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Food for Living: The Power of Words

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By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,

“You can change the course of your life with your words.” Anonymous

Every one of us has the power to shape not only our life but the life of the people around us. As a parent, you have the power to speak life into your unborn and living child. Nobody has the power to influence their life more than you. As a spouse, you have the power to speak life into your spouse’s life regardless of what they are hearing outside, what you say to them matters more. That’s why as a married man/woman, it’s always better to mind the words you use against your partner when you are angry. The same is applicable to anyone who is angry. When you utter such words, even though you may reconcile with your partner/friend, the words will still create a hole or wound in the heart of your partner/friend. That’s why it is advisable not to mix your words with your mood when you are angry, you can change your mood, but you can’t take back your words.

Even if you have a misunderstanding with anyone, raise your word, not your voice. Uninformed minds don’t realize that the tongue has no bones but is capable to break a heart. According to Pearl Strachan Hurd “Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.” Can you see how powerful and dangerous words can be? Each and every one of us is already going through stress and don’t need more stress, so it’s always good to leave one kind word on anyone you see. This is because one kind word can change someone’s entire day.

Do you know there’s power in words?  Yes, this is because one of the most powerful force in the world is words. Even the Book of life made use to understand that, it is not what enters the mouth of a man that defiles a man, but what comes out of the mouth of a man. Do you know that the right words of words have a way of evoking emotions when used at the right time and right place?

The power of words cannot be overemphasized. As a man trying to woo a lady, you must have the right words to soften her heart. That’s why Gary Chapman stated “Words Affirmation” in his book “The Five Love languages as one of the love languages. Furthermore, when communicating with anyone, you need to know how to approach the conversation be it friendship, business, academic, spiritual, association, mentor/mentee, or even family. Your inability to use the right words can either make or mar your relationship.

Just to let you know how powerful words are, do you know when you speak, the walls hear your utterance, the ground stamps it and the air carries it.  According to Lao Tzo, “watch your thoughts they become your words, watch your words they become your actions, watch your actions, they become your habit and watch your habit, they become your character, and watch your character, they become your destiny”. There are many instances of people who understood the power of words and used it to their advantage. It’s quite unfortunate, some uninformed, minds have attracted negative force into their life without knowing. These sets of people use words like I’m ugly, I’m broke, I’m not smart, I can’t make it, life is against me, etc on themselves.  Even if you feel a certain way, quit uttering such words, don’t spit them out, let them die inside of you. The universe has a way of bringing them back to you later in life without you knowing. That’s why it’s always good to choose your words wisely.

To utilize the right words of words, always speak from your heart. When you speak from your heart, words can have great force. Words are deep and can carry deep emotions. Words are used to express how we feel emotionally. For instance, most ladies speak with emotions, while the majority of men are logical with their words. Words can be used to describe our thought process, our experience in life at the events we attend, and the people we meet.

As a way of advice, it’s always better to choose your words carefully before you utter them to others because you can’t take them back when it goes out. So, before you speak, chew your words by listening to yourself.  I can vividly remember words that were used on me by my “supposed mentors” during my formative years in America, each time I reminiscence those words, I always smile because the biggest revenge is success.  Due to my bad and horrible writing skills, one of my “supposed mentors told me “she has to be hard on me” another once told me “I will go back to Nigeria” because according to her, she doubt if I will be able to compete with the system in America. Guess, what, by the special grace of God, I have now an acclaimed author, but more than that, I’m a creative writer whose works have been published in my international and print media.

I’m not trying to boast about my accomplishment, rather, what I’m trying to say is that nobody, and I repeat nobody knows tomorrow. That’s life for you. The child of a certified pauper can become a man of means tomorrow if properly educated. That life is unstable for you now does not mean that’s how it will be forever, provided you are doing your best to improve, trust me, the universe has a way of connecting you to the right people if you have the right attitude and do what you are supposed to do.

Nobody has the power to make your life better more than you. That’s why it’s very important you speak life into your life. Even though your parents, friends, spouse, mentors, etc. speak life into you, the words you speak to yourself matter most and if they speak negativity into your life, you still have the power to change it by not listening to their words. Affirm to yourself what you want to become.

In conclusion, I will leave you with great quotes to inspire you on the power of words.

“Words can inspire and words can destroy”. Robin Sharma

“Your words have power use them wisely.” Anonymous

“The meaning behind the words, the feeling is more significant than the words themselves, so listen.” Anonymous

“Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.” Blaise Pascal

“Your words become your world.” Nadeem Kazi

“The mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Anonymous

“May every word that is ever spoken by our mouths be words that lift up, and never words that tear down.” Anonymous

“Never underestimate the power of words to heal and reconcile relationships.”

