Some partners don’t view sex as vital hence their failure to value its benefits to their wellbeing. Experts have noted that couples should handle sex matter well so they don’t become knotty in the bedroom.
Couples can learn from the 10 benefits of regular sex below to ignite their sex lives.
- Sex makes you hate your job less
Researchers have linked loving one’s job to having a good sex life. They said that good sex life can make one enjoy one’s less. The research published in the Journal of Management stated that good sex would not only stop one from hating one’s job, but also make one love one’s job more.
Oregon State University researchers asked 159 married employees to complete two surveys every day for two weeks. The participants noted how many times they had sex between the end of their work shift and the next morning. Then, in the afternoon, they answered questions about how happy and engaged they felt at their jobs.
People who had sex the night before work were more likely to immerse themselves at their jobs and enjoy their time in the office the next day than those who didn’t make time for sex, the researchers found.
The researcher said, “ This might happen because sex produces a significant ‘morning positive effect.’ Meaning all of the good feelings associated with sex mainly stemming from feel-good chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine carried over and produced a nice mood boost the next day, too.”
- Sex lowers your cancer risk
According to a study from the Boston University of Public Health, frequent ejaculation lowers prostate cancer risk in men, Health24.com stated.
Researchers surveyed nearly 32,000 men about their ejaculation frequency and followed them up for 18 years. They found that men between age 20 and 29 were 19 per cent less likely to be diagnosed with prostate cancer if they ejaculated 21 times or more each month compared to guys who didn’t ejaculate as often.
The benefit was even greater for older men; men 40 to 49 who met the same ejaculation standards saw a two-per cent reduction in their prostate cancer risk.
The study authors said frequent ejaculation might play a part in clearing out any cancer-causing infections that could develop within one’s prostate. It boosts the immune system and lowers the risk of prostate and breast cancer.
- Sex helps you sleep better
Suffering from insomnia? Don’t overwork yourself. Sex increases one’s heart rate which then helps the body to relax. Feel-good hormones are released during sex, in turn, promoting better sleep and rest. This is one of the major benefits of sex in marriage.
Sex has also been linked to good sleep by some medical experts. One of such is a men’s health sleep advisor, Dr Chirstopher Winter, who said orgasm helped one to sleep better.
He said, “Sex primes you for the perfect snooze by making you feel super relaxed, thanks to oxytocin’s stress-reducing effects. But oxytocin isn’t the only hormone that floods your system after orgasm. Your body also releases a hormone called prolactin, which suppresses dopamine, a neurotransmitter that helps you feel awake.
“Also, if you are having sex in the dark, your body will think it’s time for bed. So that sparks the release of melatonin, a hormone that makes you feel sleepy and tells your body it’s time to rest. The combination of those three hormones makes you sleep in no time.”
- Frequent sex may protect your heart
After following more than 100 men for an average of 16 years, researchers found that men who had sex two to three times per week had a significantly lower rate of cardiovascular disease than men who only had sex a few times a month or less, according to a study published in the American Journal of Cardiology.
There are some theories as to why that could be, according to the researchers. For one, sex contributes to the physical activity needed to protect one’s heart, Healthline.com stated.
The American Heart Association recommended 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week, so regular outdoor exercise should be done in addition to what one does in the bedroom. Besides, it noted that if one was having frequent sex, one would more likely to be in an intimate relationship.
The researchers, however, put a caveat to this, saying if a person had cardiovascular problems in the past, such person should probably wait to have sex until their heart issues returned to normal.
“Talk to your doctor before you do the deed, especially if you are on medication,’’ the researcher added.
A supportive partner makes for a happier heart– physically and emotionally by easing your stress levels. That’s a win for your ticker. Too much stress can cause a heart attack or stroke by increasing the amount of inflammation in your body, a research from Harvard Medical School found.
- Sex helps your penis perform better
A study published in the American Journal of Medicine stated that having sex keeps manhood strong. It stated that men don’t have to use the weapon often to notice the benefits.
In a five-year Finnish survey of nearly 1,000 men aged 55 to 75 years old, those who had sex once a week were half as likely to develop erectile dysfunction than men who did less often.
Supporting this study, a medical doctor, Juha Koskimäki, said, “An erection delivers crucial amounts of oxygen to your penis. Low oxygen levels can cause scar tissue to develop, which can make it difficult to get hard. But if you’re going through a dry spell, remember that other factors you’re in control of – like smoking and inactivity also raise your erectile dysfunction.’’
- Sex makes you happier
It’s normal to be excited and happy after orgasm but that’s not all to it. There are also scientific reasons why one experiences bliss after having great sex.
