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Food for Living: The Power of Words



By Henry Ukazu
Dear Destiny Friends,

“You can change the course of your life with your words.” Anonymous

Every one of us has the power to shape not only our life but the life of the people around us. As a parent, you have the power to speak life into your unborn and living child. Nobody has the power to influence their life more than you. As a spouse, you have the power to speak life into your spouse’s life regardless of what they are hearing outside, what you say to them matters more. That’s why as a married man/woman, it’s always better to mind the words you use against your partner when you are angry. The same is applicable to anyone who is angry. When you utter such words, even though you may reconcile with your partner/friend, the words will still create a hole or wound in the heart of your partner/friend. That’s why it is advisable not to mix your words with your mood when you are angry, you can change your mood, but you can’t take back your words.

Even if you have a misunderstanding with anyone, raise your word, not your voice. Uninformed minds don’t realize that the tongue has no bones but is capable to break a heart. According to Pearl Strachan Hurd “Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs.” Can you see how powerful and dangerous words can be? Each and every one of us is already going through stress and don’t need more stress, so it’s always good to leave one kind word on anyone you see. This is because one kind word can change someone’s entire day.

Do you know there’s power in words?  Yes, this is because one of the most powerful force in the world is words. Even the Book of life made use to understand that, it is not what enters the mouth of a man that defiles a man, but what comes out of the mouth of a man. Do you know that the right words of words have a way of evoking emotions when used at the right time and right place?

The power of words cannot be overemphasized. As a man trying to woo a lady, you must have the right words to soften her heart. That’s why Gary Chapman stated “Words Affirmation” in his book “The Five Love languages as one of the love languages. Furthermore, when communicating with anyone, you need to know how to approach the conversation be it friendship, business, academic, spiritual, association, mentor/mentee, or even family. Your inability to use the right words can either make or mar your relationship.

Just to let you know how powerful words are, do you know when you speak, the walls hear your utterance, the ground stamps it and the air carries it.  According to Lao Tzo, “watch your thoughts they become your words, watch your words they become your actions, watch your actions, they become your habit and watch your habit, they become your character, and watch your character, they become your destiny”. There are many instances of people who understood the power of words and used it to their advantage. It’s quite unfortunate, some uninformed, minds have attracted negative force into their life without knowing. These sets of people use words like I’m ugly, I’m broke, I’m not smart, I can’t make it, life is against me, etc on themselves.  Even if you feel a certain way, quit uttering such words, don’t spit them out, let them die inside of you. The universe has a way of bringing them back to you later in life without you knowing. That’s why it’s always good to choose your words wisely.

To utilize the right words of words, always speak from your heart. When you speak from your heart, words can have great force. Words are deep and can carry deep emotions. Words are used to express how we feel emotionally. For instance, most ladies speak with emotions, while the majority of men are logical with their words. Words can be used to describe our thought process, our experience in life at the events we attend, and the people we meet.

As a way of advice, it’s always better to choose your words carefully before you utter them to others because you can’t take them back when it goes out. So, before you speak, chew your words by listening to yourself.  I can vividly remember words that were used on me by my “supposed mentors” during my formative years in America, each time I reminiscence those words, I always smile because the biggest revenge is success.  Due to my bad and horrible writing skills, one of my “supposed mentors told me “she has to be hard on me” another once told me “I will go back to Nigeria” because according to her, she doubt if I will be able to compete with the system in America. Guess, what, by the special grace of God, I have now an acclaimed author, but more than that, I’m a creative writer whose works have been published in my international and print media.

I’m not trying to boast about my accomplishment, rather, what I’m trying to say is that nobody, and I repeat nobody knows tomorrow. That’s life for you. The child of a certified pauper can become a man of means tomorrow if properly educated. That life is unstable for you now does not mean that’s how it will be forever, provided you are doing your best to improve, trust me, the universe has a way of connecting you to the right people if you have the right attitude and do what you are supposed to do.

Nobody has the power to make your life better more than you. That’s why it’s very important you speak life into your life. Even though your parents, friends, spouse, mentors, etc. speak life into you, the words you speak to yourself matter most and if they speak negativity into your life, you still have the power to change it by not listening to their words. Affirm to yourself what you want to become.

In conclusion, I will leave you with great quotes to inspire you on the power of words.

“Words can inspire and words can destroy”. Robin Sharma

“Your words have power use them wisely.” Anonymous

“The meaning behind the words, the feeling is more significant than the words themselves, so listen.” Anonymous

“Kind words do not cost much. Yet they accomplish much.” Blaise Pascal

“Your words become your world.” Nadeem Kazi

“The mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Anonymous

“May every word that is ever spoken by our mouths be words that lift up, and never words that tear down.” Anonymous

“Never underestimate the power of words to heal and reconcile relationships.”