Jackson Brown

“Beautifully crafted words have the power to captivate the mind of anybody.”

Sam Veda

“Your words carry amazing power. So when you speak make sure you uplift someone and never put them down.” Anonymous

“There is power in words. What you say is what you get.” Zig Ziglar

“Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out.” Anonymous

“Words have the power to make things happen.” Frederick Buechner

“A few nice words can help a person a lot more than you think.” Anonymous

“Our words have creative power. With our words, we can speak blessings over our future.” Joel Osteen

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a Human Capacity & mindset coach. He’s also a  public speaker. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of gloemi.com. He can be reached via info@gloemi.com

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Several Missing As Boat Carrying 70 Passengers Capsizes in Benue

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Several persons have so far been missing after a wooden boat carrying more than 70 mourners and over 30 motorcycles overturned while crossing the River Katsina-Ala in Buruku Local Government Area of Benue State.

The incident reportedly occurred around 11am on Saturday, October 3, 2026, at the Buruku River crossing point.

The passengers, most of whom were said to be from Mbayon in Gboko Local Government Area, were returning after attending the burial of a relative on the opposite side of the river when the boat capsized.

Several occupants were reportedly rescued from the water, while search and rescue personnel continued efforts to locate those who remained unaccounted for as of Saturday afternoon.

Reports said the wooden boat was severely overloaded with passengers and motorcycles before its engine reportedly developed a fault during the journey.

“The boat was overloaded with many people and over 30 motorcycles, and they were coming from the Logo LGA side of the River at about 11am when the incident happened.

“Many persons have been rescued, but as we speak, I cannot tell you the actual number of persons that have not been seen or rescued from the river because the search is still ongoing. But many persons have not been seen as we speak,” an eyewitness said.

The Chairman of Buruku Local Government Area, Raymond Zege, confirmed the mishap, explaining that the passengers were mourners from Gboko who had travelled across the river for a burial ceremony.

Zege said the boat was carrying more than 70 people when its engine stopped working in the middle of the return trip, causing panic among those on board.

“The victims were mourners from Gboko who went for a burial on the other side of the river.

“They boarded a boat which was overloaded with over 70 persons. In the middle of the journey the engine of the boat failed, and they became panicky.

“And they also ran into a heavy wave, and the boat capsized before the boat that was sent to rescue them got to them,” he said.

The council chairman said authorities had yet to determine the precise number of missing persons, although more than 60 passengers had reportedly been rescued.

“At the time we speak, we do not know the number of persons missing. So far we have not seen about six persons, but we have rescued over 60. Search and rescue operations are ongoing,” he said.

Zege urged passengers using the waterway to observe maritime safety guidelines, particularly by wearing life jackets during crossings.

He disclosed that the local government had supplied life jackets for people using the route, but said enforcement had sometimes been difficult because some commuters declined to use the safety equipment.

“People can be very difficult. There is a law, and we have provided life jackets for every commuter crossing that route. When they come and the maritime workers try to enforce the law, some commuters complain that they have health issues or that they do not want to share life jackets used by other people.

“We have provided the jackets, and the state government is also supporting efforts to ensure that maritime safety regulations are enforced,” he said.

The chairman further said maritime officials regularly conduct enforcement operations and urged commuters to cooperate with them.

“Sometimes the maritime officials come for enforcement, including at night. People should cooperate with them because the safety measures are meant to protect lives,” he said.

Meanwhile, the Benue State Commissioner for Marine and Blue Economy, Denis Iyaghigba, also confirmed the incident in a statement issued on Saturday.

Iyaghigba said his ministry had received preliminary information about the accident and appealed to relatives of the passengers and members of the public to remain calm while rescue teams worked to establish the number of people involved.

“I have received preliminary reports of an unfortunate boat mishap at the Buruku crossing point this morning, Saturday, 3rd October, 2026,” Iyaghigba said.

“I wish to assure members of the public, particularly families of those who may have been aboard the boat, to remain calm and await verified information from the appropriate authorities. No effort will be spared to ensure their safety.”

The commissioner said he had instructed boat operators and their union downstream to join the ongoing rescue operation.

“I have directed the boat operators and their union downstream to mobilise and assist in the ongoing search and rescue operation,” he said.

He assured that “further details will be communicated as the rescue operation progresses.”

As of the time of filing this report, rescue operations were still underway, with authorities yet to provide a final account of the total number of people aboard the boat or the confirmed number of those still missing.