Scientists explained that the body is flooded with oxytocin, a stress-reducing hormone a few minutes after one climaxes. “This makes one feel relaxed, happy, and closer to one’s partner afterward,’’ the scientist added.
A sex researcher at Indiana University, Dr Debby Herbenick, said, “Since your oxytocin levels stabilise 10 minutes after you orgasm, try cuddling post-coitus to keep the good vibes going. Oxytocin can be released not only during intercourse but also during close touching.”
Also, a lead researcher of a Canadian study on how sex makes one happier, Dr Robin Milhausen, said, “Not cuddling is the biggest mistake you make in bed, the woman is more likely to find the experience pleasurable if you spend six to 10 minutes cuddling with her afterward. She also gets a rush of oxytocin after orgasming, which makes her crave more affection. Simply playing with her hair, rubbing her back or resting her head on your chest can help her get that.”
- Sex makes you look younger
A clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, Dr David Weeks, said his extensive research had found older men and women with an active love lives looked five to seven years younger than their actual age.
He said, “But you don’t have to be at it every night to enjoy youth-enhancing effects. In fact, during my 10-year study, I found the quality was as important as quantity, with the anti-ageing benefits stronger if the sex was classed as loving.”
- Sex might relieve your headache
An orgasm might act as a natural pain-reliever, according to a 2013 German study. Your brain is bombarded with endorphins; neurotransmitters that produce a feeling of pleasure and pain relief-during sex, so researchers wanted to find out if having sex while one’s head was aching might ease the pain.
As published in Health24.com, they surveyed nearly 300 people with migraines and more than 60 with cluster headaches who had sex during an episode and found that 60 per cent of migraine sufferers and 37 per cent with cluster headaches said they felt better afterward.
- Sex makes your relationship better
It is often believed that sex makes relationships last longer but there’s more to mentioning it on the surface. A study from the University of Toronto Mississauga said having sex once a week kept lovers happy.
The research stated that having sex more than once wouldn’t make one happier so sex once in a week is what one needed to make one relationship more lively, healthier and better.
Also, a study published in the Association for Psychological Science, said all the happy feelings experienced after sex could last up to 48 hours for couples, which keeps their bond going strong long after the completion of the session.
- Sex burns kilojoules
A biostatistician at the University of Alabama at Birmingham, David Allison, found that the average person burnt a mere 21 calories during average sex session. He discovered that sex lasted six minutes on average, noting that the energy output equated to a paltry 20 or so calories, about the same as walking.
However, if done with enough gusto, sex could still count as ‘significant exercise’, the Quebec researchers said, reporting in the journal Plos One.
“The level of intensity that is exerted from sexual activity could be higher than that of walking at (4.8km/h) but less than that of jogging at (8km/h),” the researchers wrote in the study.
The researchers, from the University of Quebec at Montreal, looked at 21 heterosexual couples aged between 18 and 35. The average recorded session lasted 24.7 minutes – the shortest being 10 and the longest 57 minutes. During four sex sessions at home, couples wore a SenseWear armband that tracked their energy expenditure. They also answered questions on how tired they were afterwards, how much effort they put in and how much they enjoyed it.
Participants previously underwent a half-hour treadmill test so the researches could measure how many calories they burned during exertion-and then compared the readings from the armband worn during sex. Men, for example, burned 9.2 calories per minute on the treadmill – but 4.2 in the bedroom. For women, this fell to 7.1 calories while jogging.
By Tolulope A. Adegoke, PhD
“True leadership is not the exercise of one’s own power, but the stewardship of a power that is divinely bestowed. We do not conquer by our own hand, but through a grace that guides it. I therefore pause to say thank You, God Almighty: My Source, My Owner, My Helper, and My All in all” – Tolulope A. Adegoke, PhD
In the grand theater of human endeavor—from the halls of global corporations to the quiet labs of research scientists, from the strategic command centers of nations to the intimate classrooms shaping young minds—we are conditioned to celebrate the visible. We laud the innovative strategy, the decisive action, the brilliant intellect, and the relentless work ethic. These are the pillars upon which we believe success is built.
Yet, this focus on the tangible is to admire the grand facade of a cathedral while remaining oblivious to its unseen foundation. Today, we must pause to acknowledge the bedrock upon which all human achievement truly rests: the sovereign and sufficient grace of God Almighty. It is a profound and humbling truth that cuts across every culture, sector, and stratum of society: We lead, innovate, heal, govern, and ultimately conquer, not primarily because of our own merit, but because of the divine grace that empowers our efforts and crowns them with favor.