Jackson Brown

“Beautifully crafted words have the power to captivate the mind of anybody.”

Sam Veda

“Your words carry amazing power. So when you speak make sure you uplift someone and never put them down.” Anonymous

“There is power in words. What you say is what you get.” Zig Ziglar

“Be sure to taste your words before you spit them out.” Anonymous

“Words have the power to make things happen.” Frederick Buechner

“A few nice words can help a person a lot more than you think.” Anonymous

“Our words have creative power. With our words, we can speak blessings over our future.” Joel Osteen

Henry Ukazu writes from New York. He’s a Human Capacity & mindset coach. He’s also a  public speaker. He works with the New York City Department of Correction as the Legal Coordinator. He’s the author of the acclaimed book Design Your Destiny – Actualizing Your Birthright To Success and President of He can be reached via

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Coup: ECOWAS Suspends Burkina Faso



The West African bloc Economic Community of West African States has suspended Burkina Faso from its governing board on Friday.

This is coming as an aftermath of mutinous soldiers who forced democratically elected President Roch Marc Christian Kabore to resign.

This makes Burkina Faso the third member nation after Mali and Guinea to be punished for a military takeover in only 18 months.

On Monday, the soldiers went on state television to announce their military takeover of the country, which they said was under siege from armed groups. The military rulers said Kabore failed to stop the violence that led to the death of thousands of their citizens.

At the meeting where African leaders met virtually on Friday to discuss the Burkina Faso coup, it was stated that a delegation was expected to travel to the Burkinabe capital, Ouagadougou, in the coming days.

Ghanaian President Nana Addo Dankwa Akufo-Addo, the current ECOWAS chairman, called the recent spate of coups in West Africa “a direct violation of our democratic tenets. The rest of the world is looking up to us to be firm on this matter.”

The leaders are scheduled to meet next on February 3 in Accra, Ghana.

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Akeredolu Appoints Amotekun Commander, Adeleye, As Special Adviser on Security Matters



Ondo State Governor, Arakunrin Oluwarotimi Akeredolu SAN, has approved the appointment of Chief Adetunji Adeleye as Special Adviser on Security Matters.

A statement signed by the Chief Press Secretary to the Governor, Richard Olatunde, noted that the appointment takes immediate effect.

Chief Adeleye, who until the new appointment, was the Commander of the Ondo State Security Network (Amotekun Corps), will however, continue to function in that capacity.

The appointment, the statement noted, is part of the efforts of the Governor Akeredolu to further strengthen the security arrangements of the state, and improve the working relationship between government and security agencies in the state.

While congratulating the new appointee, Akeredolu charged him to double efforts in the fight against crime and criminal elements in the state.

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Olashore School Inaugurates Panel As Ex-Student Accuses Management of Complicity, Cover-Up



The Trustees of Olashore International School Association – Proprietor of Olashore International School (OIS), a private co-educational boarding secondary school in Iloko-Ijesha, Osun State, has inaugurated a Five-member panel of inquiry into an alleged sexual assault claim by an ex-student of Olashore International School Obiamaka Azubuike.

Ms. Azubuike had in December 2021 via a social media post alleged that she was 18 years ago sexually assaulted by 13 of her fellow students in the school. Azubuike who was a student of the school between September 1998 and July 2004 also in her allegation claimed that the school tried to cover up the incident when the case was reported to the school’s management and striped her of her prefectship.

The Five-man panel of inquiry is composed of the following members:
1)Justice Olusola Williams Rtd – Retired Judge of the Lagos High Court and serves on the Board of Mirabel Centre – Chairperson
2)Dr Alero Roberts – Lecturer, Public Health Consultant and serves on the Board of Corona Trust Council
3)Mrs Adeyinka Adefope – Educationist and Safeguarding Consultant
4)Dr Sade Olajubu – Forensic Psychiatrist
5) Mr Ebuka Ekeanyanwu – Legal Practitioner

The ex-student in her claims among other reliefs is demanding that;
• The school makes a publicly apology to her in print and on social media.

• Reinstate the records to show that she was a school prefect in the school and also grant a zoom ceremony where she will be awarded the honors she allegedly earned.

According to a statement issued by Mrs Olapeju Sofowora, Chairperson, Olashore International School Association, the panel which was inaugurated by the Association’s Board of Trustees is charged to examine what truly transpired 18 years ago and make recommendations as considered fit.

The panel is expected to commence sitting immediately and conclude their inquiry within 8 weeks.

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