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We Rise, We Shine: A Tribute to Nigeria at 66

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By Tolulope A. Adegoke

“Sixty-six lanterns lit, and not one flame asked permission of the wind. That is the arithmetic of this land—where the storm arrives first and the light arrives anyway. We were not handed a smooth road; we were handed feet, and feet have always been enough. What others call odds, we call the weight that gives our stride its meaning. So let the doubter keep his ledger of our failures; we keep a different record—one written in the stubborn grammar of a people who wake up, try again, and refuse to hand their tomorrow to anyone else. This soil does not owe a blessing to the mouth that curses it. Speak well of her, then, not because she is finished, but because she is still becoming—and becoming is the holiest thing a nation can do. We rise. We shine. Not after the storm—inside it.” – Tolulope A. Adegoke, PhD

Introduction: The Audacity of a Nation’s Hope

There is a peculiar kind of strength that is born not in the absence of hardship, but in the furnace of it. It is the strength that refuses to be extinguished by the storms of adversity, the strength that looks at towering mountains and dares to imagine a path over them. This is the strength that defines Nigeria. As we mark sixty-six years of nationhood, we do not gather merely to recount the ease of our journey, for the road has been anything but smooth. Rather, we gather to celebrate a profound and unyielding resolve: the decision to rise, and in rising, to shine.

The story of Nigeria is not a fairy tale of uninterrupted triumph. It is a complex, textured narrative of a people learning to govern themselves, of a federation of over two hundred and fifty ethnic nationalities striving to forge a common destiny. It is a story punctuated by growing pains, by moments of national introspection, and by challenges that have tested the very fabric of our unity. Yet, it is precisely within this crucible that the Nigerian spirit has been refined. We rise, not because we are oblivious to our challenges, but because we have made a conscious, collective decision to be resilient—to confront our difficulties head-on and to overcome them.

The Anatomy of Nigerian Resilience

Resilience is a word often used lightly, but in the Nigerian context, it is a lived reality. It is the trader in Onitsha who, despite economic fluctuations, opens her stall at dawn with a smile and a prayer. It is the tech entrepreneur in Yaba who, against the backdrop of infrastructural deficits, codes the next solution for a global market. It is the teacher in a rural community who, with limited resources, inspires a generation to dream beyond their immediate horizons. It is the farmer in the Middle Belt who, season after season, plants seeds of hope in a land that has known both bounty and bloodshed.

This resilience is not a passive endurance; it is an active, creative force. It is the ingenuity that birthed the mobile money revolution, the Afrobeats genre that has taken the world by storm, and the Nollywood industry that tells our stories to a global audience. It is the intellectual prowess of our scholars, the indomitable spirit of our athletes, and the creative genius of our artists. When we say “We Rise,” we are acknowledging this irrepressible energy. We are affirming that no challenge—be it economic recession, security concerns, or social unrest—can permanently dim the light of a people determined to succeed.

The Certainty of Our Arrival

We are a nation in a hurry, yet we must also be a nation with the patience of a farmer. The journey to national greatness is not a sprint; it is a marathon. We may stumble. We may take a wrong turn. We may even, at times, feel like we are moving in circles. But the crucial thing is that we are moving. We are learning. We are evolving. The mistakes of yesterday become the lessons that inform the policies of today and the vision of tomorrow.

It may take a while, but it is certain that we will get it right. This certainty is not borne of arrogance, but of an unshakeable faith in the Nigerian project. It is rooted in the knowledge that a nation of such immense human and natural potential cannot be permanently held back. Our youth, our greatest asset, are increasingly innovative, globally connected, and fiercely patriotic. They are not waiting for a perfect Nigeria; they are actively building it, one startup, one social movement, one creative work at a time. The trajectory may be zigzag, but the destination—a prosperous, united, and equitable Nigeria—is non-negotiable.

Nigeria Shines Against All Odds

To shine against all odds is the quintessential Nigerian story. It is to excel on the global stage when the home front is fraught with difficulties. It is the Nigerian doctor performing groundbreaking surgeries abroad, the Nigerian professor leading research at top universities, the Nigerian artist headlining international festivals. These individual and collective successes are not anomalies; they are reflections of a national character that is intrinsically brilliant.

The Nigerian diaspora is a testament to this. From Houston to London, from Toronto to Dubai, Nigerians are making their mark, contributing to economies, cultures, and knowledge systems. They are not just surviving; they are thriving. And in their success, they carry a piece of home with them—a resilience, a vibrancy, a hustler’s spirit that is uniquely Nigerian. This is the light that shines, a beacon of what is possible when the Nigerian spirit is given room to flourish.