- The Universal Law of Received Power
The principle of grace dismantles the modern myth of the “self-made” leader. In physics, no system creates its own energy; it merely transforms energy from an external source. So it is with human achievement. Our skills, our intelligence, and even our very breath are not self-generated; they are gifts bestowed.
- In Business and Innovation: A CEO may possess sharp acumen, but it is grace that orchestrates a chance meeting with a pivotal partner, sparks a moment of breakthrough innovation when logic has failed, and grants the wisdom to navigate an unforeseen market collapse. The idea that became a billion-dollar company did not emerge from a vacuum; it was a spark of insight granted to a prepared mind—a mind that itself was a gift.
- In Science and Medicine: A researcher dedicates decades to a problem, yet the final, elegant solution often appears as a flash of intuition—a “Eureka!” moment that feels less like a construction and more like a revelation. The healing of a patient, despite the most advanced protocols, often involves an inexplicable, supernatural turn toward recovery that humbles the most brilliant physicians. This is grace in the laboratory and the clinic.
- In Governance and Nation-Building: A political leader may craft a perfect policy, but its success depends on a thousand uncontrollable variables: the public’s reception, global economic tides, and the collective will of a people. When a nation avoids a crisis or emerges from disaster with renewed unity, it is not merely a political victory; it is a national testament to divine providence and restraining grace.
Our role is to diligently till the soil and sow the seeds. But the germination, the growth, and the harvest are miracles of grace. To claim otherwise is like a farmer boasting that he created the rain and the sun.
- Grace as the Antidote to Leadership’s Twin Poisons
Understanding this universal law is the most powerful strategic and psychological advantage a leader can possess. It serves as the definitive antidote to the two toxins that corrupt leadership: pride and despair.
- It Eradicates Destructive Pride: When success is internalized as a personal creation, it breeds an arrogance that isolates a leader. They begin to believe their own press, seeing subordinates as instruments and competitors as enemies. This pride inevitably leads to a fall. Conversely, the leader who sees success as a stewardship of God’s grace remains humble. They lead with a sense of awe and responsibility, knowing they are managing assets they did not create. This humility fosters collaboration, attracts loyalty, and enables course correction.
- It Prevents Paralyzing Despair: The weight of leadership can be crushing. Failure, criticism, and unforeseen crises can lead to burnout and cynicism. If a leader believes they are the sole author of success, then they must also be the sole bearer of failure. But when a leader is anchored in grace, setbacks are re-framed. They are not definitive indictments of their ability, but rather part of a larger, divine curriculum. This perspective fosters resilience, allowing a leader to get up after a fall, learn the lesson, and continue with renewed hope, trusting that the same grace that opened past doors can redeem present failures.
III. The Evidence of Grace in the Tapestry of Life
This is not abstract theology; it is observable reality. Let us trace the fingerprints of grace across the facets of our collective experience:
- The Wisdom We Claim: That moment of perfect clarity in a tense negotiation or a complex coding problem—was it not a gift that arrived precisely when needed? That was the grace of divine insight.
- The Doors That Opened: Consider the promotion that came from a departing superior you didn’t orchestrate, the investor who believed in your vision against conventional wisdom, the visa that was granted against all odds. These are not coincidences; they are the grace of divine favor.
- The Strength We Found: In our moments of profound exhaustion, grieving a loss, or facing immense pressure, did we not discover a well of fortitude we did not know we possessed? That was the grace of divine sustenance.
- The People We Encounter: The mentor who guided us, the team member whose unique talent complemented our weakness, the spouse who offered unwavering support—these individuals are not random occurrences. They are living, breathing manifestations of God’s grace in our lives.
- The Restraint We Experienced: The catastrophic mistake we were unknowingly prevented from making, the harsh word we were restrained from speaking, the disastrous partnership we were diverted from—these are evidences of a protective grace, operating silently behind the scenes.
- Cultivating a Posture of Grateful Stewardship
Therefore, the most critical leadership competency is not strategic planning or financial modeling, as vital as those are. It is the cultivation of a heart of gratitude. This is the lens that brings all of life into focus.
A leader grounded in this truth leads not as an owner, but as a steward. They understand that their organization, their nation, their talents, and their platform are on loan from a higher authority. This transforms their entire approach:
- Decision-Making: They seek wisdom beyond their own, praying for guidance and listening for the divine “nudge.”
- Resource Allocation: They manage people and capital with justice and generosity, knowing they are handling resources that belong to God.
- Legacy Building: Their goal shifts from building a personal monument to fulfilling a divine purpose, leaving a legacy that benefits humanity and glorifies the Giver.
Conclusion: The Conduit of Conquest
Let us then move forward with a renewed paradigm. Let us work with impeccable excellence, as if everything depends on us. But let us pray, trust, and give thanks, knowing that everything ultimately depends on Him.
Our skills are the conduit; His grace is the current. Our plans are the vessel; His providence is the ocean.
We are the conduits of effort, but grace is the current of conquest. To mistake the one for the other is the height of leadership folly.
The most dangerous leader is the one who believes they are the architect of their success. The wisest is the one who knows they are merely a steward, building upon a foundation laid by grace.
Our skill prepares the vessel, but only grace can fill it. Lead accordingly.
I pause to say thank You, To God Almighty—the unseen Architect of our triumphs, the silent Partner in our ventures, and the ultimate Source of every victory across every facet of life—we ascribe all wisdom, power, and glory. For it is by His grace that we are positioned, it is by His might that we persevere, and it is for His purpose that we ultimately conquer.
In Jesus Christ’s name, Amen.
Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke, AMBP-UN is a Recipient of the Nigerian Role Models Award (2024), and a Distinguished Ambassador For World Peace (AMBP-UN). He has also gained inclusion in the prestigious compendium, “Nigeria @65: Leaders of Distinction”.
Globacom, last weekend, drove home its strong position as Nigeria’s biggest supporter of culture as it registered another superlative showing at this year’s edition of Ofala Festival.
Held at the Ime Obi, Onitsha, this year’s festival featured the Iru Ofala on Friday and the Azu Ofala on Saturday. The two are the major ceremonies that make up the grand Ofala Festival, a time-honoured tradition of the people of Onitsha.
The Iru Ofala was Obi’s first public appearance after spending weeks in spiritual retreat and communion with the ancestors, in propitiation for the good of the land.
The Imperial Majesty’s appearance in his rich traditional attire and dance around the Ime Obi was significant and symbolic of his readiness to lead his people into a new year of prosperity. The Obi later sat resplendent as chiefs, titled men, and subjects paid homage to their king. Other top public figures also paid homage to the Obi at the event. They included the Minister of Art, Culture, Tourism and Creative Economy, Hannatu Musawa; the Deputy Speaker of the House of Representatives, Hon Benjamin Kalu; former Deputy Speaker, House of Representatives, Emeka Ihedioha; former Governor of Anambra State, Mr Peter Obi; Director General, National Council for Arts and Culture, Obi Asika, and several others.
The Obi lauded Globacom for its strong support for the Festival over the last 14 years. “We thank them for believing in us, and I trust that the mutual benefit that we all derive from the festival will continue to prevail,” the royal father said.
The Azu Ofala, which was the grand finale of the festival, was a time of thanksgiving, joy, and community festivity. The Obi again graced the occasion in a lighter, festive mood, as he received goodwill messages from dignitaries and visitors, including Globacom, the official sponsor of the festival.
Globacom made this year’s edition of the festival more exciting than ever by presenting prizes to various winners in the Ofala promo, which was specifically introduced for the people of Onitsha. The promo ran for four weeks before the Ofala festival and the eventual winners were presented with various prizes, including a brand new Kia Picanto, two tricycles (Keke), power generating sets, grinding machines and so much more.
The Kia car was won by Chidinma Esther Obi, a businesswoman in 33 area of Onitsha. An elated Obi, who must have been dreaming before the prize presentation came to life once she received the keys to the car from Onitsha royal chief, Chief Albert Ibekwe, the Odu Osodi, and Globacom’s representative at the event, Tochukwu Okechukwu.
For Tricycles, known widely as Keke, the duo of Ibeziakor Onyebuchi Anthony and Ejike Chiememma Gloria emerged winners. Several other winners of power Generating Sets and Grinding Machines also smiled home with their prizes.
A Kuje Magistrate’s Court on Friday granted bail to a former presidential candidate and activist, Omoyele Sowore; a member of the legal team representing the Nnamdi Kanu, the detained leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB), Aloy Ejimakor; the IPOB leader’s brother, Prince Emmanuel Kanu; and ten others, in the sum of ₦500,000, with two sureties in like sum.
According to the Punch reports, all thirteen defendants were arrested and arraigned before the court for inciting public disturbance and breach of peace in connection with the #FreeNnamdiKanuNow protest held on Monday, October 20, in Abuja.
While Ejimakor, Emmanuel and the other ten defendants were arrested during the protest and later remanded at the Kuje Correctional facility, Sowore was apprehended on October 23 at the premises of the Federal High Court in Abuja while on a solidarity visit to Kanu.