A Word on Cursing the Land

There is an ancient wisdom that is deeply relevant to our national conversation: the land that you curse may not be empowered or capable enough to bless you in return. To constantly disparage one’s country, to speak of it only in terms of its failures and to ignore its immense potential, is to poison the well from which one must drink. Patriotism is not blind allegiance; it is loyal, constructive criticism married to a deep and abiding love. It is the difference between a prophet of doom and a partner in progress.

We must be careful with our words. Our words shape our reality. If we speak of Nigeria only as a cursed land, we sow the seeds of despair in our own hearts and in the hearts of the next generation. Instead, we must speak of a land of promise, a land of resilient people, a land that is worthy of our best efforts and our most profound hopes. The same land that some dismiss is the land that has produced some of the world’s most remarkable minds and most vibrant cultures. To bless Nigeria is to bless ourselves, for our fate is inextricably linked to that of the nation.

Sixty-Six Years: A Commemoration of Hope

Sixty-six years is a significant milestone. It is a period that allows for reflection on how far we have come from the hopeful dawn of independence in 1960. We have weathered civil war, military dictatorships, and the turbulent transition to democracy. We have seen our economy rise and fall with the vagaries of oil prices. We have faced the scourge of terrorism and the challenges of internal security. Through it all, the Nigerian state has remained, and the Nigerian spirit has endured.

As we celebrate, we are not celebrating a finished product. We are celebrating a work in progress. We are celebrating the audacity of a people who, despite their differences, have chosen to remain together. We are celebrating the promise of a future that we can build together. We are celebrating the fact that, in the words of our national anthem, “the labours of our heroes past shall never be in vain.”

Conclusion: A Blessing for the Journey Ahead

God bless Nigeria. This is not just a phrase; it is a prayer. It is a petition for divine guidance, wisdom, and protection over our land and our leaders. It is a prayer for the healing of our divisions and the strengthening of our unity. It is a prayer that we may be wise stewards of the resources and talents with which we have been so abundantly endowed.

As we step into the next chapter of our national story, let us recommit ourselves to the principles of resilience, hope, and hard work. Let us be a generation that builds bridges rather than walls, that plants trees under whose shade we may never sit, and that speaks life into our nation rather than death.

We rise because we must. We shine because our light is too bright to be hidden. We overcome because our collective will is stronger than any challenge. It may take a while, but the destination is sure.

God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Happy 66th Independence Anniversary!

Dr. Tolulope A. Adegoke, AMBP-UN, is a globally recognized scholar-practitioner and thought leader at the nexus of security, governance, and strategic leadership. His mission is dedicated to advancing ethical governance, strategic human capital development, resilient nation-building, and global peace. He bridges the worlds of academic rigor and practical application, contributing to leadership discourse at the highest levels of policy and practice. He can be reached via: tolulopeadegoke01@gmail.com, globalstageimpacts@gmail.com

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Edo Special Court Sentences Four Kidnappers to Death

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The Edo State Special Criminal Court has sentenced four men to death for their involvement in the kidnapping of a woman at the Vegetable Market along Airport Road in Benin City.

Justice Aigbona Momodu handed down the sentences after finding the defendants guilty on multiple counts connected to the kidnapping case.

The convicts are Marvellous Isaac, Wisdom Michael, Rufus Emete Michael and Gift Raphael.

Isaac and Michael were sentenced to death on counts two through nine. They also received separate prison terms on other counts, including seven years on count one, while Isaac was sentenced to 10 years on count 10 and life imprisonment on count 11.

Rufus Emete Michael was sentenced to death on counts two, three, four, six and seven, in addition to a seven-year prison term on count one.

The fourth defendant, Gift Raphael, was sentenced to death on counts two, four, six and eight and received seven years imprisonment on count one.

Delivering the sentences, Justice Momodu ordered that the death sentences be carried out by hanging or lethal injection, in accordance with the court’s judgment.

The court also ordered the forfeiture of a JoJef pump-action firearm and ammunition tendered as exhibits during the trial.

The firearm, identified as Exhibit M, along with two unused cartridges and two spent cartridges listed as Exhibits E and E1, was ordered to be handed over to the Edo State Police Armourer at the State Criminal Investigation Department for destruction.

Justice Momodu directed that the exhibits be transferred to the police through the Deputy Director of the Criminal Division and destroyed within 30 days.

The convictions bring to an end the trial arising from the abduction of the woman at the Vegetable Market along Airport Road, an incident that added to concerns over kidnapping and armed crime in Benin City.

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